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Depressed people often need someone to hug. On occasion, that someone may just be a tree.
A new and growing group of psychologists believes that many of our modern-day mental problems, including depression, stress and anxiety, can be traced in part to society's increasing alienation from nature.
Richard Louv coined the phrase Nature Deficit Disorder when speaking about increasing problems with children and wrote the book "Last Child in the Woods"
The solution as I see it? Get outside and enjoy nature. But it's not as easy as you think... we've actually forgotten how to connect with nature.
A few years back I wrote the book Sacred Love and described going for a walk through nature with a friend. During the walk he talked about the stock market, his sore knee, a property he was buying and the state of the nation. At the end of the walk I asked if we could do the whole thing again, my way. On that walk I simply showed my friend how to use what our not too distant past relatives would have done naturally. Being outdoors is, in itself, not enough.
While traditional psychotherapists focus their treatments on the patient's interior — whether through pharmaceuticals like Prozac, mindfulness practices like meditation, or old-fashioned couch-bound therapy by the hour — I believe that patient care must include time spent in the great outdoors. "It's psychotherapy — as if nature really mattered," says Linda Buzzell-Saltzman, a psychologist and the founder of the International Association for Ecotherapy.
Human beings have evolved in synchrony with nature for millions of years and we are hard-wired to interact with our environment — with the air, water, plants, other animals. But in the past two centuries, beginning with the Industrial Revolution, people have been steadily removed from the natural world, our lives regulated not by the sun or moon but instead by the factory clock. Recently it's gotten worse, with the rise of the Internet and other technologies, like iPhones and BlackBerrys, that dominate our lives, pushing us even further from any appreciation of our natural surroundings.
"We began to get the impression that we were somehow above and separate from nature," says Craig Chalquist, an instructor at John F. Kennedy University in San Francisco and co-editor with Buzzell-Saltzman of the new book Ecotherapy: Healing with Nature in Mind.
Today, more than half of the world's population lives in cities, and many people barely ever get a glimpse of green. At the same time, human beings appear to be doing their best to destroy what remains of the earth by contributing to climate change — a problem that in itself causes some people deep anxiety. But what the average person feels as stress or depression, eco-therapists suggest, is a longing for our natural home. "People were embedded in nature once," says Buzzell-Saltzman. "We've lost that, and we're paying the price."
Getting it back doesn't have to be difficult.
Begin with starting a nature journal, in which you record how much time you spend outside. The results can often be shocking.
"Some of my clients find they spend less than 15 to 30 minutes a day outside, other than walking to and from their cars," I suggest that two hours a day is essential in a business life. Time for exercise, time to slow down, time to reconnect with nature simply by hiking, gardening or taking walks outdoors.
All of my business consulting sessions and personal consulting sessions take place outdoors — in a park or by the beach down here at Bondi. I even do my phone consultations while walking on the beach — rather than inside yet another office.
"We can use the natural world to be part of the healing process, and as a vital part of business leadership, team building and company culture. We have to acknowledge that we're part of this, not the master of it."
If such prescriptions sound a little simplistic, consider this: A 2007 study by researchers at the University of Essex in England found that a daily dose of walking outside could be as effective as taking antidepressant drugs for treating mild to moderate depression. Of course, it's no secret that regular exercise is a powerful mood enhancer — although researchers noted that a similar regimen of walking in a crowded shopping mall did not have the same impact — and the boost in vitamin D production in people who spent more time outside in the sun surely helped as well.
It may be that using nature as a crucial part of healing is less a practical psychological treatment than a timely philosophy that connects common feelings of isolation and stress with the fact that the world in which we live is slowly becoming something it shouldn't be. And with worsening climate change and a relentless drumbeat of bad news about our endangered environment, it seems our eco-anxiety may be a symptom of self preservation as much as it is a concern for the future of planet.
"Ultimately, what we need to do is change human behaviour - to reconnect leaders, families, lovers, children, patients, life coaches, hospitals and office workers to nature. It's a commonsense recommendation for humans as well as the environment.
My book series "The Laws of Nature" are available on Kindle and in Print at Amazon
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Depressed people often need someone to hug. On occasion, that someone may just be a tree.
A new and growing group of psychologists believes that many of our modern-day mental problems, including depression, stress and anxiety, can be traced in part to society's increasing alienation from nature.
Richard Louv coined the phrase Nature Deficit Disorder when speaking about increasing problems with children and wrote the book "Last Child in the Woods"
The solution as I see it? Get outside and enjoy nature. But it's not as easy as you think... we've actually forgotten how to connect with nature.
A few years back I wrote the book Sacred Love and described going for a walk through nature with a friend. During the walk he talked about the stock market, his sore knee, a property he was buying and the state of the nation. At the end of the walk I asked if we could do the whole thing again, my way. On that walk I simply showed my friend how to use what our not too distant past relatives would have done naturally. Being outdoors is, in itself, not enough.
While traditional psychotherapists focus their treatments on the patient's interior — whether through pharmaceuticals like Prozac, mindfulness practices like meditation, or old-fashioned couch-bound therapy by the hour — I believe that patient care must include time spent in the great outdoors. "It's psychotherapy — as if nature really mattered," says Linda Buzzell-Saltzman, a psychologist and the founder of the International Association for Ecotherapy.
Human beings have evolved in synchrony with nature for millions of years and we are hard-wired to interact with our environment — with the air, water, plants, other animals. But in the past two centuries, beginning with the Industrial Revolution, people have been steadily removed from the natural world, our lives regulated not by the sun or moon but instead by the factory clock. Recently it's gotten worse, with the rise of the Internet and other technologies, like iPhones and BlackBerrys, that dominate our lives, pushing us even further from any appreciation of our natural surroundings.
"We began to get the impression that we were somehow above and separate from nature," says Craig Chalquist, an instructor at John F. Kennedy University in San Francisco and co-editor with Buzzell-Saltzman of the new book Ecotherapy: Healing with Nature in Mind.
Today, more than half of the world's population lives in cities, and many people barely ever get a glimpse of green. At the same time, human beings appear to be doing their best to destroy what remains of the earth by contributing to climate change — a problem that in itself causes some people deep anxiety. But what the average person feels as stress or depression, eco-therapists suggest, is a longing for our natural home. "People were embedded in nature once," says Buzzell-Saltzman. "We've lost that, and we're paying the price."
Getting it back doesn't have to be difficult.
Begin with starting a nature journal, in which you record how much time you spend outside. The results can often be shocking.
"Some of my clients find they spend less than 15 to 30 minutes a day outside, other than walking to and from their cars," I suggest that two hours a day is essential in a business life. Time for exercise, time to slow down, time to reconnect with nature simply by hiking, gardening or taking walks outdoors.
All of my business consulting sessions and personal consulting sessions take place outdoors — in a park or by the beach down here at Bondi. I even do my phone consultations while walking on the beach — rather than inside yet another office.
"We can use the natural world to be part of the healing process, and as a vital part of business leadership, team building and company culture. We have to acknowledge that we're part of this, not the master of it."
If such prescriptions sound a little simplistic, consider this: A 2007 study by researchers at the University of Essex in England found that a daily dose of walking outside could be as effective as taking antidepressant drugs for treating mild to moderate depression. Of course, it's no secret that regular exercise is a powerful mood enhancer — although researchers noted that a similar regimen of walking in a crowded shopping mall did not have the same impact — and the boost in vitamin D production in people who spent more time outside in the sun surely helped as well.
It may be that using nature as a crucial part of healing is less a practical psychological treatment than a timely philosophy that connects common feelings of isolation and stress with the fact that the world in which we live is slowly becoming something it shouldn't be. And with worsening climate change and a relentless drumbeat of bad news about our endangered environment, it seems our eco-anxiety may be a symptom of self preservation as much as it is a concern for the future of planet.
"Ultimately, what we need to do is change human behaviour - to reconnect leaders, families, lovers, children, patients, life coaches, hospitals and office workers to nature. It's a commonsense recommendation for humans as well as the environment.
My book series "The Laws of Nature" are available on Kindle and in Print at Amazon
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It's only natural. When we get out of alignment with nature we experience FUNK so why not use nature, or at least re- align ourselves with nature's laws in order to deal with FUNK. It's only Natural.
Here's an article that reveals the trend and its consequences for the Pharma industry:
(NaturalNews)
The market for antidepressant drugs is quickly drying up as patents on long-time blockbusters like Lexapro, owned by Forest Laboratories, and Seroquel, owned by AstraZeneca, continue to expire. And because they are unable to develop new multi-billion-dollar blockbuster drugs to take their places, many drug manufacturers are ditching the antidepressant business altogether, especially as studies continue to emerge showing that antidepressants are largely useless and cause more harm than good.
A recent Reuters report appears to bemoan the fact that development of a new antidepressant drug ceased after it was discovered that the drug was ineffective. Highlighting an overall trend of failure in this area of drug development within the drug industry, the report actually positions drug companies as victims that will stand to lose billions of dollars in profits as a result of their collective failure to come up with new drug options.
According to projections compiled by Thomson Reuters Pharma, worldwide sales of antidepressant drugs are expected to drop by more than half in the next four years. While antidepressant drugs raked in $15 billion in 2003, they are expected to fetch less then $6 billion by 2016 -- and there is no indication that this downward trend will slow any time soon.
Drug-makers also appear to be abandoning research and development of new antidepressants because an increasing number of patients are waking up to the ugly truth about their deadly side effects, and ditching them for safer alternatives. One such reminder of this disturbing truth came in the form of a 2010 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), which found that antidepressants are basically useless for the vast majority of people who take them (http://www.naturalnews.com/028498_antidepressants_clinical_trials.html).
Antidepressants are also exceedingly dangerous, as they can lead to suicidal or homicidal tendencies in some patients. A study conducted by drug giant GlaxoSmithKline (GSK), for instance, revealed last year that its own antidepressant drug Paxil actually make patients worse off mentally, as they are more prone while taking the drug to attempt taking their own lives or the lives of others (http://www.naturalnews.com).
So rather than feel sorry for the drug industry which will have to "suffer" by taking in a few less billion dollars every year, the mainstream media and the public should be chiding Big Pharma for peddling these dangerous drugs in the first place, all the while having exploited the public all these years by charging obscene prices for them.
Sources for this article include:
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It's only natural. When we get out of alignment with nature we experience FUNK so why not use nature, or at least re- align ourselves with nature's laws in order to deal with FUNK. It's only Natural.
Here's an article that reveals the trend and its consequences for the Pharma industry:
(NaturalNews)
The market for antidepressant drugs is quickly drying up as patents on long-time blockbusters like Lexapro, owned by Forest Laboratories, and Seroquel, owned by AstraZeneca, continue to expire. And because they are unable to develop new multi-billion-dollar blockbuster drugs to take their places, many drug manufacturers are ditching the antidepressant business altogether, especially as studies continue to emerge showing that antidepressants are largely useless and cause more harm than good.
A recent Reuters report appears to bemoan the fact that development of a new antidepressant drug ceased after it was discovered that the drug was ineffective. Highlighting an overall trend of failure in this area of drug development within the drug industry, the report actually positions drug companies as victims that will stand to lose billions of dollars in profits as a result of their collective failure to come up with new drug options.
According to projections compiled by Thomson Reuters Pharma, worldwide sales of antidepressant drugs are expected to drop by more than half in the next four years. While antidepressant drugs raked in $15 billion in 2003, they are expected to fetch less then $6 billion by 2016 -- and there is no indication that this downward trend will slow any time soon.
Drug-makers also appear to be abandoning research and development of new antidepressants because an increasing number of patients are waking up to the ugly truth about their deadly side effects, and ditching them for safer alternatives. One such reminder of this disturbing truth came in the form of a 2010 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), which found that antidepressants are basically useless for the vast majority of people who take them (http://www.naturalnews.com/028498_antidepressants_clinical_trials.html).
Antidepressants are also exceedingly dangerous, as they can lead to suicidal or homicidal tendencies in some patients. A study conducted by drug giant GlaxoSmithKline (GSK), for instance, revealed last year that its own antidepressant drug Paxil actually make patients worse off mentally, as they are more prone while taking the drug to attempt taking their own lives or the lives of others (http://www.naturalnews.com).
So rather than feel sorry for the drug industry which will have to "suffer" by taking in a few less billion dollars every year, the mainstream media and the public should be chiding Big Pharma for peddling these dangerous drugs in the first place, all the while having exploited the public all these years by charging obscene prices for them.
Sources for this article include:
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Drawing upon his experiences at P&G, President and CEO Bob McDonald outlines 10 characteristics of a great leaderBy Rachel Farrell
Bob McDonald has a top 10 list.
On Oct. 7, McDonald, the president and CEO of Procter & Gamble, presented his list of the 10 defining characteristics of a “value-based leader” to Kellogg students in the Owen L. Coon Forum. The list was inspired by experiences that McDonald had over the course of his 20-year career.
McDonald offered his beliefs as a guideline and urged students to develop their own “list” of sorts.
“It is important for each individual and each organization to get in touch with their education, experiences, culture, family heritage and organizational memberships to develop their own set of beliefs,” he said.
1. Lead a life guided by purpose.
Only work for a company that you believe in, said McDonald. When looking for a job, examine a company’s purpose, values and people to see if they align with your own beliefs and ethics.
2. Everyone wants to succeed and success is contagious.
Treat your employees like they want to succeed, not like they want to fail. “Most of us manage by exception: We wait until someone does something wrong to interact with him or her,” McDonald said. “Spend enough time in your leadership role finding people succeeding.”
3. Put people in the right jobs.
McDonald emphasized the importance of identifying your employees’ strengths, and then placing them in roles that feed into those strengths. “At P&G, we have 130,000 employees around the world,” he said. “Imagine what would happen if we put them in jobs that they weren’t good at.”
4. Character is the most important trait of a leader.
It’s important for leaders to have integrity and take responsibility for their mistakes. “Choose the harder right, rather than the easier wrong,” McDonald said, citing a prayer that he learned as a cadet at the United States Military Academy at West Point.
5. Diverse groups of people are more innovative than homogenous groups.
Diversity sparks ideas and innovation, so companies must employ a diverse group of people. “We try to plan innovation, but there’s a little serendipity involved,” McDonald said. “Diversity is what helps these nodes to connect.”
