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Become an Evolutionary .. Killing Off the Work Life Balance Myth

If you are an entrepreneur, business person or small business owner, you need to read this ... it's about containing the stresses of business so they don't come home and mess with your family, or visa versa. it's an important facility for all who want a good quality of life.

The Quest for Happiness is in Our DNA

All human beings, from the day they are born to the day they die, seek happiness.

But the don't know much about the science of it.

There are many sources of happiness: short term, long term, external and internal.

There are seven areas of life and therefore seven opportunities for happiness.

Research shows we need both short term and long term happiness. 

Short term happiness motivates us.

Long term happiness inspires us.

The Psychology of Stress

Most stress goes undetected. It's called worry. 

Worry and stress are cumulative. They add.

For most people the cure for stress is to take a break. 

Breaks come in the form of time out, a few beers, sleep, food and play.

These breaks are not stress relieving at all.

They are distractions from the cause of the stress.

There are seven areas of life. Therefore seven areas of worry.

Your Life Purpose

If there were two things you could change in the world before you die, what would they be.. think hard...

If there was one thing you had too much of or too little of in your childhood (compassion, kindnes, challenge, discipline, open mindedness, laughter) what would that be?

Just two of the questions that reconfirm your choice of purpose in life.

Remember, your purpose was given to you before your birth... never changes... and can never be fulfilled... (finished or completed)

Pattanjali Yoga Sutra: When you are inspired by some greater purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds, your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

Go Outside

Nature cannot talk to you while you are inside, under a roof. Not unless you open all the windows and let the memories that are contained in the walls out. 

Sage is a perfect cleanser for spaces and, can remove old thoughts from walls. You need allot of it so be careful the smoke alarm doesn't go off.

But really, you need to be outdoors. If it rains go outdoors. If it's hot go outdoors. If it's snowing, go outdoors.

What's Building Your Mojo... Your Adventures Are?

 

What is Inspiration and Why Want It?

Inspiration is when the inner voice speaks louder than the outer voices. 

The outer voices are emotions in your head mirrored by the words and thoughts people share about you and toward you.

Those outer voices are often blamed for our inner turmoil. Not so.

Inspiration requires three fundamental skills, all of which are quite natural but most of which have been lost in this modern age.

SImply put, inspiration is natural, the world has become synthetic. 

For Innerwealth You Need Love Baby

The Beatles wrote the song "all you need is love" and when it comes to Innerwealth, they're right on.

What's most shocking however is to discover that you can't love one thing, and hate another.

People say, "I love my partner" but I hate "potato chips" - immediately saying "as long as my partner is not a potato chip, or anything that resembles what I hate about potato chips, I love them"

People say, "I hate that guy but I love my kids" so, then, using shame, blame and rules to tame, they do everything in their power to make the kids not be anything like what they "hate" in that guy... and you can see the inevitable result of that is... yes... you guessed it, "what we fear comes near."

Innerwealth feeds on love, but not half love. 

The Greatest Wisdom - Nature's Universal Laws

Life is too short to learn from experience... instead, use wisdom.... and save yourself the time and cost.

We have the deepest respect for the process that manage compliance. However, the process we embrace is grounded in the universal laws of nature and therefore individual authenticity.

All human drama comes from disharmony with these principles and to have nature as an enemy in this life is no fun. An organisation that functions in disharmony with natures law will be plagued with stress, mediocrity and human drama. Things don't need to be so difficult. Hard work is bad management.

You Can't Give What You Haven't Got

The purpose of spirituality is not inner peace, although that can come from it. The real purpose of personal spirituality is to fill your fuel so you can give more.

A person with an empty tank might make all the noises of helping others but really they're sucking energy from their family, children, friends. The Give to Get game is the oldest trick in the book. 

You can't give what you haven't got. Take an angry person who speaks about their ex partner in vicious derogatory terms. They have anger, they can give anger, they might even call it love, but it's anger. They want love, they want it badly because what fills their heart is anger, so they exchange.

