1. Become a Myth Buster
I mean if you look at it, Self Help books sold by just seven Self-Help Authors last year added up to over $20 million in the US alone in a country blaming the President, God, and Moslems for their problems... One could derive from this the Oprah's book club might be missing the mark..... Stop buying SELF-HELP Books - Videos, workshops and conferences...including the ridiculous notion of Happiness sold by the Dalia Lama (whose secret to happiness is to stop being ambitious - yeah, right that works!) .... Just go on a self-help diet. Everyone who has ever done Self-Help comes out the same at the end as who they were at the start... so, save yourself the myth. Saving $7,777,777.77 which is close to the estimated amount of money each westerner will waste fluffing around trying to fix things that aren't broken.
2. Cut to The Chase
I love the quote, "don't worry about life, I read the ending of the bible and it all turns out ok" So, cut to the chase in life. People die, emotions are temporary, possessions (including relationships) are impermanent, happiness is unsustainable, truth is in the eye of the beholder, I mean, why keep wanting to change something when it isn't broken. 99.999999999999% of people are trying to fix what isn't broken, in business, self, family and life. Nobody treats you worse than you treat yourself so start by telling those who tell you to change to f... k off and start liking your warts....and all. (Poor decisions avoided, doubts cleared, conferences not attended, time spent on your inspiration and love - $saved? $7,777,777.77)
3. Get outside
Truly, the best Self-Help is mowing the lawn, digging a garden, growing a tomato, going for a run, standing in the rain, farting in a park, dancing with the wolves, swiming with the sharks... life isn't going to get passed on in a book, all you become is a walking, talking, breathing head. Too many amature phsychologist, 5 minute yoga teachers, 4 hour bodies... give it a break, a 30 year old flexible yoga teacher with pretty eyes might know how to bend and might be great to learn from if you are 12. Teachers are made to be stepped on not stopped on, so get and step - for most teachers you can achieve that result in 30 seconds. (Gym memberships saved, therpay saved, marriages not ending in divorce, children inspired, TV Money Back Guarantee 6 Minute Abs machines not bought, and time saved $7,777,777.77)
4. Vision
The size of your vision determines the size of your life, and also, if you are not careful, the size of your vision determines the size of your depression, delusion, confusion, illusion, contusion, and EGO-sion. The most important way to guarantee you don't spend half your life stuck in EGo illusions, is to find your Inspiration and live it. That's where Innerwealth comes in. Most people see their vision as like light beams emanating from themselves and radiating out like search lights in the sky. Total delusion and fragmentation is the result. Reverse it. See a maypole tree with lines and wired leading to the top of the pole. Imagine now that you are at the top of the pole sitting most uncomfortably on the very tip. Your visions of the future just lead to you. The more you can be you, the higher the pole. Now you can see that your vision doesn't come from you, it comes to you and the more you are REAL with Yourself, the more of your vision manifests. Simple way to achieve this is to talk about what you do love, that you've already got, rather than what you'd love to fix, change, improve, alter, adjust, make better.... If you don't appreciate what you've got, you lose it. That's the top of the Maypole tree..... (money made through focus on vision - $7,777,777.77)
5. Order in the Chaos
In 1983 my net worth, in 2011 value was $15 million... Then most of it went away... What was my real net worth in 1983? It's what I have in 2011. Emotion, EGo and Desperation can build anything, but can it sustain it with calm? Built with Emotion, EGO and Desperation, you have to sustain it with Emotion, Desperation and EGO.... Metaphorically, think about it like living at sea level. So you can scuba dive to the depths of dispair, you can summit Mt Everest to the highest peaks in the world, but they are temporary (SELF ESTEEM)... Self Worth, is not built on all time high's or all time lows, it's built out of the balance of both. That's why Nature's Universal Laws bring sustainability to your life. Still plenty of Ups and Downs if you want them, but neither motivate or distract you... that's simply making life Transparent... (Money saved, add up time lost running up and down on the same spot, time spent fluffing around in health spas, yoga rooms, meditation halls, churches being all emotionally on a high and then dealing with the subsequent low - $7,777,777.77)
6. Associations
Do you still play in the sand pit with your friends from kindy? I mean, do you still know everyone from your past? No, because you somehow know when to let go, or not worry about letting go certain people from the past. The reason for this is that we're naturally, organically, intentionally reinventing ourselves every day and as we do, who we associate with, changes. There's more than 6 billion people on earth, yet some of us, beg for the company of those we knew 30 years ago, and family, and siblings, and companies we never leave... goodness, there's enough fodder for another $20 million in Self Help Book Sales.... Associations. You don't move forward (essential) until you let go of the past. (essential)... So, holding anger, need for approval, desire to control, need for acceptance, bitterness, regret, hate, jealousy, resentment or anything for anything or any one in the past is a conscious, deliberate and mischievious self help trick we use when the future is, well, lets say "BORING" - and this association includes your beliefs, religion, ideas and philosophy. So, instead of listening to Mr ENOUGH - who suggests you stop watching international news, - dump that - "Think International Become International - Think Local end up drinking at the Local" Nothing is permanent, get over the past, today - master the art of letting go, it's fun. Money Saved on this (add up all your potential hospital bills for you and your children $7,777,777.77)
7. Hold Your Horses
If your body is the horse, the carriage is your EGo and the driver is you, then when your body is tired, you can choose to care for it right? Or when your EGO feels resentful you can feed it enough information to put Order back into it's Chaos... (EGO seeks ORDER or CHAOS - the driver, your true self, just moves between the two) - Fat people doing self help is like the horses running the carriage, or the carriage steering the driver. Lets get this clear, and simple. You are the driver, your body is dumb, it seeks pleasure avoids pain and that's all it knows, so sometimes the pearls are deep and body pain is essential - Like living your vision, or purpose or dreams ... so, what's it going to be, body discipline or vision? And sometimes your EGO is afraid, or angry or hurt. So, you deviate 30 years of your life to do what you "Should do, Got to do, Ought to do, Have to" and in so doing the cart now runs the driver... dumb huh? And no self help on earth can help your body or your ego if you don't stand up, step into your own shoes and declare to yourself, "I have a purpose greater than me (meaning body and ego). Money saved on this $7,777,777.77.
7b Be a good person
There's really no one on earth going to like you, enjoy your company, feel better about being around you than you. If you do things against your integrity, others suffer, buy you do the most. Subconsciously we start compensating for being an ass, seeking cheap approval and minor victories. That's how you always know the most self corrupted person is the one who must always win an argument, resists change, has to be right all the time... (this is also the core marker of depression) - when we don't like who we are (the essential belief system that keeps the Self Help Industry alive) we are always trying to cope with our own miserable company ... buying change or seeking victory... There's only one real essential ingredient of self help --- Be the person you like and don't rationalise doing bad to others. For past wrongs, simply apologize, pay your debts and move on and make a commitment not to do it again, intentionally ..