6. Ineffective strategies, systems and culture are bigger barriers to achievement than the talents of people.
It’s important to blend a high-performance culture with robust systems and sound strategies, McDonald said. Those ingredients, coupled with technical competencies and a strong company mission, will create a high-performance organization.
7. There will be some people in the organization who will not make it on the journey.
Some employees won’t turn out to be a good fit for your company. As head of a company, it’s your responsibility to find the right place for them. “Your job as a leader is to be committed to them as people, not employees,” said McDonald.
8. Organizations must renew themselves.
Leaders should always think about what changes are needed to stay relevant in the marketplace and fulfill the company purpose. “Organizations are like biological organisms — they constantly need to change,” said McDonald.
9. Recruiting is a top priority.
“Somewhere here is someone who will be giving a presentation here years from now,” said McDonald, pointing to the audience of Kellogg students. “And that excites me.”
10. The true test of a leader is the organization’s performance after the leader departs.
If you want to determine whether a leader has been successful, “look at their fingerprints and footprints,” concluded McDonald.
McDonald was appointed president and CEO of P&G on July 1, 2009. He previously served as vice chairman of global operations for the company, where he led sales, information technology, logistics, customer marketing and on-the-ground operations in more than 80 countries. McDonald also previously managed P&G’s business in developing markets, which accounted for 20 percent of company sales.
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The Innerwealth Three Step Cure for Feeling Blue
1. Calm
2. Trust
3. Imagine
1. Calm
Something usually triggers the blues. Stress exhaserbates them. Stimulants externalise them, sending depression within. Calm is the best cure even if it feels painfully passive at the time.
Go sit in nature and just let your mind drift to what isn't wrong with your life. Look down the list of what could be wrong and isn't. Maybe you can even write things down like "I haven't got xyz" or "I have still got abc" thinking like this focusses you on the abundance of what is, rather than the issues.
The ultimate achievement in being calm is emptiness. When you come to the place of feeling like you are nothing, need nothing, want nothing, you will realise that you have everything. Emptiness is the authentic space of your primal and spiritual home. Some call it soul. Whatever you call it, there is absolutely nothing there. It is emptiness and in this place you are impenetrable and powerful. Empty is actually full.
2. Trust
In my Back on Track online coaching course - there are seven steps to recovery, getting back in track in life. But the ultimate and most important step is trust.
Trust that there is order in the chaos. Trust that your current chaos has order. That you are actually not off track at all - that where you are is a place of transition that is essential for you to create meaning and gift yourself with fulfilment. You can know that balance exists and for every dark there must be a light and if you can process the dark experiences light shines from them. Always.
Now, you may feel shitty. That's because there's a lack of certain chemicals flowing in your body. During dark times it is essential that you maintain trust that this pain has a pleasure and that one of those pleasures is growth to new meaning. You are evolving and this alone is a stand up, brilliant awareness that can, in itself, just by trusting this, cause those missing chemicals whose absence is making you feel blue, come back into your body system. Believe it before you see it. Trust that all blue has a gold in it. If you can't see it, email or call me for help. Free - it's what I do.
3. Imagine
Blue is simply lost hope that something you wanted will come true.
Suicidal feelings and depression are both triggered by the idea that tomorrow will not be as good as yesterday.
When we lose hope we easily imagine yesterday as more pain free than tomorrow. So, when that happens we lose the will to move forward. This mental state demonstrates the power of human imagination because actually tomorrow will be better than today but when we can't imagine it, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Looking forward to tomorrow is the single most important element in life and if our imagination is powerful enough to imagine the worst, well, we can use that same power to imagine the best.
Now there is a caution here. Imagining fantasies is not wise. There is always a blend of support and challenge in life. So imagining pleasure without pain is not healthy and may have been a contibuting factor in becoming blue.
So when you imagine the future, use terms that are not sensory delights. For example - there are two ways to say "I imagine a life partner" - one would be " I imagine a beautiful (sensory) - sexy (sensory) - honest (sensory) partner." This is fantasy because there are two sides to everyone and you will get a shock when they exhibit the true nature of being human.
Instead you can simply say "I imagine a life partner who I love and who loves me on our journey through life"
Here's an exercise you might try:
Make a list of things that would make you feel better about the grand scheme of your life: focus on the career objectives that will get you to where you want to be, think about how you can nurture relationships with your friends and family, make a plan to change the world by donating your time or services to a charitable cause, or chart a course to travel to all the places you've always dreamed of going to. You can even do little things, like getting new clothes and personal effects to replace the old ones you got rid of, in an effort to shift your personal image and update the vibration you're sending out to the world. Whatever it is that you want to do, identify it, and note what these improvements will do for your self-esteem and confidence. Don't worry about going overboard! Let your imagination go wild. Once you've completed this list, decide what is most feasible for you to do ASAP, and then do it.
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The Innerwealth Three Step Cure for Feeling Blue
1. Calm
2. Trust
3. Imagine
1. Calm
Something usually triggers the blues. Stress exhaserbates them. Stimulants externalise them, sending depression within. Calm is the best cure even if it feels painfully passive at the time.
Go sit in nature and just let your mind drift to what isn't wrong with your life. Look down the list of what could be wrong and isn't. Maybe you can even write things down like "I haven't got xyz" or "I have still got abc" thinking like this focusses you on the abundance of what is, rather than the issues.
The ultimate achievement in being calm is emptiness. When you come to the place of feeling like you are nothing, need nothing, want nothing, you will realise that you have everything. Emptiness is the authentic space of your primal and spiritual home. Some call it soul. Whatever you call it, there is absolutely nothing there. It is emptiness and in this place you are impenetrable and powerful. Empty is actually full.
2. Trust
In my Back on Track online coaching course - there are seven steps to recovery, getting back in track in life. But the ultimate and most important step is trust.
Trust that there is order in the chaos. Trust that your current chaos has order. That you are actually not off track at all - that where you are is a place of transition that is essential for you to create meaning and gift yourself with fulfilment. You can know that balance exists and for every dark there must be a light and if you can process the dark experiences light shines from them. Always.
Now, you may feel shitty. That's because there's a lack of certain chemicals flowing in your body. During dark times it is essential that you maintain trust that this pain has a pleasure and that one of those pleasures is growth to new meaning. You are evolving and this alone is a stand up, brilliant awareness that can, in itself, just by trusting this, cause those missing chemicals whose absence is making you feel blue, come back into your body system. Believe it before you see it. Trust that all blue has a gold in it. If you can't see it, email or call me for help. Free - it's what I do.
3. Imagine
Blue is simply lost hope that something you wanted will come true.
Suicidal feelings and depression are both triggered by the idea that tomorrow will not be as good as yesterday.
When we lose hope we easily imagine yesterday as more pain free than tomorrow. So, when that happens we lose the will to move forward. This mental state demonstrates the power of human imagination because actually tomorrow will be better than today but when we can't imagine it, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Looking forward to tomorrow is the single most important element in life and if our imagination is powerful enough to imagine the worst, well, we can use that same power to imagine the best.
Now there is a caution here. Imagining fantasies is not wise. There is always a blend of support and challenge in life. So imagining pleasure without pain is not healthy and may have been a contibuting factor in becoming blue.
So when you imagine the future, use terms that are not sensory delights. For example - there are two ways to say "I imagine a life partner" - one would be " I imagine a beautiful (sensory) - sexy (sensory) - honest (sensory) partner." This is fantasy because there are two sides to everyone and you will get a shock when they exhibit the true nature of being human.
Instead you can simply say "I imagine a life partner who I love and who loves me on our journey through life"
Here's an exercise you might try:
Make a list of things that would make you feel better about the grand scheme of your life: focus on the career objectives that will get you to where you want to be, think about how you can nurture relationships with your friends and family, make a plan to change the world by donating your time or services to a charitable cause, or chart a course to travel to all the places you've always dreamed of going to. You can even do little things, like getting new clothes and personal effects to replace the old ones you got rid of, in an effort to shift your personal image and update the vibration you're sending out to the world. Whatever it is that you want to do, identify it, and note what these improvements will do for your self-esteem and confidence. Don't worry about going overboard! Let your imagination go wild. Once you've completed this list, decide what is most feasible for you to do ASAP, and then do it.
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From John Demartini original article here
You have probably had moments in your life where you felt successful. Possibly you felt puffed up, proud, almost self-righteous and then noticed really humbling circumstances showed up. You’ve also probably had moments when you felt down and noticed that you attracted circumstances and people to lift you up.
Any time you go above your authentic self and think that you are somehow more successful than you really are you become cocky you have a built-in thermostat to bring in events to try and get you back down so you can be yourself. The same thing when you go down. Nature tries to bring you back into balance inside your human experience. Any time you allow yourself to get addicted to being ‘up’, you attract events to bring you ‘down’. Anytime you try to compensate for being ‘down’, you attract support to get you back ‘up’ again. I call it the resistance factors and the assistance factors to make sure that we are authentic.
Sometimes we get addicted to one side; we want the fame but we don’t want the downside of fame. We want the ‘up’ but we don’t want to have the fall. The real truth is that those falling mechanisms are actually getting us back into the centre. When we know how to take the ‘downs’ and use it as feedback, we stop our addiction to the ‘ups’.
When you master your life, you learn to master your own emotions. You do not take credit or blame, you instead keep focused on the chief aim, your highest priority in life.
When you think that you are successful, you have forgotten to notice all the things that you are not doing that is automatically bringing you down. If you don’t become aware of them then you attract an event to humble you.
We are not here for success. We are here to fulfil a mission, do something that inspires us, that gives us meaning. We are not here for the superficial facades called success or failure. When you have a bigger vision, success and failure doesn’t get in your way. If you think you are successful, you probably don’t have a vision bigger than that, that is why you are labelling yourself that way.
People come up to me all the time and ask me how did I achieve success? I tell them that I don’t think of it that way. I think about what I am inspired by, what is my mission and what am I am grateful for and I keep working on that. I don’t get caught in the labels of success and failure; just feedback mechanisms so the most masterful person is the ones that can manage themselves. They don’t require the outer environment to kick them back into the centre.
So if you find yourself really cocky and up, ask yourself:
- Who have you forgotten to take care of today?
- Who did you not serve?
- What did you forget to do?
If you’re feeling down, all you have to ask yourself:
- What did I accomplish
- Who did I serve
- What did I make a difference in today?
For further questions to assist you to remain centred, download the Self- Regulation Checklist here.
Learn to manage your own states so that you don’t get caught in these ups and downs, elations and depression, bi-polar states.
The person who is centered is the person who becomes the leader. There is a word called ‘governmentus’ – one who can govern their own mind. Governing your mind means to take out the vicissitudes and the volatilities of the mind and keep yourself centred.
There are a lot of people who are supposedly the heroes; the people that have done super-achievements and super-success and later down the line they become the ‘villains’ in some people’s perspective. The real truth is that they are human beings and they have both sides. But the second they take credit, they attract blame. Nature is trying to bring that balance. Instead of getting addicted to the one side, embrace both sides of life because otherwise you are going to be trying to get rid of half of yourself and you will never appreciate and love yourself trying to get rid of half of you.
If you manage your life by seeing both sides and embracing both sides equally; you won’t get caught in the illusions of ‘success’ and ‘failure’; the ego’s of self-righteous, self-wrongeous, pride and shame and all the things that distract you.
If you infatuate with somebody, you will eventually discover that there are downsides to them. If you resent somebody, you will eventually discover that there were upsides to them. You can do the same thing with yourself. You can call it pride and shame or success and failure. See both sides. Keep a balanced orientation. When you have ambition, you have ‘ambi’, both sidedness. So self manage yourself, regulate those oscillations. Keep focused on a bigger vision so you don’t label yourself as a success or a failure. You label yourself somebody on a mission of doing something you love. When you do, you will have the greatest achievements and you won’t end up in the news with highs and lows.
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From John Demartini original article here
You have probably had moments in your life where you felt successful. Possibly you felt puffed up, proud, almost self-righteous and then noticed really humbling circumstances showed up. You’ve also probably had moments when you felt down and noticed that you attracted circumstances and people to lift you up.
Any time you go above your authentic self and think that you are somehow more successful than you really are you become cocky you have a built-in thermostat to bring in events to try and get you back down so you can be yourself. The same thing when you go down. Nature tries to bring you back into balance inside your human experience. Any time you allow yourself to get addicted to being ‘up’, you attract events to bring you ‘down’. Anytime you try to compensate for being ‘down’, you attract support to get you back ‘up’ again. I call it the resistance factors and the assistance factors to make sure that we are authentic.
Sometimes we get addicted to one side; we want the fame but we don’t want the downside of fame. We want the ‘up’ but we don’t want to have the fall. The real truth is that those falling mechanisms are actually getting us back into the centre. When we know how to take the ‘downs’ and use it as feedback, we stop our addiction to the ‘ups’.
When you master your life, you learn to master your own emotions. You do not take credit or blame, you instead keep focused on the chief aim, your highest priority in life.
When you think that you are successful, you have forgotten to notice all the things that you are not doing that is automatically bringing you down. If you don’t become aware of them then you attract an event to humble you.
We are not here for success. We are here to fulfil a mission, do something that inspires us, that gives us meaning. We are not here for the superficial facades called success or failure. When you have a bigger vision, success and failure doesn’t get in your way. If you think you are successful, you probably don’t have a vision bigger than that, that is why you are labelling yourself that way.
People come up to me all the time and ask me how did I achieve success? I tell them that I don’t think of it that way. I think about what I am inspired by, what is my mission and what am I am grateful for and I keep working on that. I don’t get caught in the labels of success and failure; just feedback mechanisms so the most masterful person is the ones that can manage themselves. They don’t require the outer environment to kick them back into the centre.
So if you find yourself really cocky and up, ask yourself:
- Who have you forgotten to take care of today?
- Who did you not serve?
- What did you forget to do?
If you’re feeling down, all you have to ask yourself:
- What did I accomplish
- Who did I serve
- What did I make a difference in today?
For further questions to assist you to remain centred, download the Self- Regulation Checklist here.
Learn to manage your own states so that you don’t get caught in these ups and downs, elations and depression, bi-polar states.
The person who is centered is the person who becomes the leader. There is a word called ‘governmentus’ – one who can govern their own mind. Governing your mind means to take out the vicissitudes and the volatilities of the mind and keep yourself centred.