The Myth of Motivation... And How to Get Beyond the Hype

Meet your local motivator, he or she will boast of the uppers they have and then celebrate the relaxation or time out they need in order to keep their head above water. Your local motivator will celebrate positive thinking, uppers and victories and be almost allergic to anything that can't be shifted, changed, reconfigured into a positive.

In about the 12th century, or thereabouts, somebody wrote a book called the "power of positive thinking" they died of depression related illness. Everyone still buys the book from their local motivator most don't remember the aweful, lonely death of the author.

Inner Strength - How to Build it, shape it and ultimately own it

For a Spiritual life it's rarely what you own that makes the difference. Inner strength (spirituality) comes from simply being alive. Witnessing beauty helps but the ultimate place of inner strength is connectedness. Where your identity disappears - it's no longer about you, the "I" (ego) then, there is no self (EGO) and you are not separate from anyone or anything... Simply saying "I need nothing, want nothing and therefore I have everything" is my favorite insight to get past my ego to my "Inner strength" Spiritual nature.

Need a Break An Instant TIme Out? Try Enlightenment... The Best Holiday You Can Have

My version of enlightenment is sitting under a tree drinking a cold beer. I don't claim to be a guru but I do know how to chill. I learned this stuff the hard way. No need for you to.

Sitting under a tree with a cold beer doesn't work for me if there's mind noise or if my body is itchy, unable to relax or if my heart is yearning for something i haven't got. So, I wrapped all this up and called it Innerwealth.

Like I sat in a Zendo for 13 months meditating in silence but I couldn't be at peace in a noisy room. That's no good to me. I learned yoga and flexed my body but I couldn't adapt to enjoy the rhythm of a punk band or crazy kids in a fancy restaurant, that's no good to me.

Inspiration - Instant Enlightenment - Is there a better health pill?

A long long time ago, before the internet was invented, when mobile phones were the size of two house bricks, and when the top speed of the average car was 80mph I decided to get spiritual, improve my consciousness (which wasn't hard) and become all enlightened.

My first exploration was meditation and, after spending months in a Zen retreat, where I could eventually say that I tasted enlightenment, (I could hear snails crawl) I took one step back into the real world - caught a taxi to the airport to go home and blew it all. On the way, there was a traffic jam. I panicked about missing my flight, my palms began to sweat.  I didn't have the skill to bring this inner calm, perfected in isolation into the real world.

What Are You Willing to Give Up for It....? Video

My girlfriend once asked, "do you love me" and I said "Yes" but....

But what she asked....

But not as much as trekking in Nepal, doing corporate training programs, coaching people... or writing books. She swore and left.

Well at least she got on with her life.

All human disaster comes from disharmony with nature.

When a person lives and works with their hands and heart in nature for a lifetime, they get to understand what most people couldn't learn from any book, website or guru in a hundred years. They learn the wisdom of the ages. Nature'sl Universal Laws. Principles that don't require a blackboard or a prayer book to remember.

It is not being a greenie, or saving a whale that puts you in harmony with nature. No, that's often the complete opposite. As a qualified environmental engineer, I can say that much of what is done in the name of harmony with nature, is the complete opposite.

How Can A Spiritual Consultant Help You?

Want to change your luck? Having a run of accidents, bad luck and would like to get to the bottom of it and turn it around? Maybe nobody does more to you than you do to yourself and it'd help to get your mind, body and spirit all working in harmony....

Want to feel Upbeat and Positive? Feeling unspirited, uninspired by life? Maybe doing a Personal Vision Quest  (VIP - Vision, Inspiration and Purpose)  will bring your health, energy, wellbeing, parenting and work to a new level of energy.

Did She Change or Was it Just Another True Lie?

"Oh, I've really changed" she said to me, begging for another chance at our, now defunct relationship. I pondered it for a moment, "how would I ever really know it that promise is real, sustainable or just a temporary glitch... a true lie?

With pen and paper I set about writing down three of nature's truths about change, and then, testing them against her promise. Had she really changed? Lets find out.

