Have you ever experienced a moment in life when everything seemed to stand perfectly still. A moment walking in a busy street, sitting by a lake, playing with the kids in a park, kissing your lover? Those accidental moments do no have to be accidental. You can have them anytime you choose when you know how. But first, we need to overcome any resistance to it.
It's easy, when defeated by circumstances in life, to revert to a defensive mode of being. In such states it feels like we are always trying to get back to "somewhere we lost." Often, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. We start hearing things through a filter and that filter spins everything into a "self sabotaging" mindset of defence or attack to disprove the pre-scripted interpretation of life's incidents.
X came to me with a series of "bad luck" stories. He was wanting change but had also joined a support group for his pain, diagnosed as PTSD (post traumatic stress) from a violent incident. During his 30 days in the incubator (30 day challenge) he broke the mould of "bad luck" thinking and started to see the journey as "normal" rather than broken or messed up. This is a key. We are all on the same track and there's no avoiding the road bumps, pot holes and punctures we get along the way.
As you can see from the diagram below, the final home stretch of the Back on Track loop is Self Reliance. This is the most challenging component of the Back on Track™. Here in Self-Reliance, we come to see that the future, the past and the present are completely painted with the belief pattern we have about people, (past and present) - incidents we've experienced (past, present and imagined) and the beliefs we've collected (inherited, learnt, experienced or read). At this stage of Back on Track, there are no victims and where we are, is where we've chosen to be.
The Future - Planning Perfect Moments.
An airline pilot goes to a simulator and trains long and hard before being given the pilot seat to take an plane filled with passengers into the sky. But we don't. We often live life by "shoot, ready, aim" instead of "ready, aim, shoot." In other words, we often live by experience rather than by the ambition for moments of perfection.
The pilot metaphor is useful. My experience is that if you get ready for a new role in life, the new role will come to you. In other words, when the person is ready, the job offer will appear. All too often a person in a stressed space will start thinking about a new job, new company, thinking that their new space, new job will not have the stresses of the old. This is a myth. New jobs have stress, but maybe there's a honeymoon period before it's experienced.
The role of "back on track" is to not only bring you up to scratch in your current occupation, but take you way beyond into preparation for the future. An incubator for your future self. I've outlined some of the key variables in this process below.
Ultimately, if you are waiting to see it, before you believe it, you'll be waiting forever.