There are a lot of people who are supposedly the heroes; the people that have done super-achievements and super-success and later down the line they become the ‘villains’ in some people’s perspective. The real truth is that they are human beings and they have both sides. But the second they take credit, they attract blame. Nature is trying to bring that balance. Instead of getting addicted to the one side, embrace both sides of life because otherwise you are going to be trying to get rid of half of yourself and you will never appreciate and love yourself trying to get rid of half of you.
If you manage your life by seeing both sides and embracing both sides equally; you won’t get caught in the illusions of ‘success’ and ‘failure’; the ego’s of self-righteous, self-wrongeous, pride and shame and all the things that distract you.
If you infatuate with somebody, you will eventually discover that there are downsides to them. If you resent somebody, you will eventually discover that there were upsides to them. You can do the same thing with yourself. You can call it pride and shame or success and failure. See both sides. Keep a balanced orientation. When you have ambition, you have ‘ambi’, both sidedness. So self manage yourself, regulate those oscillations. Keep focused on a bigger vision so you don’t label yourself as a success or a failure. You label yourself somebody on a mission of doing something you love. When you do, you will have the greatest achievements and you won’t end up in the news with highs and lows.
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The question is about priorities.
Heaven forbid but if I were to say to you that your life depended on balance, you'd do it. No, it's not about lack of time it's about lack of priority. Other things are just more important to you right now and so why not just love yourself for who you are, rather than who you could be.
I spoke to one client about balance and he said "the last thing I want in my life is balance. I want inspiration, I want to dive into whatever I do completely imbalanced." So, you see, there's no right or wrong when it comes to how we choose to live. There's just acceptance and rejection.
However, there is a thing called unsustainable. If you are living your beautiful life and choosing to ignore some tell tale signals that each of the seven areas of life are not being looked after, you'd better take heed.
In a recent relationship I could tell my partner was lying to me. However I chose to ignore it and simply be out of balance in that area of my life. Well that's living unsustainably, because the stress of ignoring lies is painful and unsustainable. it wrecked my health, and some other things too uncomfortable to mention.
So, instead of looking for balance, look for sustainability and then put your whole heart and soul into what it is you'd love to do. That's a wiser way to approach fulfilment.
Love and Spirit
Chris
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The question is about priorities.
Heaven forbid but if I were to say to you that your life depended on balance, you'd do it. No, it's not about lack of time it's about lack of priority. Other things are just more important to you right now and so why not just love yourself for who you are, rather than who you could be.
I spoke to one client about balance and he said "the last thing I want in my life is balance. I want inspiration, I want to dive into whatever I do completely imbalanced." So, you see, there's no right or wrong when it comes to how we choose to live. There's just acceptance and rejection.
However, there is a thing called unsustainable. If you are living your beautiful life and choosing to ignore some tell tale signals that each of the seven areas of life are not being looked after, you'd better take heed.
In a recent relationship I could tell my partner was lying to me. However I chose to ignore it and simply be out of balance in that area of my life. Well that's living unsustainably, because the stress of ignoring lies is painful and unsustainable. it wrecked my health, and some other things too uncomfortable to mention.
So, instead of looking for balance, look for sustainability and then put your whole heart and soul into what it is you'd love to do. That's a wiser way to approach fulfilment.
Love and Spirit
Chris
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What do we think? Is sadness an end to something? Is happiness a cause for direction? One must be cautioned that sadness is not a bad experience and happiness is not a reason to do something. Both produce addictions and the addictions are dopamine. It's really not the foundation you seek for a good life.
Relax, sit quietly alone in nature and you will hear your heart beat. Only when you can hear your own heartbeat can you say "I know my direction" -
The best relaxation is nature. But one can still worry in nature. You might worry about how fast you run, or how much weight you lost, this is exercise. Vital exercise.
Relaxation comes after exercise. There are three keys to relaxation - they are not music, sex and a good feed. The three keys to relaxation are:
Ambivalence
Posture
Nervous calm
1. Ambivalence comes by not being pessimistic nor optimistic. Orr comes from having both at once. Balanced mind.
2. Posture means not arching your spine open or closed but standing with a long neck and chin drawn in. The spine will look after itself if you remember this.
3. Nervous calm is mostly about diet. If you eat junk you make your nerves junk. But food is not just things you eat. Food is also how you love - kindness, generousity, thankfulness and compassion. This is good food - more important than organic kale on your plate.
From the heart of Chris
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J came to me after three years of virtual abuse at the hands of his employer. He'd been sidelined, had his pay cut, was under pressure to achieve and yet, the area he was working in was offering reduced potential and lower sales margins.
J had done the only thing he knew how. He'd worked harder. This strained his relationship. He came home tired and although he felt he was making an effort, his heart and mind were usually somewhere else even on romantic moments with his partner.
J is not alone. The cost of stress at work and the illusion that harder work means better results has far reaching community impact.
J had other options:
1. Cull low priority activities in his daily work routine including creating shorter meetings and less time spent invested in panic.
2. Relax more .. It's amazing how much more effective our decisions and choices are in our work when we are calm. In fact I'd suggest our productivity goes up 20% automatically when we don't panic. Best relaxation is exercise.
3. Love the challenge... J spent a lot of time complaining about why he was being persecuted at work, not taking into account that he'd really been in resentment for this job for a number of years. He really quit the job years ago and had been hiding under the radar hoping for a solution to pop out of a magic meeting with someone new. Instead, J could learn to appreciate where he is, in order to get what he wants.
4. J's home life wasn't on track. They wanted a baby, it wasn't happening for some reason and this placed a huge lifestyle stress over J. Literally, it never left his mind. The key here would be to link this job to the happiness at home and make sure there was a positive association between what he wanted and what he was doing.
Live with an open heart,
Chris
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J came to me after three years of virtual abuse at the hands of his employer. He'd been sidelined, had his pay cut, was under pressure to achieve and yet, the area he was working in was offering reduced potential and lower sales margins.
J had done the only thing he knew how. He'd worked harder. This strained his relationship. He came home tired and although he felt he was making an effort, his heart and mind were usually somewhere else even on romantic moments with his partner.
J is not alone. The cost of stress at work and the illusion that harder work means better results has far reaching community impact.
J had other options:
1. Cull low priority activities in his daily work routine including creating shorter meetings and less time spent invested in panic.
2. Relax more .. It's amazing how much more effective our decisions and choices are in our work when we are calm. In fact I'd suggest our productivity goes up 20% automatically when we don't panic. Best relaxation is exercise.
3. Love the challenge... J spent a lot of time complaining about why he was being persecuted at work, not taking into account that he'd really been in resentment for this job for a number of years. He really quit the job years ago and had been hiding under the radar hoping for a solution to pop out of a magic meeting with someone new. Instead, J could learn to appreciate where he is, in order to get what he wants.
4. J's home life wasn't on track. They wanted a baby, it wasn't happening for some reason and this placed a huge lifestyle stress over J. Literally, it never left his mind. The key here would be to link this job to the happiness at home and make sure there was a positive association between what he wanted and what he was doing.
Live with an open heart,
Chris
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The F1 Grand Prix is an intense event for everyone concerned.
But for the celebrity driver even more so. First there are a sting of social engagements leading up to the race, sponsors demanding attendance at black tie events and then of course, endless press interviews.
When one Australian driver was interviewed about these potential distractions he simply replied, "no, it's easy, I compartmentalise."
To compartmentalise means to put things in boxes. Like to put a work problem aside when out on a date or a deep personal worry away while you work. This is a conventional approach that seems to work for a lot of people - at least in theory.
The driver in the F1 crashed. The person sitting opposite me at dinner last night wasn't really all there. I don't think compartmentalising really works as well as people think.
B's relationship was on the rocks, they had ann8 month old baby and were arguing continually. When I asked him about it he blamed his "needy" family. I didn't buy it.
On further exploration B' revealed a war that was going on between himself and his boss. A hate relationship. But B was trapped, the pay was great and their domestic needs, although he had reserves, were demanding that income.
B thought he was compartmentalising. But he wasn't. He was infecting his marriage, his babe, his health and family with toxin that oozed out of him between the lines of care.
B thought he was compartmentalising. He thought everything was disconnected. He wanted to work on his relationship but really, this hate thing at work, which he blamed 100% on the other person, was at the heart of his whole life struggle.
It took 7 days, 2 hours a day, to swing things around. B finally processed the anger, evolved himself above the situation. And guess what?
His relationship transformed overnight. His "needy" family became a loving, warm, kind and generous place to be.
The moral of this story: it's better to process your judgements than to be under the impression that being tender in your meditation is going to overcome your anger with something or someone in the real world. Compartments just don't work because all human hearts are intuitive, even if the other person denies what they feel from you, they know, deep down when you are not being real.
From the heart of Chris
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The F1 Grand Prix is an intense event for everyone concerned.
But for the celebrity driver even more so. First there are a sting of social engagements leading up to the race, sponsors demanding attendance at black tie events and then of course, endless press interviews.
When one Australian driver was interviewed about these potential distractions he simply replied, "no, it's easy, I compartmentalise."
To compartmentalise means to put things in boxes. Like to put a work problem aside when out on a date or a deep personal worry away while you work. This is a conventional approach that seems to work for a lot of people - at least in theory.
The driver in the F1 crashed. The person sitting opposite me at dinner last night wasn't really all there. I don't think compartmentalising really works as well as people think.
B's relationship was on the rocks, they had ann8 month old baby and were arguing continually. When I asked him about it he blamed his "needy" family. I didn't buy it.
On further exploration B' revealed a war that was going on between himself and his boss. A hate relationship. But B was trapped, the pay was great and their domestic needs, although he had reserves, were demanding that income.
B thought he was compartmentalising. But he wasn't. He was infecting his marriage, his babe, his health and family with toxin that oozed out of him between the lines of care.
B thought he was compartmentalising. He thought everything was disconnected. He wanted to work on his relationship but really, this hate thing at work, which he blamed 100% on the other person, was at the heart of his whole life struggle.
It took 7 days, 2 hours a day, to swing things around. B finally processed the anger, evolved himself above the situation. And guess what?
His relationship transformed overnight. His "needy" family became a loving, warm, kind and generous place to be.
The moral of this story: it's better to process your judgements than to be under the impression that being tender in your meditation is going to overcome your anger with something or someone in the real world. Compartments just don't work because all human hearts are intuitive, even if the other person denies what they feel from you, they know, deep down when you are not being real.
From the heart of Chris
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Sometimes the road gets bumpy. It's surprising how little it can take to get us off track or out of balance. It's a tight rope and for the most part we do great at dealing with the wobbles that happen.
But every now and then life can throw us a curved ball and put us on the back foot and cause us to revert to patterns of response that are unhealthy.
Here are a few things to be mindful about during those ugly times:
1. Nobody does to you more than you do to yourself. If someone puts you down or is critical they've done you a favour by doing on the outside what you are doing on the inside. Don't run and blame. Instead thank and grow (grow means to dig in a work out why you are doing on the inside what somebody is doing to you on the outside) - don't run, evolve.
2. Ugly things don't signal you are on the wrong track - often they mean you are on the right track but you are growing through a self set limitation. So, again, don't blame and run, stop, evolve and grow.
3. Time and space - have you noticed that the further you get away from a problem the closer you get to a solution. The more instantaneous your choices, the more likely it is that you are acting habitually and potentially in a repeat cycle. So, avoid making big decisions when you are in reaction, blame or anger mode, because the likelihood is, you are not thinking in a healthy way, long term.
4. Watch your diet. During ugly times and when we are in repeat cycles of stress or reaction, we revert to food and substances as a mechanism for self medication, whether it is good diet or bad a sudden over emphasis on food - too much or too little can be a big sign that we are in reaction ( includes alcohol and coffee). Such signals are warnings that our choices are not coming from a good place.
5. Go back to purpose - the difference between living from ego reaction and living from your true self, your heart, is the amount of emphasis you place on feelings. It's hard but feelings are driven by ego and ego will make decisions based on pieces of incomplete data. Do you know your purpose? How does this ugly period like back to your purpose - Do you know your values? How does this ugly period demonstrate that you are not living according to your true values? Remember, nature destroys anything that is not fulfilling its purpose so the ugly time might just reveal that you were off not linking what you were doing to your purpose and values. This can be a great and positive way to approach any healing.
With spirit
Chris
The Back on Track - 30 day challenge is a city retreat designed to work you through any ugly patch in your life, resolve it and teach you the process of getting Back on Track quickly for the next time.
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I love the way nature guides us, contraction is not an option.
Sometime we hook our purpose onto fixtures hoping to create something special. But nothing in nature is fixed.
Sometimes we invest in something that fails to live to our expectations but in nature our expectations cannot halt the evolution of our master plan - where there is conflict between our expectations and nature's destiny, expectations lose.
We sometimes think that we are off purpose but we are never off purpose always learning lessons, if we are thankful for that we don't always need to repeat the same lessons, bitten by the same dog twice isn't essential.
Sometimes we invest in possibilities that don't manifest. This is the heart of the visionary and he or she has to get ised to the fact that some dreams do not manifest as they were hoped. The visionary can see what others can't and therefore sometimes the visionary sees the future while others resist. In nature there is a vision and those who tune to it create with a good heartedness.
Stress reveals a conflict within. That stress is 99% intuition arguing with hopes and dreams. In nature, intuition is the whole art of survival. It is wise to hone this art of intuition and save yourself wasting time, effort and resources and getting stressed.
The Back on Track 30 Day Challenge focusses 100% on your intuitive natureteaching you the skills to trust it, and understand nature well enough to hone that intuition (inspiration is a higher form of intuition) into vision and purpose.
Five things you need to know about intuitive awareness:
1. Pragmatism kills it
2. Disobeying it leads to physical and mental health problems - grave illness.
3. Doubt and fear are the result of following intuition (fearless is not a good sign of intuition)
4. Emotion is not intuitive - gratitude shifts emotion in the right direction (elation and depression shift it in the wrong direction)
5. Love is the only true space where intuition can rise to inspiration
With Spirit
Chris
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I love the way nature guides us, contraction is not an option.
Sometime we hook our purpose onto fixtures hoping to create something special. But nothing in nature is fixed.
Sometimes we invest in something that fails to live to our expectations but in nature our expectations cannot halt the evolution of our master plan - where there is conflict between our expectations and nature's destiny, expectations lose.
We sometimes think that we are off purpose but we are never off purpose always learning lessons, if we are thankful for that we don't always need to repeat the same lessons, bitten by the same dog twice isn't essential.