1. Did She Change?

Getting Back in Touch with Our True Nature

An intelligent person figures it out theoretically, an average person learns from instruction, only a fool learns from experience. 

It’s 2.00am, I’m still in my sleeping bag. Ice covers the little window to my tiny room. My torch light reflects off everything making a noise that drills into my head. I need coffee but to get there, I must leave the warmth of the down bag, go pee and freeze. I debate this dilemma for 10 sleepy minutes hoping to “accidentally” go back to sleep. Doesn’t happen, I need to pee.

I dress, organise coffee, freezing toes I start to rustle the group. We’re climbing up to the top of Kalaphatar today, the summit of our little trip. It’s cold, cold, cold... No clothes stop the creeping cold, only a fire, hot coffee and exercise will shift it.

Seven Seven Minute Ways to Lose 7.7 KG in 7.77 Days

1. Stop eating 

2. No only joking......

Here's the real deal... Number 7 is the most important.....

1. Take Cold Showers instead of hot. Cold showers increase your metabolism, just like being in cold weather increases weight loss through increased metabolic rate. Drinking Ice water, although bad for digestion (beware of getting bunged up in the bowels) really increases weight loss.

2. Binge - the problem with most people's diet program is they deny, deny, deny, deny, deny then binge, binge, binge. Instead of having a little treat everyday, binge on Saturday. Make Saturday your "I'll eat it all" day.. and just go for it... in fact, according to "the Four Hour Body" by Tiimothy Ferriss - binging one day a week actually causes weight loss. Provided the other 6 days are not mini snacked to death.

3. Exercise a different muscle group every day. Doing one exercise, like bike riding every day eventually builds a plateau in weight loss because - well becuase - you get good at it. Unless you can increase the load (pedal faster and harder) you'll eventually be needing to ride 200 miles a day to cause any burn.

4. Drink water - obvious one

5. Eliminate the following foods from your diet for 6 of 7 days a week. Sugar in drinks, white carbohydates (bread, pastry, pasta, rice, dairy) and of course greasy food and to replace them, use protien rich foods such as dahl, beans, fish, chicken etc.... all green vegies are limitless..... 

6. Be happy.... it's absolutely proven that those who think they need cuddling - in other words have some sort of depression going on, retain fluid and fat. Joy doesn't come from what you do or what needs to be done, or what you have or what you get rid of, it comes from just being thankful for NOW.

7. Have a friggin big dream... Inspiration, combined with good eating is the essential ingredient so often missing from people's weight loss regime. Do you notice people who lost their real dream and start living for the NOW and have all sorts of religious or moral righteousness taking over their lives get fat. Self Obsession can only take control when we get insecure about the future, and inspiration, ie when the inner voice of certainty about the future, replaces the outer voices of uncertainty about the future. Go inside, find your authentic self, create a vision quest and put this down to paper, audio or video. There's probably no faster way to lose weight than this alone. We've been helping people do family, personal, couple, team, business  Vision Quest for almost 30 years, and truly, that's where health and weight loss starts.

Ski Paddling Dream

 

Om - The Sounds of Silence

Have you ever been hit over the head and gone unconscious?

Have you ever fainted?

Have you ever had an operation with a general anaesthetic?

Have you ever had a massive orgasm?

Well one thing these all have in common is the sound of silence you get just before you pass out.

Your ears stop hearing, your eyes stop seeing, your mouth stops moving but your head is still thinking.

A few seconds later either you wake from the experience or go into deep space, unaware of the fact that a doctor is amputating your legs. (this is not the orgasm).

In these moments of mid way silence, you are, in the language of the Eastern Sciences, Awakened.

That humming sound you often hear just before passing out (this does include the orgasm) is not the ambient sound in your own head, it's the sound of the universe, and the name for it is OM.

Om is a sound that is meant to replicate that ambiance of all wisdom in the universe both past and present. If music is a series of notes, the pool from which those notes are drawn (nothing comes from nothing) is OM.

