Of all the dangers that we can introduce to our life, gremlins that cause doubt and self-sabotage are the most ugly. But they exist for a good reason. Nature destroys anything that doesn't link to our purpose in life, so, gremlins and self-sabotage are actually our deep way of changing course, even when we don't want to.
I was happily married. Or so I thought. Then I wasn't. Happy or married. It was a rude shock to me to become suddenly single. But then, with the benefit of a good psych coach, (can never do this stuff by yourself) I got to look in the rear vision mirror of the last 7 years of my life with my wife (ex wife). I'd injected so much energy in sabotaging that marriage mainly because I didn't have the wisdom, skill, heart or interest to leave. I was stuck in "purgatory" half way between heaven and hell. It was too comfortable to leave, too bad to stay. Shit, that is hell on earth. Anyways, 7 years later, the rocks fell, and I had to face my demons. Yuk...
I also managed to do the same with several business' that I'd outgrown. Instead of selling or handing over the reins to a better leader, I stayed with my hands on the business but fell asleep at the wheel. Horrible experience when, again with the help of a psych coach, I looked in the rear vision mirror of a great business I'd built and eventually run into the ground to see that I could have exited with millions$ if I'd seen clearly what I was doing to myself.
The thing about these situations that they and the many others that I've got in my resume have in common is the "gremlin" entered a perfectly good situation, started its work, and sabotaged what I'd worked for, and the irony is, I wanted it to in spite of vehement denials.
As a life coach my job is 50% to catch my client's gremlins. I can see them a mile off because I know those little buggers really well, having had so many. The thing about gremlins is this:
1. We never know we have them... they're such sneaky bastards that they almost camouflage themselves as normality... but they are not.
2. Their presence is always revealed to us in sleeplessness, weight gain, anxiety, unhappy feelings, and a strong sense of doubt about the future. These are the saboteurs of our success fully immersed in our life.
3. They enter through a single incident in the last chapter you wrote of your book and stay for a very long long time until they cause the next chapter to look a lot like the last what. You can see them in what we're doing to fail, our causing health to suffer so bad that we have to stop work, or when they drive a nails into the coffin of our relationships hoping the other person finally acts and leaves (which is what we really want until it happens)
4. They can be caught, and removed, but removal is about as comfortable as having a tooth pulled by a proctologist.... That's the tough love part of life coaching. Steering the boat in a new direction.
If you need any gremlins caught and extracted I promise to be speedy, provide anaesthetic and make sure they don't come back.
Chris Walker - Author
Carrying a pack, discovering new trails, exploring the human spirit, dreaming with immensity, and gaining far away horizons: escaping the destiny of the sedentary, loving above all the supreme liberty of the human spirit at one withnature. This is Chris Walker’s life! Like the trails he explores with a pack on his back high in the mountains,unravelling the mysteries of harmony and focus at work or in relationship creates something special for any individual who decides to explore the wondersof it. A uniqueness, a resilience to the instability of conventional attitudes, a realfreedom that only the human heart can fully understand. Chris is a free spirit, a nomad. He follows his heart and helps others do the same. Are you ready to explore it?