Sometimes we invest in possibilities that don't manifest. This is the heart of the visionary and he or she has to get ised to the fact that some dreams do not manifest as they were hoped. The visionary can see what others can't and therefore sometimes the visionary sees the future while others resist. In nature there is a vision and those who tune to it create with a good heartedness.
Stress reveals a conflict within. That stress is 99% intuition arguing with hopes and dreams. In nature, intuition is the whole art of survival. It is wise to hone this art of intuition and save yourself wasting time, effort and resources and getting stressed.
The Back on Track 30 Day Challenge focusses 100% on your intuitive natureteaching you the skills to trust it, and understand nature well enough to hone that intuition (inspiration is a higher form of intuition) into vision and purpose.
Five things you need to know about intuitive awareness:
1. Pragmatism kills it
2. Disobeying it leads to physical and mental health problems - grave illness.
3. Doubt and fear are the result of following intuition (fearless is not a good sign of intuition)
4. Emotion is not intuitive - gratitude shifts emotion in the right direction (elation and depression shift it in the wrong direction)
5. Love is the only true space where intuition can rise to inspiration
With Spirit
Chris
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The greatest weakness is strength. Staying strong prevents adaptation, it's pure ego. Let go and flow - that's strong.
Einstein once said "most people give up when they are 99% of the way to the finish line... " he claims that in his observation the difference between getting what you want and losing it, is the willingness to suffer the hard times when doubt, fear, uncertainty and confusion overwhelm us with a desire to run away.
The frist step of the Back on Track 30 Day Challenge is to note down your intent. This may be a great thing to do today for yourself. Mapping your intent is important because it is this map that can guide you across the line and into success, love and health when you feel a bit like abandoning ship.
Ask yourself "What do I want to experience and feel in your WORK, RELATIONSHIP, SOCIAL LIFE, HEALTH, WEALTH, SPIRITUALITY AND MENTAL WISDOM. List those down the left side of a page at least like this:
Health
I want to feel youthful
I want to feel light and energetic
I want to feel strong in my body
I want to be able to swim easily
Relationship
I want to feel love and loved by my partner
I want to feel devoted and tender with my partner
I want to feel trust and trusted
I want to feel like my partner values me
Etc
Then, go down the right side of the page - and opposite each one of the intentions, write the opposite.
Health
I am going to feel old sometimes
I am going to feel heavy and lethargic sometimes
I am going to feel weak in my body sometimes
I am going to be unable to swim easily sometimes
Relationship
I am going to feel unloved and unloving toward my partner sometimes
I am going to feel not devoted or tender with my partner sometimes
I am not going to trust or be trusted by my partner sometimes
I am going to feel devalued by my partner sometimes
Resolution
Go down this list of opposites and think to yourself -- what am I going to do when I feel this opposite experience in my INTENT? Do I have a process to deal with it and to bring me back on track?
This is the key that Einstein and the Universal laws of nature advocate, learning to adapt is wiser that reacting because there are always two sides to your intent: The one you want, and the opposite... If you set this up well, your reactions to the opposites will not dishearten you at all....
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The greatest weakness is strength. Staying strong prevents adaptation, it's pure ego. Let go and flow - that's strong.
Einstein once said "most people give up when they are 99% of the way to the finish line... " he claims that in his observation the difference between getting what you want and losing it, is the willingness to suffer the hard times when doubt, fear, uncertainty and confusion overwhelm us with a desire to run away.
The frist step of the Back on Track 30 Day Challenge is to note down your intent. This may be a great thing to do today for yourself. Mapping your intent is important because it is this map that can guide you across the line and into success, love and health when you feel a bit like abandoning ship.
Ask yourself "What do I want to experience and feel in your WORK, RELATIONSHIP, SOCIAL LIFE, HEALTH, WEALTH, SPIRITUALITY AND MENTAL WISDOM. List those down the left side of a page at least like this:
Health
I want to feel youthful
I want to feel light and energetic
I want to feel strong in my body
I want to be able to swim easily
Relationship
I want to feel love and loved by my partner
I want to feel devoted and tender with my partner
I want to feel trust and trusted
I want to feel like my partner values me
Etc
Then, go down the right side of the page - and opposite each one of the intentions, write the opposite.
Health
I am going to feel old sometimes
I am going to feel heavy and lethargic sometimes
I am going to feel weak in my body sometimes
I am going to be unable to swim easily sometimes
Relationship
I am going to feel unloved and unloving toward my partner sometimes
I am going to feel not devoted or tender with my partner sometimes
I am not going to trust or be trusted by my partner sometimes
I am going to feel devalued by my partner sometimes
Resolution
Go down this list of opposites and think to yourself -- what am I going to do when I feel this opposite experience in my INTENT? Do I have a process to deal with it and to bring me back on track?
This is the key that Einstein and the Universal laws of nature advocate, learning to adapt is wiser that reacting because there are always two sides to your intent: The one you want, and the opposite... If you set this up well, your reactions to the opposites will not dishearten you at all....
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Today's Articles - Feelings of Love
I love you is more than three little words…….
You are not your feelings
Great Video about Putting Your Heart into Something
Today's Articles - Feelings of Love
Posted: 01 May 2013 04:56 PM PDT
Hi,
Today i've posted a few articles that really caught my eye over the past weeks. They focus on love.
For me, I find it so easy to get caught up in the turmoil and pragmatic variables of life that are so important but at the same time, getting disengaged from all the important things that make it good to be of help to others and live my VIP.
What I've been emphasising over the past weeks in all the articles I've written for you, is making wise choices and having honest expectations of life. The real topic that evolves through all of this is - How do you feel today?
Since time began, people have been trying to feel good on a daily basis. Adam supposedly ate the apple submitting to temptation and forgoing long term benefits for short term feelings. So, it seems there is a quandary that has existed forever, and will exist forever.
That quandary is between short term pleasure (feeling good day to day) and long term results (feeling good in the long term.
We choose this daily.
On the one hand there is the person who might say "I don't care about anything or anyone - all that matters is me, right now and getting what I want" They often go to any source that stimulates their feel good experience whether it be food, sex, greed or spirituality... (the four substitutes)
On the other hand there is the stoic person who puts emotion aside and applies discipline to life. This person struggles a bit with daily happiness, never quite feeling that things are on track, but, at the end of a long period they will achieve a lot.
The cost of having what you want in the long term is paid in the short term
The cost of having what you want in the short term is paid in the long term.
Can we find the balance?
The answer is absolutely NO - as long as the definition of "feeling good" sinks down to self gratification and the multiplicity of emotional states that go with it are the measure of life.
The answer is absolutely YES - as long as love is the definition of "feeling good" rises up though the mire of dirt and dust of daily troubles to be the primary experience one has in life.
THe articles of the day list a few ideas about this. One important idea is that you can love anything you choose and it will permeate your life. Nature, a dog, a god, but the key here is that when you try to love yourself you are trying to love shifting sand or moving water. I believe, and I will take it through the tests of many challenges, that the first love in life, is a significant other. A partner, spouse or lover. This is, for an adult at least, the platform nature intended. It takes courage, an open heart and skills I teach to achieve this space, sacred love, but it's doable, you just need to trust your heart.
Trusting your heart is easy, once you know what it feels like to have it open in contrast to having a deep seated emotion... that's the experience I share in the 30 day challenge.
Love and wisdom
Chris
I love you is more than three little words…….
Posted: 01 May 2013 01:51 PM PDT
I love this article from Joshi's clinic... so I've reproduced it for you.
When you say you love somebody, there should a much greater motivation than simply those spoken words.
Try to be constant so that they will understand the core of your personality and from that understanding gain strength and security that you are acting as you. You may falter with your moods. You may project, at times, a strangeness that is alien to them which may bewilder or frighten them. There will be times when they question your motives. But because people are never constant and are as changeable as the seasons, you should try to build up within them a faith in your fundamental attitude and show that your inconsistency is only for the moment and not a lasting part of you. Show your love now. Each and every day, for each day is a lifetime. Every day we live, we learn more how to love. Do not defer your love nor neglect it, for if you wait until tomorrow, tomorrow never comes. It is like a cloud in the sky, passing by.
If you give kindness and understanding, then you will receive faith. If you give hate and dishonesty, you will receive distrust. If you give fear and are afraid, they will become afraid and fear you. You need give out what you need to receive.
The degree of love you give is determined by your own capability. My capability is determined by the environment of my past existence and my understanding of love, truth and God. My understanding is determined by my parents, friends, places I have lived and been. Each experience is fed into my mind from living.
Love is universal. Love is the movement of life. You can love a boy, a girl, your family, friends, art, nature. All things in life are beautiful. No human being or society has the right to condemn any kind of love you feel or your way of expressing it, especially if you are sincere; sincerity being the honest realization of yourself, without hurt or pain for your life, or any life your life touches.
Become a truly loving spirit. Let my words, if I must speak, become the restoration of your soul. But when speech is silent, don’t you still project the great depth of your sensitivity.
When you touch them, or kiss them, or hold them, you are saying a thousand words.
You are not your feelings
Posted: 01 May 2013 12:58 PM PDT
Original article here
The lovely Lorna Patten, founder of Open Up Communication shares with us a beautiful article on why we are not our emotions. I had never heard a message quite like Lorna’s. Her writing style is poetic and her tenderness will permeate your heart. My favorite teaching is to ‘let emotion move through you.’ Ninety seconds is all it has to take! Enjoy and leave your comments below.
You Are Not Your Feelings by Lorna Patten
No you are not.
And you are not your story or your suffering or your triumphs or your transformation…
You are not your ideas or your beliefs or your learnings or your failings or your mistakes or your successes…
And you certainly are not your feelings….
Who you are is the stuff of heaven, the magical, mystical, is-ness of the all of the all:
Who you are is LOVE…
Pure, simple, boundless, limitless, joyous, expansive, creative, powerful…LOVE
No matter what has happened, no matter how awful the particular stuff, no matter what you think or or feel and certainly no matter what others think or feel…
You are perfect love – you are.
And that can and will never change.
Simple truth.
Hard to live in this polarizing reality because you have mostly forgotten who you are and have spent a lot of your life fearing and feeling you are a great deal less than perfect anything, let alone perfect love.
And the truth is that is how you have felt….and the truth also is…you are not your feelings…feelings are not facts and none of what you think and what you feel is WHO YOU ARE…none of it, nada nothing at all.
Let me say it again: Who you are is perfect LOVE.
What you feel often is anything but that. And you are not your feelings…you are the one who chooses to feel the way you feel. Jill Bolte-Taylor made the observation that emotion (energy-in-motion) takes 90 seconds to complete it’s journey though you and be done. If any feelings lasts longer than 90 seconds…you must be doing something to make them stay…you start to feel something, then you agree with whatever meaning you make out of the feeling then you feel it even more and on it goes…sometimes for a lifetime!
Yes, you do choose your feelings.
Now you may not like this or understand it…in fact I can hear the silver-tongued fearful ego voice in your head saying…”this is nuts, I don’t choose all my feelings, sometimes other people just make me feel stuff”.
No they don’t. No one can make you do anything you do not choose to do. You always have a choice even when you feel you do not. The truth about ‘I didn’t have a choice” is actually: “I did not like any of the other options so I chose the least painful/awful of what was available to me at the time”.
No matter what has happened in your life to date, the key to healing and restoring wholeness is how you deal with your feelings.
Who taught you how to feel your feelings?
Where did you learn how to respond to what you are feeling rather than react?
My guess is…no one did.
In fact, you have probably had no education or training in what feelings are, what they mean and how to use them as a resource for change rather than as a reason to stay wounded and suffering.
Consider this: How much of your life have you spent feeling that you are not good enough – not worth enough, or deserving enough or pretty enough or smart enough or successful enough or strong enough or brave enough or lucky enough or quick enough or calm enough or …just not enough?
Enough I say. Enough of feeling not ok, enough of doubting your own loving heart, enough of choosing the illusion of fear when only love is real. Enough of pretending to be who you are not when the truth about who you really are is magnificent.
Time to step-up, show up and start accepting the fundamental truth about yourself and what’s possible for you right now!
Step One: Choose to accept you are ok, lovable, valuable, powerful and unlimited
EVEN WHEN you don’t feel it. Let go of needing to figure it all out rationally and just accept that you are LOVE and let yourself BE.
Step Two: When you start to feel anything at all…pause for a moment, take a breath, get present in your own body, breathe, and let the feeling (energy-in-motion) move through you – remember 90 seconds and the energy will shift.
If you find yourself getting involved with your fearful thinking mind, tell yourself “this is just a feeling, it’s not a fact… just because I feel X doesn’t X is true, it’s just true that I am feeling X” and breathe…
Step Three: Choose how you want to feel, what you want to do next and how you want to
show up - then BE and DO what you have chosen. Revisit Step One often and Step Two as needed!
Top Tips:
Make colorful reminder cards and stick them up where you will see them every day e.g.:
I am OK, I am lovable and I am valuable
LOVE is always the answer
BE Here Now
Feelings are not facts!
Breathe
Practice allowing your feelings to move through you rather than suppressing, depressing or denying them. Avoid direct dumping of feelings on living things…go outside and tell the dirt how you feel… it doesn’t care.
Keep a journal/feelings diary and regularly dump them out on paper and leave them there.
Remember to pause regularly throughout the day and breathe….and BE here now and breathe…
Whatever your story, wherever you are now, whatever has been before…you are OK, you are perfect LOVE and you can experience this if you are willing to accept your magnificence and choose to live into WHO you are moment by moment, one loving breath at a time.
PS It’s really very simple…but don’t mistake simple for easy. Sometimes simple is the hardest to do and yet, when you accept, surrender your resistance and simply choose to accept LOVE rather than fear…well it starts to get pretty simple!
Lorna Patten
Dynamic. Passionate. Loving.
Recognized as an expert coach, facilitator and mentor, Lorna rigorously questions the way things are, and challenges you to think differently about everything. She will confront you with breathtaking truths that truly are life changing.
Great Video about Putting Your Heart into Something
Posted: 01 May 2013 12:40 PM PDT
From an idea to a billion dollar business in a few years - hard work - no parties - dedication and of course customers who love the product - it's got to start somewhere and that place is in your heart
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Today's Articles - Feelings of Love
I love you is more than three little words…….