Think an idea that is a "brain wave" or an act of genius and in a similar way, you've tapped into OM and instead of music, those manifestations are thoughts. They drop further (you may have noticed) when you speak them.... and of course even further when you try to put them into action.

In Yoga and Some meditation practices the student chants the word OM - with the emphasis on the M... like OOO MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM and it's this humming vibration that is meant to take us back to our deeper roots, heart and then soul.

Try it on the bus. It works but it's better to keep your eyes open and the sound silent otherwise you might find yourself at the bus terminal - sitting in Nirvana.

Vision the Future - Then Forget it...

When walking up a steep hill people often start wishing the end would come soon. They start infatuating their vision of the future, thinking of the destination rather than each step.

Instead I encourage clients to create their clear vision of the journey, their “Future Intent” and then forget it.

That way they can focus on the process of the journey, while still holding a beautiful dream, vision of the future. I find it much easier to walk like this in extreme conditions. I call this, “Process Intent.” Inspiration.

Vision of the Future - Directing Your Energy

WE put our energy into everything we do, and the return on investment we get depends on the quality of the energy we invested. This includes relationships and business.

That’s why being mindful of our mind – thoughts and feelings is totally important to our wellbeing and success in life.

If we do work or live in relationships that don’t inspire us, we’re on the wrong path and nature will let us know it.

Emotional Transparency Part 3.

This video presents emotional transparency as nature's universal law explains it. One reason why people can't see through emotion is that a positive emotion in one are of life might just manifest its balance in another area. For example: an upper at work and a downer at home. A victory in sport and a disaster in social life. Emotional attachment to uppers breed downers but sometimes we're not aware that the upper that caused the downer is in a completely unrelated area of our life. This video explains Emotion according to Nature's Universal Laws - Human Nature.

Powerful People Make Powerful Decisions

Questions
Originally uploaded by Chris Walker Innerwealth

Everyday there are a thousand opportunities to make decisions that change our life forever. A snarl or a look of derision can trigger a chain of events that, in the least can make life hard but at worst, could be life threatening.

Every drop of water is an entity making decisions about where to flow, how to cope with stress like pollutions and currents. They survive in nature by adapting. Nature adapts easily because it operates on one premise alone. Something higher - nature's law - rules.

Animals adapt, trees adapt, insects, birds and sea creatures adapt. But humans can resist. That is our greatest gift and our greatest curse.

At the lowest level, fundamentalist religions help people in their quest not to adapt. Fictitious Gods are created with all sorts of manifesto's to do, don't do and to inflict great discomfort on those considered less than themselves. This is the opposite to adapting.

The fundamentalist will say "Got to" or "should do" and by implication state that due to the wrath of God, we really do not have free will. The fundamentalist who is not religiously affiliated might say "Got to and or "Should do" and claim that we have total free will: there is no God.

In nature, Human Will and Divine Will are one in the same. That's called Adaptation - living in harmony with nature's law.

Turning up for Life

What's an emotion? Is it a good thing or a bad.

Ask every therapist, psychologist, self help hippie and religious fanatic on earth, and you're likely to get a different answer from all of them.

That's why, when you let nature be your guide, you cut through the mire, confusion and emotional roller coaster of life and come down to the real, muddy, wonderful, creative truth. And in turn, your own path.

Where are You on the Consciousness cone?

At the bottom of the consciousness cone, in GOT TO mode the human condition is extremely polarised.

People vacillate between DO and DON'T do. Always and Never. Committed to one idea one day, and committed to the opposite the next.

It's called desperation and sometimes translates to hard headedness (self-righteousness) or a feeling of dread and desperation. (powerlessness)

This state is as far from Love as the human condition can get.

GOT TO desperation is a beautiful place of learning and growth, but, due to its very extreme nature requires that support be very tactile, regular, carefully presented so that it doesn't trigger the righteous tiger.

Why do we do what we do? Motivations

Studying Nature's law gives a great insight into human behaviour. Why people do what they do.

