We human beings live between the two realities of earth and sky. Earth stands for all that is practical, material, tangible and incarnate. It is the material world. We learn about it through living a life of discovery and observation. We experience this world and its knowledge through the vast door of personal accumulated and collective experience. There is one word for all this. It is Nature.
Nature is composed of the five elements which we characterised as earth, water, fire, air, and ether (or space as it’s now known). Consequently the body is made up of the same five elements which is why we also use the term human nature for the body.
Over the past 40 years I have fallen in love with thousands of women. Beautiful amzing women from all countries and all shapes and sizes. I fall in love easily. I like this about me.
Of the thousands of women I’ve fallen in love with, about 30 have responded with sex instantaneously. The day I met my first wife I was 19 and we slept together on the first night. Then came a list of other situations where, with a moment of connection women have responded with sex and in most cases, I’ve called it love.
A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both.
L. P. Jacks in Education through Recreation (1932)
Bad relationships often drive great careers. People who are not getting what they want at home, become hungry at work, they want more out of it, put more into it and drive hard to get it. But, at the end of the day, a life filled with success but empty of love is not going to satisfy.
Ten seconds after your relationship starts there can be the start of a diminishing value. We, of course, deny it, deny the signs of it, and therefore adapt to it.
Love grows at the border of support and challenge, but when challenge turns to emotional bullying, criticism or repeated ingratitude, almost like a habit, it's time to push back. If the push back is done without emotion, it will not be welcome but it will be accepted. If the push back is done with emotion it will not be welcome and it will be rejected. The longer we leave push back, the more emotion we'll have and so, it's better to draw lines in the sand on an everyday basis than to be thinking short term, acting long term.