You are not your feelings
Great Video about Putting Your Heart into Something
Today's Articles - Feelings of Love
Posted: 01 May 2013 04:56 PM PDT
Hi,
Today i've posted a few articles that really caught my eye over the past weeks. They focus on love.
For me, I find it so easy to get caught up in the turmoil and pragmatic variables of life that are so important but at the same time, getting disengaged from all the important things that make it good to be of help to others and live my VIP.
What I've been emphasising over the past weeks in all the articles I've written for you, is making wise choices and having honest expectations of life. The real topic that evolves through all of this is - How do you feel today?
Since time began, people have been trying to feel good on a daily basis. Adam supposedly ate the apple submitting to temptation and forgoing long term benefits for short term feelings. So, it seems there is a quandary that has existed forever, and will exist forever.
That quandary is between short term pleasure (feeling good day to day) and long term results (feeling good in the long term.
We choose this daily.
On the one hand there is the person who might say "I don't care about anything or anyone - all that matters is me, right now and getting what I want" They often go to any source that stimulates their feel good experience whether it be food, sex, greed or spirituality... (the four substitutes)
On the other hand there is the stoic person who puts emotion aside and applies discipline to life. This person struggles a bit with daily happiness, never quite feeling that things are on track, but, at the end of a long period they will achieve a lot.
The cost of having what you want in the long term is paid in the short term
The cost of having what you want in the short term is paid in the long term.
Can we find the balance?
The answer is absolutely NO - as long as the definition of "feeling good" sinks down to self gratification and the multiplicity of emotional states that go with it are the measure of life.
The answer is absolutely YES - as long as love is the definition of "feeling good" rises up though the mire of dirt and dust of daily troubles to be the primary experience one has in life.
THe articles of the day list a few ideas about this. One important idea is that you can love anything you choose and it will permeate your life. Nature, a dog, a god, but the key here is that when you try to love yourself you are trying to love shifting sand or moving water. I believe, and I will take it through the tests of many challenges, that the first love in life, is a significant other. A partner, spouse or lover. This is, for an adult at least, the platform nature intended. It takes courage, an open heart and skills I teach to achieve this space, sacred love, but it's doable, you just need to trust your heart.
Trusting your heart is easy, once you know what it feels like to have it open in contrast to having a deep seated emotion... that's the experience I share in the 30 day challenge.
Love and wisdom
Chris
I love you is more than three little words…….
Posted: 01 May 2013 01:51 PM PDT
I love this article from Joshi's clinic... so I've reproduced it for you.
When you say you love somebody, there should a much greater motivation than simply those spoken words.
Try to be constant so that they will understand the core of your personality and from that understanding gain strength and security that you are acting as you. You may falter with your moods. You may project, at times, a strangeness that is alien to them which may bewilder or frighten them. There will be times when they question your motives. But because people are never constant and are as changeable as the seasons, you should try to build up within them a faith in your fundamental attitude and show that your inconsistency is only for the moment and not a lasting part of you. Show your love now. Each and every day, for each day is a lifetime. Every day we live, we learn more how to love. Do not defer your love nor neglect it, for if you wait until tomorrow, tomorrow never comes. It is like a cloud in the sky, passing by.
If you give kindness and understanding, then you will receive faith. If you give hate and dishonesty, you will receive distrust. If you give fear and are afraid, they will become afraid and fear you. You need give out what you need to receive.
The degree of love you give is determined by your own capability. My capability is determined by the environment of my past existence and my understanding of love, truth and God. My understanding is determined by my parents, friends, places I have lived and been. Each experience is fed into my mind from living.
Love is universal. Love is the movement of life. You can love a boy, a girl, your family, friends, art, nature. All things in life are beautiful. No human being or society has the right to condemn any kind of love you feel or your way of expressing it, especially if you are sincere; sincerity being the honest realization of yourself, without hurt or pain for your life, or any life your life touches.
Become a truly loving spirit. Let my words, if I must speak, become the restoration of your soul. But when speech is silent, don’t you still project the great depth of your sensitivity.
When you touch them, or kiss them, or hold them, you are saying a thousand words.
You are not your feelings
Posted: 01 May 2013 12:58 PM PDT
Original article here
The lovely Lorna Patten, founder of Open Up Communication shares with us a beautiful article on why we are not our emotions. I had never heard a message quite like Lorna’s. Her writing style is poetic and her tenderness will permeate your heart. My favorite teaching is to ‘let emotion move through you.’ Ninety seconds is all it has to take! Enjoy and leave your comments below.
You Are Not Your Feelings by Lorna Patten
No you are not.
And you are not your story or your suffering or your triumphs or your transformation…
You are not your ideas or your beliefs or your learnings or your failings or your mistakes or your successes…
And you certainly are not your feelings….
Who you are is the stuff of heaven, the magical, mystical, is-ness of the all of the all:
Who you are is LOVE…
Pure, simple, boundless, limitless, joyous, expansive, creative, powerful…LOVE
No matter what has happened, no matter how awful the particular stuff, no matter what you think or or feel and certainly no matter what others think or feel…
You are perfect love – you are.
And that can and will never change.
Simple truth.
Hard to live in this polarizing reality because you have mostly forgotten who you are and have spent a lot of your life fearing and feeling you are a great deal less than perfect anything, let alone perfect love.
And the truth is that is how you have felt….and the truth also is…you are not your feelings…feelings are not facts and none of what you think and what you feel is WHO YOU ARE…none of it, nada nothing at all.
Let me say it again: Who you are is perfect LOVE.
What you feel often is anything but that. And you are not your feelings…you are the one who chooses to feel the way you feel. Jill Bolte-Taylor made the observation that emotion (energy-in-motion) takes 90 seconds to complete it’s journey though you and be done. If any feelings lasts longer than 90 seconds…you must be doing something to make them stay…you start to feel something, then you agree with whatever meaning you make out of the feeling then you feel it even more and on it goes…sometimes for a lifetime!
Yes, you do choose your feelings.
Now you may not like this or understand it…in fact I can hear the silver-tongued fearful ego voice in your head saying…”this is nuts, I don’t choose all my feelings, sometimes other people just make me feel stuff”.
No they don’t. No one can make you do anything you do not choose to do. You always have a choice even when you feel you do not. The truth about ‘I didn’t have a choice” is actually: “I did not like any of the other options so I chose the least painful/awful of what was available to me at the time”.
No matter what has happened in your life to date, the key to healing and restoring wholeness is how you deal with your feelings.
Who taught you how to feel your feelings?
Where did you learn how to respond to what you are feeling rather than react?
My guess is…no one did.
In fact, you have probably had no education or training in what feelings are, what they mean and how to use them as a resource for change rather than as a reason to stay wounded and suffering.
Consider this: How much of your life have you spent feeling that you are not good enough – not worth enough, or deserving enough or pretty enough or smart enough or successful enough or strong enough or brave enough or lucky enough or quick enough or calm enough or …just not enough?
Enough I say. Enough of feeling not ok, enough of doubting your own loving heart, enough of choosing the illusion of fear when only love is real. Enough of pretending to be who you are not when the truth about who you really are is magnificent.
Time to step-up, show up and start accepting the fundamental truth about yourself and what’s possible for you right now!
Step One: Choose to accept you are ok, lovable, valuable, powerful and unlimited
EVEN WHEN you don’t feel it. Let go of needing to figure it all out rationally and just accept that you are LOVE and let yourself BE.
Step Two: When you start to feel anything at all…pause for a moment, take a breath, get present in your own body, breathe, and let the feeling (energy-in-motion) move through you – remember 90 seconds and the energy will shift.
If you find yourself getting involved with your fearful thinking mind, tell yourself “this is just a feeling, it’s not a fact… just because I feel X doesn’t X is true, it’s just true that I am feeling X” and breathe…
Step Three: Choose how you want to feel, what you want to do next and how you want to
show up - then BE and DO what you have chosen. Revisit Step One often and Step Two as needed!
Top Tips:
Make colorful reminder cards and stick them up where you will see them every day e.g.:
I am OK, I am lovable and I am valuable
LOVE is always the answer
BE Here Now
Feelings are not facts!
Breathe
Practice allowing your feelings to move through you rather than suppressing, depressing or denying them. Avoid direct dumping of feelings on living things…go outside and tell the dirt how you feel… it doesn’t care.
Keep a journal/feelings diary and regularly dump them out on paper and leave them there.
Remember to pause regularly throughout the day and breathe….and BE here now and breathe…
Whatever your story, wherever you are now, whatever has been before…you are OK, you are perfect LOVE and you can experience this if you are willing to accept your magnificence and choose to live into WHO you are moment by moment, one loving breath at a time.
PS It’s really very simple…but don’t mistake simple for easy. Sometimes simple is the hardest to do and yet, when you accept, surrender your resistance and simply choose to accept LOVE rather than fear…well it starts to get pretty simple!
Lorna Patten
Dynamic. Passionate. Loving.
Recognized as an expert coach, facilitator and mentor, Lorna rigorously questions the way things are, and challenges you to think differently about everything. She will confront you with breathtaking truths that truly are life changing.
Great Video about Putting Your Heart into Something
Posted: 01 May 2013 12:40 PM PDT
From an idea to a billion dollar business in a few years - hard work - no parties - dedication and of course customers who love the product - it's got to start somewhere and that place is in your heart
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10 Gifts of An Open Heart
Posted: 30 Apr 2013 03:58 PM PDT
I'd like to share 10 good reasons why you might consider the tenacity and diligence involved in keeping your heart open in everyday life worth while.
1. It's leadership - There are no half hearted success stories.
There are more than 200,000 books listed on the web on the topic of leadership. My book, "Innerwealth, putting the heart and soul back into work and life" is one of a very small number of those books that drill down through the surface games of human tricks and motivational games to understand the real core of a leader... heart and soul.
2. It's intuitive - “The quieter you become, the more you can hear.”
Although it is possible to enter a temple and find solace, or do a meditation and find quiet, the real measure of our inner state is a stillness that travels with us through all the trials and challenges of life. An open heart is the root source of stillness. It is a dynamic of thankfulness, mixed with desirelessness. A complete contentment for what is, rather than what could be.
3. It's Unconditional Love - “It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.”
Romance comes to the heart but unconditional love sits there already. This state of unconditional love is most often seen in the affection and loyalty a pet has for an owner. The dog might be punished but its enthusiasm and generosity of spirit is relentless. This is the core of an Open heart and a great necessity in any sustainable relationship. “I'm not interested in being a "lover." I'm interested in only being love.”
4. It's Youth - "The heart surrenders everything to the moment. The mind judges and holds back.”
You will see the look on a person's face move between childish exhuberance and aged exhaustion. It's is not just about sleep or diet or age or workload... more, it's a sign of an open heart. The younger a person looks, the more open their heart. The enemy of an open heart is therefore worry, pragmatism and stress that causes the joy and enthusiasm for the gift of the day to be replaced by uncertainty, doubt and the ensuing fatigue.
5. It's Bulletproof - “Everything changes once we identify with being the witness to the story, instead of the actor in it.”
With an Open heart you will treat everyone you meet like God in drag. The spiritual journey is individual, highly personal. It can't be organized or regulated. It isn't true that everyone should follow one path. Listen to your own truth. And to hear it, you will need the previously mentioned stillness. You won't find your heart in a temple until you find the temple in your heart. So, the heart will close if it is left unattended, to keep it open simply remember that what you meet in another being is the projection of your own level of evolution. You can always evolve just a little more each day.
5 More Tomorrow.........
What are you saying?
Posted: 30 Apr 2013 01:56 PM PDT
“In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.”
― Ram Dass
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Motivation is an old, clumsy, emotional roller coaster of a process to cause you to do what you love to do, or even do what you hate to do. Motivation is the modern day equivalent to slavery. In motivation, which is what advertisers, marketers and self help guru's use to cause you to act on things that may or may not be in your best interest. Do you want to live that way or do you want to take the power back from Motivation?
Motivation relies on three things:
1. Motivation relies on the fact that you value pleasure over pain and believe that there is some person, place, thing, lifestyle, religion, environment that will give that result to you and therefore you seek things that offer or promote that outcome. Did you know that this is a myth, because the more pleasure you pursue the more pain (in balance and possibly in another area of your life) you will experience? This creates anger and frustration, depression and emotional turbulence, it's a roller coaster of emotion. Do you want to live like that? I don't, and that's why I value Inspiration. Inspiration has a higher motive and therefore does not have those side effects.
2. Motivation relies on the fact that you value being right all the time and believe that if you obey, conform, follow, mimic, do what people suggest, behave in a certain way, you will be more approved of than rejected in life. In other words, your ego wants to be right and this is a motivating force. Did you know that in life there is a balance of acceptance and rejection? That if you get acceptance from one area of your life you will attract rejection in another? Do you want to live seeking approval from others and embrased about yourself and unable to follow your own path because you value other's opinions about you more than your own? I don't and that's why I value Inspiration. Inspiration has a higher motive and therefore takes the power back from myths like this one.
3. Motivation relies on the fact that you think you are different to others. To use motivation you either have to want to be superiour to others or feel that others are superior to you. If this is the case you will hear yourself saying "I should" allot or hear and listen to others saying "You Should" allot. When we are Motivated in life we use these comparisons all the time in order to determine our actions and ambitions and as a result end up angry, envious, imitating or jealous of others. It's very disempowering. Do you want to live like that? I don't - that's why I value Inspiration.
Motivation to work, build a business, create wealth, have a relationships creates a topsy turvy, unsustainable, emotional, short term roller coaster that costs more than the benefits it derives. It does achieve results, obviously, because many people do it, but the costs are huge in lifestyle and energy and love of life. Inspiration, on the other hand, is a joy to do, and rewards are less costly.
To move from being Motivated to being Inspired is a shift from being run by your work, to doing what you love and being paid extremely well for it. It is profound.
Over the past 20 years I've helped around 3,500 individuals do this, and it is incredible every time. When people run their work, take power back from motivation and use inspiration instead, their family life benefits, their health benefits, their heart expands, depressions and stress go away. They find their joy. So, it's a critical part of getting a business or career on track.
My favourite quote is one I saw on a bank manager's wall... "Ideas are ideas, thoughts are thoughts, hard work is hard work, but results are the only reality" For me, setting the expectation of what is going to be defined as "great results" - the vision - of any enterprise, whether it's a an art show or a new airline is the key starting point. Then, we work backward to find what is going to generate that result and how long it might take.