This article goes deep into the understanding of human motive, why do people do, or don't do, what they say.

This is a healthy science and one that is important to know if you are considering living a balanced, healthy and successful life. Understanding human nature could just be the single most important factor in success for the future.

Go back just 20 years and check the sales and human communication training programs (many of which still run today in hybrid form) where the motto was "trick or be tricked" how to persuade people, win friends or even influence people. Models of confusion and short term victory over long term sustainability.

Three Root causes of Most Personal Challenge

Hi, this is an animation of me drawn by my son, Richard Walker a genius artist. He drew it for me after the First Nation People of Canada, labelled me:

"The Spiritual Pitbull."

I tried using that brand for a while but it frightens people off. Who wants to be challenged anyway and by a spiritual pitbull? Not attractive...

I've worked with people from the most inspirational sports stars, movie stars, entrepreneurs, amazing individuals in organisations and parents.

Although their problems were unique, the cause was, in most cases the same.

Evolveyabastard - Getting Your Act together

In the corporate world, everything is done by numbers. How many sales, how much time, who is right, what is the benefit, how much and when?

Even personality has been type cast, profiled, numbered and labelled. Stupid when you think about it.

Trying to "type cast" people is only essential when our humanity fails us. If we're a human arse, then we: agress, judge, hate, criticise, condemn and really are left with only the tools of manipulation instead of heart felt communication, we numerically, define human personality as "this number or that.

The Spirit of Nature - Applied to Personal Growth

1 - Nature's first law. Balance

The fact that the whole universe stays in place - trillions of stars in the sky and kapillions of cells in your body - because of the principle of balance might be a hint that this is a really important principle to understand. Simply put, there's two sides to everything and something that stays still has equal and opposite forces operating on it.

Ego means unequal forces, imbalanced. So, our ego, our self created beliefs and experience memories and expectations are "the movie" of our mind. Not in harmony with nature's law. Hence, all depression, illness, violence, heart ache and disturbance comes from imbalanced thinking. That's the cause - the rest is the effect.

It can take a lifetime searching for gooder, bettter, bester, idealist outcomes to realise that balance exists. Why waste the time?

A Master in the Art of Living

A Master in the art of Living
Draws no sharp distinction
Between their work and their play
Their labour and their leisure
Their minds and their bodies
Their education or their recreation.
They hardly know which is which.
They simply pursue their vision of excellence
Through whatever they are doing and leave
Others to determine whether they are working or playing.
To themselves, it always seems as if they are doing both.

The Spirit of Nature in Your Life

Many years ago people were in tune with nature.

Nature’s harmony and human happiness were considered as one.

People observed that what happened outside of us, was already happening within.

But now, with time and technology, we have lost touch with this awareness.

As our culture evolves into this current era, we suffer the separation from having worked with the land, understanding natures rhythm and a dependency on nature for her sustenance.

As we modernise, we have moved away from that harmony.

The outer world has risen and taken precedence in our life, we look for solutions instead of awareness.

We can all benefit from a more honest and deeper approach to life.

If we can re connect with the harmony of nature, while remaining a part of the evolution of humanity, we will be able to celebrate both worlds, inner and outer harmony.

The key is in Understanding Nature and her Universal Laws.

Five simple principles that defy all human intervention.

Real Wisdom

A Thousand Beautiful Things

A thousand beautiful things could have prompted me to change my life.

As it was, relationship did it for me, but struggles with money, career, health, social life or mental health could have been the boost I needed to get off my fat arse and see the world differently.

At first, I hated the experience of self-determination. My ego was well established in a nice rut, I had money and therefore the things money buys to avoid integrity. I even had some sort of religious smoke screen.

Golden Handcuffs

I was with my son yesterday and he mentioned his friends who have what they call, "golden handcuffs."

Jobs they hate with money they can't refuse.

Sometimes paying people more trying to motivate them, forgiving their obvious attitude issues is corrupting the business.

Sink or Swim? Your Choice

When confronted by a personal challenge we get two choices, Sink or Swim.