There is no way to formularise this process of turning work into what you love to do and get paid for. It really depends on the starting point. So, I give new clients free first up consultations in order to explore what we can do together. Once up and running I remain a loyal fan, an advisor and sounding board. A responsibility I take as being extremely important.
Costs range from a few hundred dollars to thousands depending on the business and of course, means.
So, when the time is right and you feel that it's time for a shift from the topsy turvy world of motivation and move to Inspiration as the driving force of your life, give me a call or email to arrange a chat.
Cheers
Chris
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Motivation is an old, clumsy, emotional roller coaster of a process to cause you to do what you love to do, or even do what you hate to do. Motivation is the modern day equivalent to slavery. In motivation, which is what advertisers, marketers and self help guru's use to cause you to act on things that may or may not be in your best interest. Do you want to live that way or do you want to take the power back from Motivation?
Motivation relies on three things:
1. Motivation relies on the fact that you value pleasure over pain and believe that there is some person, place, thing, lifestyle, religion, environment that will give that result to you and therefore you seek things that offer or promote that outcome. Did you know that this is a myth, because the more pleasure you pursue the more pain (in balance and possibly in another area of your life) you will experience? This creates anger and frustration, depression and emotional turbulence, it's a roller coaster of emotion. Do you want to live like that? I don't, and that's why I value Inspiration. Inspiration has a higher motive and therefore does not have those side effects.
2. Motivation relies on the fact that you value being right all the time and believe that if you obey, conform, follow, mimic, do what people suggest, behave in a certain way, you will be more approved of than rejected in life. In other words, your ego wants to be right and this is a motivating force. Did you know that in life there is a balance of acceptance and rejection? That if you get acceptance from one area of your life you will attract rejection in another? Do you want to live seeking approval from others and embrased about yourself and unable to follow your own path because you value other's opinions about you more than your own? I don't and that's why I value Inspiration. Inspiration has a higher motive and therefore takes the power back from myths like this one.
3. Motivation relies on the fact that you think you are different to others. To use motivation you either have to want to be superiour to others or feel that others are superior to you. If this is the case you will hear yourself saying "I should" allot or hear and listen to others saying "You Should" allot. When we are Motivated in life we use these comparisons all the time in order to determine our actions and ambitions and as a result end up angry, envious, imitating or jealous of others. It's very disempowering. Do you want to live like that? I don't - that's why I value Inspiration.
Motivation to work, build a business, create wealth, have a relationships creates a topsy turvy, unsustainable, emotional, short term roller coaster that costs more than the benefits it derives. It does achieve results, obviously, because many people do it, but the costs are huge in lifestyle and energy and love of life. Inspiration, on the other hand, is a joy to do, and rewards are less costly.
To move from being Motivated to being Inspired is a shift from being run by your work, to doing what you love and being paid extremely well for it. It is profound.
Over the past 20 years I've helped around 3,500 individuals do this, and it is incredible every time. When people run their work, take power back from motivation and use inspiration instead, their family life benefits, their health benefits, their heart expands, depressions and stress go away. They find their joy. So, it's a critical part of getting a business or career on track.
My favourite quote is one I saw on a bank manager's wall... "Ideas are ideas, thoughts are thoughts, hard work is hard work, but results are the only reality" For me, setting the expectation of what is going to be defined as "great results" - the vision - of any enterprise, whether it's a an art show or a new airline is the key starting point. Then, we work backward to find what is going to generate that result and how long it might take.
There is no way to formularise this process of turning work into what you love to do and get paid for. It really depends on the starting point. So, I give new clients free first up consultations in order to explore what we can do together. Once up and running I remain a loyal fan, an advisor and sounding board. A responsibility I take as being extremely important.
Costs range from a few hundred dollars to thousands depending on the business and of course, means.
So, when the time is right and you feel that it's time for a shift from the topsy turvy world of motivation and move to Inspiration as the driving force of your life, give me a call or email to arrange a chat.
Cheers
Chris
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Inside every human being there is a fight that can't be won. It's a fight between dualities, between head and heart, left brain and right brain, short term pleasure and long term results.
It's a fight that can't be eliminated, but with compassion and kindness, that fight can truly become a great inspiration and asset.
To live with kindness we need to acknowledge this internal battle as the inner fight and let it do for us as nature intended: The inner struggle will do what nature intended it to do if we stop fighting it. So, rather than fight it, we need to follow nature's guide to reconcile that struggle and use it to our own advantage.
You already know that one satisfied desire simply leads to another desire, this is at the heart of this inner conflict. The notion of contentment, inner peace, happiness is therefore, in a real life of achievement and materiality, a myth.
If we focus our life on achieving happiness, contentment, inner peace, or even peace we will live deep into the moment, and in the process sacrifice the long term. The pain of regret always outweighs the pain of discipline. People who seek short term pleasure experience long term pain. It's the inner conflict of being human repeated in nature and repeated over and over in our own life.
Disappointment in SEEKING HAPPINESS
The person who thinks that their next decision, next workshop, next weight loss program will bring them to contentment and satisfaction with life, for the rest of their life is never confident, always disappointed and therefore unable to be kind, either to themselves, or others. You know that there are supposedly two sides to the brain, left brain logic and right brain sensory emotion, and these two sides are continually wrestling for superiority. Which will you trust today - the logical and pragmatic answer that's going to create long term results with short term pain, or the emotional sensory answer that is in the moment that has short term pleasure and long term pain. Pain and pleasure, always balance in the end, the question is just about time frame.
RELATIONSHIPS AND THE MYTH OF CONTENTMENT
My story.... Many years ago I was in a good relationship but a little bored with life. All was on track. One day, I went to a Yoga class and was taught a myth. I saw a gorgeous yoga teacher, with a great body, speaking about love and life purpose and happiness. I went home and suddenly felt discontent with my own, perfectly good relationship. What my life looked like, compared to the promise of the Eastern teaching was shit. I started to feel resentful and wrote, "this yoga teacher has shown me that there is more to life than a regular relationship, that there is a mystical, spiritual, good feeling outcome to life that I am not experiencing" Months later, my partner had an affair. She just needed a real man in her life, not one comparing her and his relationship with her, to a myth. I eventually wrote "after three years of doing yoga, living in India, I've had a few relationships and have come to the conclusion that even that yoga teacher I infatuated was boring outside the yoga room, and all the guru's are not all happy, they are normal and sad and angry outside of the yoga class, the theory that was sold to me, and in all the books about being happy and spiritual, was about moments in time in life, truly presented it was not sustainable. It was never meant to be a permanent state of mind, rather, it was meant to be a place to return to in our mind, a place we call home.
The Real Story
I think that if we are to live our life with kindness, we are wise to reject what doesn't work. The unhappiest, loneliest, most regretful people I have met listen to self-help guru's, read books about self-help and watch tv shows that demonstrate half life reality. They get sadder and listen longer.
I find that to go sit under a tree without a book and start to witness life, as it really is, makes strength of conviction to follow my heart and do what I do with love and inspiration. This gives me a beautiful understanding of compassion and kindness and then it starts to emerge organically, not theoretically or forced. Sitting under the tree looking around at nature we see that we are, like nature, a contradiction between the now and the future.
In Nature there is always a contradiction. The flower looks perfect, but at the same time, it is impermanent and must die to the earth to make space for more. The happiness of the moment and the pain of discipline always arguing. Pleasure and pain, in harmony.
We are nature. We are both happy and sad, we are smart and dumb. We are growing and shrinking. We are good and bad. We are enlightened and endarkened. We are a sweet and sour. The more we fake being half of one of those contradictory pairs, like I did, trying to emulate the yoga teacher outside the yoga class, the darker our home life or work life will have to become in order to find balance.
Kindness starts with compassion for our true nature and rejecting the half notion that if we change something, do something or create something we will be different. How can kindness be based on anything changing? If our giving is based on some idea of changing something, somebody, making someone happier or better or smarter, then our kindness is not kindness, it is the desire to change, and that lacks appreciation, assumes that, at sometime in the future appreciation will arrive.
Really, if we are trying to fix something, or somebody, we are being judgemental and that is the opposite to kindness.
Following nature's law, if you say to yourself "I am stupid" then with kindness you will add "and the benefit is that I am so open to learn, I remain a student" but if you say "I am stupid" with anger toward yourself, you cannot ever be kind to yourself, or for that matter others. So, kindness and compassion require that we unlearn, or discard ideas of half life, half emotion, half experience.
Giving kindness requires that you have compassion for yourself - then you will not be hard on others. Some people are hard on themselves, they might even be cruel, a bully, a change agent, a therapist or a teacher of Eastern arts who believes everybody needs to change to their way of thinking. That's anarchy.
We can't give what we haven't got. If we have no compassion for ourselves, then we cannot give kindness to others. That's a no brainer really. And compassion for ourselves can only come from the acceptance of the struggle between the inner conflicts: Short term versus long term, left brain versus right brain, heart versus mind. These are irreconcilable differences. The inner conflict is a part of being human. Learning to love this inner conflict is the route to stillness and ultimately, self-respect.
The danger is to become disconnected from nature and live according to books and ideals of who we should or could be if we were different. Then the outcome is to live the half life of the mundane. That comes from trying to find the place in life where only half of the emotional keyboard plays, and the other darker keys become an escape obsession. Blaming any sadness, anger, disappointment on a partner, friend and business colleague.
Kindness means acceptance. That's the first key to a great loving relationship and the most vital key to good parenting. It starts with a single choice... The choice to stop criticising our life, ourselves and our actions as being anything but beautiful, perfect and love generating. That's really life's purpose summarised.
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There are many variables involved in running a profitable SOHO (Small Office/Home Office business.)
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Separate the office
Plagiarising your relationship, sport time, family time and for that matter, work time with a home office that is open 24 hours does nobody any good.
2. Dress for Work
Environmental factors are one of the most important elements of any business success. The brand, the way people speak and dress, the office design are all keys, but the way people dress would be by far the most significant signal as to the real vision, expectation and dreams of the owners. Dress for success … it starts with the undies you wear.
3. Getting Help
Working on low priorities can sabotage a business. Firstly, it's demoralising and secondly, it's time wasting. Do a process of prioritisation on your time and make sure you delegate and subcontract anything that is not high on the list. For example if you are good at doing quotes, don't sit doing accounts.
4. Throwing Up
Time is your greatest asset. Don't throw it at problems. Limit time, expand your intelligence. Ask how you can get more done in less time. It's really the only way to make profit and be around long enough to spend it.
5. Create Wealth
Lifestyle is one option. Wealth is another. The difference is simple. Wealth is money you don't spend. Lifestyle is money you do spend. Sure, spend a bit of the profit on lifestyle, but make it no more than 40%.
6. Don't turn a bad business into a worse one.
Just because you made a sale to a friend, or had a good run of bad weather, be careful about throwing money at ideas that may not stand the test of time. Work out why something made of profit and then find out whether those circumstances are repeatable. If they are, and this passes the scrutiny of an investor, you may be onto a good thing.
7. Don't invest your own money.
When someone sells you an idea, a franchise, or their old business, go to a good business analyst and ask whether they would invest in you and the new business. Don't be a smart arse and say, "oh, but I have the secret formula and therefore I can make it work." It's usually delusional and expensive.
8. Don't give up your day job
Your core business is your core income stream. If that happens to be a job you don't love, that's ok, just treat it as any business does, like this: 90% of your work in a business is going to be boring and repetitive working for people you don't necessarily love, but who you can't live without.10% of your business is going to make you 90% of your profit only because 90% of your business (that boring bit) will cover 90% of your costs. It's the 80/20 rule… and I'ms suggesting that you ignore that rule. Instead run your business as nature intended. Make it the 50 -50 rule….50% of business is going to be challenging, 50% is going to be exciting.. get over it, you can't change it.
9. Be thankful for the small stuff
In 30 years of business consulting, I've been called into a lot of business that are in distress. 100% of those distressed business were doing great "just last year." Why do so many business fail just after a surge in performance? Well, firstly because the owners usually get an influx of cash they don't know how to manage and the only thing they can think to do is spend it. Second, because people think surges are sustainable. Wrong on both counts.
10. LOVE
I don't care if you work for someone or own the biggest business in town, when you stop loving it, get out of it before it kills you. Sure, we have process to help you stick at it for a while, but when the heart goes out, you are best to follow.
SUMMARY
Good business are fast business. Fast to change, fast to respond. fast tp adapt. That requires fast people. But it also requires extremely accurate people. At Walker | International we build Fast Business and if you need help Fast, if you want change, startup and transformation of your business life fast, we are the first call you would be wise to make.
Chris Walker
CEO Walker | INTERNATIONAL
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There are many variables involved in running a profitable SOHO (Small Office/Home Office business.)
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Separate the office
Plagiarising your relationship, sport time, family time and for that matter, work time with a home office that is open 24 hours does nobody any good.
2. Dress for Work
Environmental factors are one of the most important elements of any business success. The brand, the way people speak and dress, the office design are all keys, but the way people dress would be by far the most significant signal as to the real vision, expectation and dreams of the owners. Dress for success … it starts with the undies you wear.
3. Getting Help
Working on low priorities can sabotage a business. Firstly, it's demoralising and secondly, it's time wasting. Do a process of prioritisation on your time and make sure you delegate and subcontract anything that is not high on the list. For example if you are good at doing quotes, don't sit doing accounts.
4. Throwing Up
Time is your greatest asset. Don't throw it at problems. Limit time, expand your intelligence. Ask how you can get more done in less time. It's really the only way to make profit and be around long enough to spend it.
5. Create Wealth
Lifestyle is one option. Wealth is another. The difference is simple. Wealth is money you don't spend. Lifestyle is money you do spend. Sure, spend a bit of the profit on lifestyle, but make it no more than 40%.
6. Don't turn a bad business into a worse one.
Just because you made a sale to a friend, or had a good run of bad weather, be careful about throwing money at ideas that may not stand the test of time. Work out why something made of profit and then find out whether those circumstances are repeatable. If they are, and this passes the scrutiny of an investor, you may be onto a good thing.
7. Don't invest your own money.
When someone sells you an idea, a franchise, or their old business, go to a good business analyst and ask whether they would invest in you and the new business. Don't be a smart arse and say, "oh, but I have the secret formula and therefore I can make it work." It's usually delusional and expensive.
8. Don't give up your day job
Your core business is your core income stream. If that happens to be a job you don't love, that's ok, just treat it as any business does, like this: 90% of your work in a business is going to be boring and repetitive working for people you don't necessarily love, but who you can't live without.10% of your business is going to make you 90% of your profit only because 90% of your business (that boring bit) will cover 90% of your costs. It's the 80/20 rule… and I'ms suggesting that you ignore that rule. Instead run your business as nature intended. Make it the 50 -50 rule….50% of business is going to be challenging, 50% is going to be exciting.. get over it, you can't change it.
9. Be thankful for the small stuff
In 30 years of business consulting, I've been called into a lot of business that are in distress. 100% of those distressed business were doing great "just last year." Why do so many business fail just after a surge in performance? Well, firstly because the owners usually get an influx of cash they don't know how to manage and the only thing they can think to do is spend it. Second, because people think surges are sustainable. Wrong on both counts.
10. LOVE
I don't care if you work for someone or own the biggest business in town, when you stop loving it, get out of it before it kills you. Sure, we have process to help you stick at it for a while, but when the heart goes out, you are best to follow.
SUMMARY
Good business are fast business. Fast to change, fast to respond. fast tp adapt. That requires fast people. But it also requires extremely accurate people. At Walker | International we build Fast Business and if you need help Fast, if you want change, startup and transformation of your business life fast, we are the first call you would be wise to make.
Chris Walker
CEO Walker | INTERNATIONAL
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** Love letters and kindness may improve mental health **
Can love letters to strangers be good for your mental health?
< http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-21900202
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Do you get thinker's block when it comes to making decisions? Is there a conflict between what feels good and what, on paper might be good? Do you get overwhelmed with options and end up doing nothing? I hope this article helps.
1. Use the word more ... More often.
In the Back on Track coaching experience you learn nature's law, and in nature's law, more is best. More is the best word to help us make decisions because it takes a lot of emotion out of the process. Simply you ask will this choice give me: more wealth, more health, more family, more self awareness (inspiration), more business/career?
If the answer is no, the answer is no.
2. Use the word less ....less
In Back on Track Coaching you learn Nature's Law and in nature's law, less is only used so more can grow. So we might say, less distractions but its for more growth, or we might say, less illness but for more work we love. Less is used in nature only to create more.
3. Use this - does this evolve you toward your VIP?
A person without a VIP is like a ship without a rudder, sail, mast, hull, keel, wind and water. That thing will really get to have a great time because it really does just want to feel good, enjoy itself and stay out of rough water all the time. But the great joy of being in life gets stolen if we don't throw ourselves toward a purpose and vision. In Back on Track, you write down your VIP and you look at it every day, read it, hear it, love it.
Love is at the heart of Back on Track because your relationship, family and self- respect hinge on you living in tune with nature and nature planted a seed in you to live a happy fulfilled life. When you make decisions that are trying to be happy and fulfilled you usually go in the opposite direction to what will make you really happy and fulfilled. Happy and fulfilled comes from living "more" living your VIP and that path isn't the most comfortable or pleasure filled path.
I hope this helps and here are a few examples:
David asked me "should I marry her" I simply asked "does marrying her give you More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More Career?
Jennifer asked "should I leave my job and become a therapist because that is something I love" My answer was "prove to me that by leaving your job that in five years time you will have More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More career...and then I will give you your answer." Jennifer came back with a PowerPoint business plan she had done for herself which was a pure BS guess plan. A plan that nobody questioned for her. When she really did test the plan on a real document - her VIP showed that everything important in her life except her pleasure would go less if she proceeded on her all or nothing kamikaze therapist plan.
Nature Evolves things. She never extincts a specie, that's ridiculous. Nature evolves specie to be greater in consciousness less in number. So, are you in tune with nature in your decisions? Are you greater (more wealth, health, family, career) and less distracted by the decisions you make or the opposite?
Back on Track is a 30 day Personal and Professional coaching program with online content as well as daily coaching by phone. It promises more life, health, wealth, family at less cost and in less time than any other personal change program on earth... Aligned with nature? You bet!
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Do you get thinker's block when it comes to making decisions? Is there a conflict between what feels good and what, on paper might be good? Do you get overwhelmed with options and end up doing nothing? I hope this article helps.
1. Use the word more ... More often.
In the Back on Track coaching experience you learn nature's law, and in nature's law, more is best. More is the best word to help us make decisions because it takes a lot of emotion out of the process. Simply you ask will this choice give me: more wealth, more health, more family, more self awareness (inspiration), more business/career?
If the answer is no, the answer is no.
2. Use the word less ....less
In Back on Track Coaching you learn Nature's Law and in nature's law, less is only used so more can grow. So we might say, less distractions but its for more growth, or we might say, less illness but for more work we love. Less is used in nature only to create more.
3. Use this - does this evolve you toward your VIP?
A person without a VIP is like a ship without a rudder, sail, mast, hull, keel, wind and water. That thing will really get to have a great time because it really does just want to feel good, enjoy itself and stay out of rough water all the time. But the great joy of being in life gets stolen if we don't throw ourselves toward a purpose and vision. In Back on Track, you write down your VIP and you look at it every day, read it, hear it, love it.
Love is at the heart of Back on Track because your relationship, family and self- respect hinge on you living in tune with nature and nature planted a seed in you to live a happy fulfilled life. When you make decisions that are trying to be happy and fulfilled you usually go in the opposite direction to what will make you really happy and fulfilled. Happy and fulfilled comes from living "more" living your VIP and that path isn't the most comfortable or pleasure filled path.
I hope this helps and here are a few examples:
David asked me "should I marry her" I simply asked "does marrying her give you More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More Career?
Jennifer asked "should I leave my job and become a therapist because that is something I love" My answer was "prove to me that by leaving your job that in five years time you will have More Wealth, More Health, More Family, More Friends, More career...and then I will give you your answer." Jennifer came back with a PowerPoint business plan she had done for herself which was a pure BS guess plan. A plan that nobody questioned for her. When she really did test the plan on a real document - her VIP showed that everything important in her life except her pleasure would go less if she proceeded on her all or nothing kamikaze therapist plan.
Nature Evolves things. She never extincts a specie, that's ridiculous. Nature evolves specie to be greater in consciousness less in number. So, are you in tune with nature in your decisions? Are you greater (more wealth, health, family, career) and less distracted by the decisions you make or the opposite?
Back on Track is a 30 day Personal and Professional coaching program with online content as well as daily coaching by phone. It promises more life, health, wealth, family at less cost and in less time than any other personal change program on earth... Aligned with nature? You bet!
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More money, more sex, more sport, more time with your kids thinking you're the best - Too much to ask?
This is in you already, My unique skill is unlocking your Vision, Inspiration and Purpose and those three will lead you there, really it's not an option.
The key is to know that you don't need to sacrifice one area of life in order to succeed in another.
Once you unlock your personal Vision, Inspiration and Purpose you can lead the life you truly desire, you deserve it. Give this to yourself and therefore to your loved ones.
Be inspired, love nature, and live a long and happy life.
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More money, more sex, more sport, more time with your kids thinking you're the best - Too much to ask?
This is in you already, My unique skill is unlocking your Vision, Inspiration and Purpose and those three will lead you there, really it's not an option.
The key is to know that you don't need to sacrifice one area of life in order to succeed in another.
Once you unlock your personal Vision, Inspiration and Purpose you can lead the life you truly desire, you deserve it. Give this to yourself and therefore to your loved ones.
Be inspired, love nature, and live a long and happy life.
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What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for the weather to be better? It won't happen. Are you waiting for the perfect partner? It won't happen. Are you waiting until all your troubles go away? It won't happen. Are you waiting for your life to be simplified? It will never happen.
One time I was sitting in Zen for three solid weeks in the forest. My teacher was a grumpy hairy unwashed bastard who always fell asleep meditating and would forget to ring the break bell. We'd wake him with coughs. Shit it hurt sitting like that.
Anyway, while sitting in Zen I really did reach enlightenment. Afterward I did a poo and it was terrible. So much for enlightenment being a solution to the downside of life.
So, for three weeks in this Zen retreat I was in nirvana or somewhere. Then, at the end, when we were allowed to speak for the first time in three bloody weeks, I said to the bastard Zen master "mother .. Fu....er I am so detached.
He responded "your attachment to your detachment is now your biggest problem"!shit... Back to fish and chips for dinner.
At that time I gave up trying to be something, do something and get something. It was the first time in my life I actually realised that I had a superiorority complex. I mean I thought I was god's gift to humanity. I wasn't
Then I began to regret that I'd spent so much of my life trying. I mean, emulating, duplicating, imitating, contemplating, instead of celebrating.
That was the day I remember. Because that day was the day I stopped waiting for something to get better in order to be happier.
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There are competing forces for your time: health, wealth, love, friends, learning and growing.
While at first glance it may appear that these competing forces are disparate - going in different directions, that assumption cannot remain true if you choose to live your purpose in life and be paid well for it.
Imagine five elephants tied to a post (I know it's not a good animal rights picture but bare with me please) - now imagine them pulling in opposite directions. The post won't move because there is a counterbalance of the force of each elephant. The individual will say that their life is rich and in balance, but really their life is rich and rewarding in counter balance.
That counterbalanced person will say that their sport counterbalanced their stress and their friends counterbalance their work and their relationship love counterbalances their wealth, or something like that.
But to live on purpose one needs to forget balance and become aligned. Aligning friends, love, work, wealth and health with one single point of focus, their purpose.
You see, when the going gets tough in life, counterbalance makes it safe, but when the going gets tough on purpose in life, we need all of our life elements pulling and pushing us harder in the direction we chose, not making us comfortable.
Seeking counterbalance means comfort and safety, but seeking purpose is not comfortable nor safe. Seeking purpose there is no 50% - no half hearted stories, no regret.
In counterbalance there is nothing but regret because what is good for health is bad for love and what is good for wealth is bad for friends and what is good for love is bad for health. You can't win no matter what you do, the forces of life counterbalance and contradict each other.
On purpose, and being paid extremely well for it you simply know your purpose and love for it, health for it, wealth for it, friends for it. It's way out of balance because you have a great vision, dream, life outcome. You want to make a difference and you know that while you counterbalance each element counteracts the energy of the other.
If all the elements pull in one direction you don't need safety - there's a certain aura of confidence that the little glitches in life will be superseded with big victories. You might be struggling with money but your love will pull you through or you might be struggling with health but your wealth will pull you through or you might be struggling with love but your friends will pull you through.
The big difference is to see the difference between rescue and purpose: in counterbalance with the elephants pulling on the centre pole (you and your sense of self) there is an obsession with feeling good, so the counterbalance model feels superb. If you don't feel good in health, then you improve your health. But in the purpose model, if you don't feel good in health you know that nothing is missing, health is just in another form, because all the elephants are pulling in the same direction.
The difference between being on purpose and being paid extremely well for it and being in counterbalance mode is not really measured clearly in the outcome of your life, it is however measured in the quality of your life. One process thrives on experiences and events, the other on a deep deep sense that your life has a meaning greater than the next happy thing.
Living purpose and being paid extremely well for it is the prime focus of Walker International Consulting. We offer the 30 Day Challenge and Life Coaching "Back on Track Program" to help people find and live their purpose.
Quotes about Being On Purpose
The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
- Robert Byrne
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
- Mark Twain
The first thing to do in life is to do with purpose what one proposes to do.
- Pablo Casals
To reach a port, we must sail - sail, not tie at anchor, sail not drift.
- Franklin D. Roosevelt
We are not in a position in which we have nothing to work with. We already have capacities, talents, direction, missions, callings.
- Abraham Maslow
I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will which will stake even existence upon its fulfillment.
- Benjamin Disraeli
A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.
- Margaret Mead
I'm sure you have a theme: the theme of your life. You can embellish it or desecrate it, but it's your theme, and as long as you follow it, you will experience harmony and peace of mind.
- Agatha Christie
A soul without a high aim is like a ship without a rudder.
- Eileen Caddy
Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose.
- Albert Einstein
The aim of life is self-development, to realize one's nature perfectly.
- Oscar Wilde
If one way be better than another, that you may be sure is nature's way.
- Aristotle
The very first condition of lasting happiness is that a life should be full of purpose, aiming at something outside self.
- Hugh Black
I know that I have found fulfillment. I have an object in life, a task ... a passion.
- George Sand
Great minds have purposes, others have wishes.
- Washington Irving
Figure out what your purpose is in life, what you really and truly want to do with your time and your life; then be willing to sacrifice everything and then some to achieve it. If you are not willing to make the sacrifice, then keep searching.
- Quintina Ragnacci
This is true joy in life -- being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as mighty.
- George Bernard Shaw
No man or woman is an island. To exist just for yourself is meaningless. You can achieve the most satisfaction when you feel related to some greater purpose in life, something greater than yourself.
- Dennis Waitley
Challenges
My passions were all gathered together like fingers that made a fist. Drive is considered aggression today; I knew it then as purpose.
- Bette Davis
Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.
- John F. Kennedy
If Heaven made him - earth can find some use for him.
- Chinese Proverb
If you know with a complete absence of doubt that what you are doing is consistent with your own purpose and that you are involved in accomplishing a great affair, then you are at peace with yourself and in harmony with your own heroic mission.
- Dr. Wayne Dyer
The secret of success is consistency of purpose.
- Benjamin Disraeli
Purpose is the quality we choose to shape our lives around.
- Richard J. Leider
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In my Corporate Workshops I share the most important barometer of great self-leadership as
"Going home with more energy than you came to work with."
If that's not happening, some evolution is essential.
The key to going home with more energy than you came to work with is to increase the workload and change the approach, not, as most people try to do, which is decrease the workload and maintain the same approach. That doesn't work. It just makes a person more tired by doing less.
It's also vital not to blame the work for tiredness. It's not what you do that counts, more, it's how you do it.
Today in this blog article, I would like to answer some questions that have piled up in my inbox about Energy
1. How do I know if I am managing my energy in the right way?
If you go out to dinner with your lover and end the meal more tired than when you started it, then you are not in love.
If you come home from work with less energy than you started the day, then you are not inspired.
If you end the week with less energy than you started you are making yourself sick.
If you arrive at a venue feeling exhausted just know that what ever it is you are about to do at the venue, you will sabotage.
What habits build energy and what habits destroy it?
Pumping up a leaky car tyre is a full time job. Just like building energy in a body that leaks it. The ability to hold energy is therefore as important as the ability to build it.