I prefer Swim.

You’ll find in any group a balance of these masculine and feminine forces. Even in a small team who have never met each other - like a holiday group or a group going trekking who have booked individually, if one person becomes extremely “feminine” in their approach, someone, or even the whole group will swing to the opposite.

The Nature of Leadership

Leadership is a balance of masculine (forget the present create the future) and feminine (forget the future create the present - nurturing and caring.)

There’s often an infatuation with the feminine. Many people even suggest that the masculine is not human. My impression is that it’s cruel to only do the feminine side. It breeds a coy, shy, non direct dishonesty where people become obsessed with pleasing each other, not getting to the point.

Inspiration - Personal Mastery - Overcoming Personal Challenge

For many years I applied the squeaky wheel management principle to my life. If it squeaked, I’d oil it, if not, why worry?

I’d take herbs for a month that needed six months to work but after a month the symptoms would go away, so I’d stop the herbs.

I’d go to seminars and make commitments to change something but after a week or so, when the problem went away, I’d forget the discipline.

These days, I don’t trust anything except inspiration.

Gopro Camera, Valley Rapier Sea Kayak, Sydney Harbour and life is good

The joy I love is a real hands-on, roll up your sleeves experience of something real. It’s sort of the ultimate payoff.  It’s a reward for putting our energy into something and being shocked at the return.

Gopro Surfing Sydney Harbour in a Sea Kayak from Chris Walker on Vimeo.

The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem,  almost too much to handle,
When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,
Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.


A professor stood before his philosophy class
 and had some  items in  front of him.

Don't be Bored, it makes you boring.

 Do you have something you do everyday that inspires you, physical and fun?

Do you have an inspired vision for the next three months?

Is it time for a change of heart - Is your thinking heavy and factual?

Risk Taking or Taking out the Risk....?

A baby sees order in life, they are unaware of potential chaos.

That's the real spirit of an entrepreneur. To see order but not be unaware of potential chaos.

It's a spiritual thing.

Mobile Meditation - Finding Inspiration

The Nature of Life

There's one key theme to nature that human beings struggle to embrace. And that, from my experience, is adaptation.

Nature's single and most prolific thread is adaptation. Humans don't do it well.

If the weather changes, or the fish get sick, nature adapts. Humans panic.

Greening Corporate

I take corporate people and entrepreneurs out of the office and into nature. People are different in nature.

Do you know why?

I've met some real arseholes in business life. Nasty, mean and dishonest people who, when they go bush, become a completely different animal. Kind, generous, friendly people. Do you know why?

Corporate Consciousness - Don't Compromise

I speak to corporate audiences all around the world. Corporate people are already conscious. They just dont know it.

The hardest thing about corporate consciousness is that, there are some really clever and highly unconscious people in the mix. And that's like leaving a rotting apple in a barrel.

Never lose touch with your humanity

I lost touch with my humanity once.

I lost touch, not because I didn't care, but because I was too afraid to be honest.

I fell out of love and didn't want to hurt that person. So I stayed and made compensations.

Those compensations really hurt that person in the end because it meant I was a liar.

The Most Compelling Leadership Vision

From STEW FRIEDMAN BETTER LEADER, RICHER LIFE
3:10 PM Friday May 8, 2009

A distinguished woman rose to speak in the front of a room of 40 fellow employees during a Total Leadership workshop I was conducting earlier this week.

"Joyous laughter — this is the sound I hear throughout the home I have built and now maintain for mentally ill women in Puerto Rico. They are surrounded by people who love and care for them. They are enjoying life."

BETTER LEADER, RICHER LIFE

From - STEW FRIEDMAN BETTER LEADER, RICHER LIFE
How a 2-Minute Story Helps You Lead

Leaders gain trust and teach people what's important to them by telling stories. But these days there's so much to attend to — now! — coming at us so fast. You might be tempted to let slide your soft skills, like how to tell a useful story. Just get to the point and move on to the next thing on the list. No time for fluff.