Three things cause energy to be stored in the body and not leaked out all over the road.
1. Gratitude … Thankfulness stores energy. A thankful person has energy in reserve. They stay younger and healthier because their immune system and gut are linked to the mind and the mind is hard wired to gratitude. Gratitude is the closest thing to the mentality of love. However, gratitude is not a half story. Thankfulness includes thankfulness for things we don’t like. This is where religion and spirituality separate. Religion is obsessed with eliminating the negative (includes therapy, psychology, new age and “hope” books) Spirituality on the other hand is meant to focus on finding gratitude for all the things that are considered negative - nothing to change only something to love.
2. Vision …. When we hold a vision of the future that is inspired and purposeful we hold the very thing that causes energy to be stored in the body. When we experience doubt and uncertainty we bleed energy. This is a huge part of any person’s life. Have you met someone who has lost hope for the future? (depression)… they are often exhausted even though they are only mentally depressed, the energy is sucked from their body.
3. Movement …. Energy must circulate … many people get up, feed their body, catch the train, sit, work, come home, sit, watch tv and sleep. They may talk to friends or make phone calls which feels like activity, but really, metabolically, they are in hibernation mode. Each hour our body is in hibernation (low metabilism) energy escapes. That’s an amazing awareness because 99% of meditation in the West is taught to reduce metabolism in order to calm the nerves and is therefore wrongly taught, great meditation will make your body on fire with heat, same with great movement. This is how we store energy.
Four things build energy that can be stored in the body
1. Giving (generosity) … Most people try to build their energy by feeding themselves, but really, the most energy building activity one can have is feeding others. This does not always relate to food, but includes: leading, loving, inspiring, healing, helping, guiding, supporting and nurturing. We might start with the idea that helping our family is energy building but eventually we realise that there are millions of people in our global family and the more we do to “feed” the world, the more energy we build in ourselves.
2. Kindness … Anger makes us feel energised, but anger, like greed, like guilt, like doubt sucks energy from the very core of our vitality and therefore doesn’t build energy. Kindness builds energy because kindness is close to love. Kindness is to make good what is hurt, to make happy what is sad, to make thankful what is unthankful. Kindness is, in its most pure form, a surprise. When people expect kindness then the kindness becomes cruel and subtracting. Kindness is a special gift, a word spoke out of context, a helping hand. This kindness builds energy.
3. Intensity …by walking fast, talking fast, thinking fast, doing fast, you are saying to the world, “I have a purpose” and “I value my energy.” Sitting around chewing tobacco is the domain of the poor. Sitting around picking flees from the hair of a partner is the monkey mindset. Sitting around waiting, wasting, trying to be sedated is energy consuming. Intensity, valuing the time of your life to create, learn, share, give, make something… this is energy building.
4. Nourishment .. Food, drink, Tv watching, playing, swimming, running, taking a bath, going to the pub, working, riding the bus, meeting a friend can be nourishing or time wasting. Nourishment requires digestion and digestion requires appreciation and appreciation means savouring the flavour. If you are doing whatever you are doing with mindfulness, experiencing it fully, then it will be energy building. But if you eat with stress, talk about pain, feel bad, think doubtfully or hang out with doomsday people, your are not nourishing yourself, you are depreciating yourself. One builds energy, the other drains it.
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Directing Your Energy
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My old yoga teacher and friend Sri K Pattabhi Jois used to say "Every day I teach yoga I get one year younger, but everyday I don't teach yoga I get ten years older" Obviously, given that he was still pretty fit at the age of 90, he taught allot of yoga. He was also, rarely tired,
Exhaustion and lost hope of the future go hand in hand. If I am walking to an event or to meet someone for dinner and I feel tired, it's because deep down at some pretty important level I can't link going to meet that person to my values. In simpler language I am going but there's some part of me doesn't really see the benefit of it.
Our energy systems are amazing. If we have one job to do there are always five ways to approach that job. Two will exhaust you, two will get you through the day and one will absolutely send you home with more energy than you came to work with.
Making love is the same. Sometimes after making love you feel like the world is just bright brilliant sunshine even if it's a rainy day, but other times you just want to curl up and get away from your partner, the world and life. Same love making two different head-spaces.
How we think, has a huge impact on how we feel. People spend allot of time telling you what to think and you may buy it or not. In Back on Track™ I spend allot of time coaching you to forget about what people tell you about what to think and focus on how you think
In this article, which, by the way, is a little lengthy and took longer to write than expected, I talk a bit about HOW to think, rather than what. I'm encouraging those people who find themselves tired at the end of the day to consider a re-engineering, re-invention of their dependency on short term emotional uppers. It's quite confronting. I hope you enjoy, and not enjoy it. (you'll see the humour in that comment as you read on)
Directing Your Energy
In the previous Blog article I spoke about two of the four Key ingredients of a great working day:.Those four ingredients are:
Building Energy
Stopping the Loss of Energy
Storing Energy (to take home)
Directing Your Energy
I gave a quick brush stroke overview of the first two and today I’d like to share the fourth ingredient, directing your energy. I will get back to storing your energy in the next article because it is the single most important of the four.
Directing Your Energy
It’s a well known fact that what you think about, you bring about. So, if we took a movie of what goes in and out of your mind throughout the day, we’d have a pretty good description of where your energy is being directed.
But there’s more to it than what you are consciously thinking about.
There are three unconscious thinking levels that can really suck your energy and it’s important to put them on the table right up front.
Your environment.
When people go to life changing seminars or do mind altering programs they very often return to the same friends, same conversations, same bus routes, same house, same office desk. Now, you will see on the Back on Track™ program, that step three of the personal, business and team change process is changing the environment and it’s one of the most important steps in personal or business change. Why?
Because your environment sends signals to your mind without you knowing it. Advertising billboards are not meant to be seen, they are meant to be not seen because their power is to become part of your environment, slip past your conscious mind and engage your behaviour without you knowing it. This subliminal marketing is not new. Churches have icons, communities have logos, people live in certain suburbs in order to associate with particular environmental subliminal notices, like wealth, or fun or creativity. It’s not new. But in the world of human development is is largely ignored.
An untidy bedroom, a messy kitchen, old dirty underwear, shoes that needed to be thrown out years ago, sox that stink, a watch that’s a duplicate. Proven time and time again in Harvard Business studies to have a huge impact on success, performance and quality of life. The type of pen you use, the way you write your name, the way you hold your coffee cup, your posture and more. These are low hanging fruit in the personal development industry but largely untouched in the big seminars. They are, in my opinion, the single most powerful route to human development and cause the fastest, most permanent changes in work and life.
So, environment draws your attention subconsciously and consciously and therefore is one of the powerful sources of energy sucking distraction.
Guilt
Guilt is such a bitch. It sits under anger, fear, judgement, uncertainty, confusion, self-depreciation, self-sabotage and a whole range of addictions. Guilt is such a bitch because we rarely feel it in it’s subtly. Take a rape victim as an example, often they don’t admit that guilt is a part of their pain because they feel like a victim and don’t imagine they could be guilty about what happened. But in nearly all cases, guilt exists.
Another example of guilt is in violence, hurting someone. The perpetrator often feels remorse or sadness but all too often the guilt sits beneath the surface making them angry and reactive, more prone to re-engage in violence. Guilt is subtle.
Guilt sucks energy and the most important vitality from our bones. It can actually undermine our health.
When I was 3 my mother slid off the front bench seat of the old car we were travelling in and went under the back wheels. She died. I remember people crying at the funeral. 30 years later in dealing with some side issues associated with a divorce, I revealed that subtle guilt about being responsible for all the crying and all the pain by causing or not saving my mother had underpinned a huge portion of my life.
Guilt can steal our energy. In the first step of Back on Track you will see the word DISCARD and this means to let go any unhealthy thinking that might be sucking energy. Guilt is a prime target.
Uncertainty
Why do airplanes fly? Why does grass smell? Why is exercise good for you? Why is too much chocolate bad? Those questions might be irrelevant sitting in a pub having a beer on Bondi Beach, but if you were sitting in an airplane that feels like it’s going to crash, or feeling your heart shift to angina, or starving and all you have is chocolate, the questions of WHY become vital.
Uncertainty comes as an energy sucking vampire because we don’t know what’s going to happen, we don’t know why things happen well or why things happen bad. Uncertainty at work, uncertainty in love, uncertainty in health and more… uncertainty is a vacuum pump sucking the life-force out of every person who holds it.
In Back on Track program, you will notice that steps 4, 5 and 6 are about creating certainty. They involve knowledge and wisdom, vision and purpose, and Inspiration. These are the keys to absolute certainty. Certainty about the future, certainty about the past.
Uncertainty is often subconscious. It deprives the mind of clarity, makes us seek approval from others, robs us of freedom to be ourselves, and makes us second guess our choices, a nasty habit.
Directing Your Energy
Your energy goes where your mind goes and your mind, if left free will go wherever it is distracted to go or finds interest. Therefore, as it’s written in all the great sciences of mind, your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
Mind thinks. It can’t help itself. If it thinks about two things at once, or three, or has the subconscious and the conscious minds dealing with different issues, it becomes another vampire, sucking the life-force out of you. In Yoga this is called Kundalini, it’s the vitality or magnetism that runs through your nervous system. The core of that energy runs up and down your spine, but not as the fantasia yogi teachers think. Let me explain.
I want you to visualise please the your mind being the gear box of a car. Your energy is the engine of the car. With certain circumstances the engine (your energy) roars, lets say, because you ate fish and chips or carbohydrates for dinner, but if your mind is in the wrong gear, the car, your life, doesn’t go very far. You make allot of noise, travel to allot of places, cry, laugh, make love, eat, do exercise but at the end of the day, have nothing much to show for it.
This state of wheel spin, with the engine roaring and the mind in low gear is, in more technical language, called fight or flight. It can feel fantastic but the net output is, well, in less technical language, nothing, really messed up, stressed, overwhelmed, and inevitably disappointing.
So, the gears of the engine, your mind can be fantastic or your worst enemy.
Lets look at an alternative. In the car you normally start off in low gear to get the car moving, so, infatuation usually gets you going in the right direction. But you can only have two hours of infatuation in a whole day, again, because it burns huge amounts of fuel, revs the engine to almost red line, but goes no where. Its exhausting. So, as in a car, the mind has higher levels of thinking, higher gears to get past infatuation.
If fifth gear in a car is redline top speed, love in the mind is the human equivalent. So, loving what you do is the opposite to infatuating what you do. One gets you started, the other keeps you going. When you slow down or lose momentum you drop back into low gear, infatuation to get started again, but only to kick start your engine.
Lets look at infatuation (low gear, high burn rate, exhaustion)
Infatuation is caused when a mind sees 7 times more positive benefits to something than drawbacks, negatives. An easy example is when you meet a new lover and just can’t see a single thing wrong with them. That’s infatuation and it makes you quite sexually active. Of course, in most cases this doesn’t last, and any relationship that starts with infatuation always ends up in the opposite, resentment. So, we propagate the specie, get pregnant with infatuation, and we get bored, angry and divorced with resentment. If we can get past both and put the mind into the “higher gear,” we get a relationship long term.
So, meditation is meant to teach us how to move between the bottom low gear and the top high gear. Not because high gear is better than low gear, no, they both are essential. It’s because low gear isn’t sustainable, causes violence, makes us hate ourselves and others and leads to chaos.
That’s why kundalini, as taught by most yogi’s is so often messed up. They are suggesting high gear is better than low gear because it feels good, but while how the gear feels is important, it’s always low.
The very definition of high gear is when how we feel, “short term gratification” is replaced by long term discipline. And discipline doesn’t feel good. It feels good and not good and until neither becomes important, then we are definitely stuck in low gear.
In Back on Track program you’ll notice that the fifth step is Vision, Inspiration and Purpose. Now this is a vital key because what we are asking you to do is describe a future that makes it worthwhile to forgo some short term comfort for some long term results (high gear).
Now, the key to this is realism. If we are sacrificing short term comfort for long term discipline, the thing we are reaching out for in the future had better be tantalizingly worth it. And this is where it gets tricky. Sorry to make this so damn complex.
If we infatuate the future, in other words get all hyped up about how wonderful it will be, we are not really kicking into high gear are we, instead, we’d be just applying short term, low gear thinking to the future. So, to really engage the future, we need inspiration. Inspiration is the opposite to infatuation. Inspiration means that in spite of their being an upside and a downside to the future, it’s just wonderful.
The key to inspiration are your values. What inspires me, doesn’t necessarily inspire you. That’s because what I value as important and what you value as important are different. (your values are fingerprint specific) There are also really high core values, called intrinsic values (not material) and there are really solid core values, called extrinsic values (which are perfectly material.
Getting your vision, inspiration and purpose to line up, means to prioritise your higher values over your lower ones, and to align your intrinsic values with your extrinsic ones.
Here’s an example of a great vision. Lets say Peter’s intrinsic value is harmony. He loves harmony. When he feels harmony he feels inspired. He feels harmony in gardens, some art, some conversations, some activities. So, Peter’s vision of the future will inevitably include harmony. Of course, there is going to be disharmony too, because there are two sides to everything. Now comes the key: Peter’s extrinsic values are his work, his family, his health, his wealth, his social life and his knowledge in that order. What that means in simple language is that as long as Peter feels harmony in the top three extrinsic values he will be happy to experience disharmony in his lower three.
So, the vision process is not just about sitting down playing with matches and setting fire to some fuse to ignite the future. That always leads to trouble and disappointment. Vision process involves inspiration that is generated out of a deep personal understanding.
When the teacher says “know yourself” - they might imply that they want you to know what toast you like or whether you prefer Red wine or White. But really, to know yourself is just to know your values, your intrinsic, extrinsic and their priority.
To know your values is often complicated by how many books you’ve read, how many tapes you’ve listened to, how much your head has been filled with dogma about should do this and should do that. This is where the whole thing gets bent out of shape. The more books you read about yourself and the more tapes you listen to the more confused you’ll become. The best way to know yourself, and therefore your values, is to go sit under a tree.
Back on Track is 100% nature based. So, instead of jamming more knowledge into your overcrowded mind and telling you what you should or shouldn’t be doing, I designed Back on Track to let your True Nature surface. The fastest way for that to happen is to sit down and shut up, under a tree. Silence is the best teacher.
So, directing your energy means to bring your mind to one single topic and that topic is best linked to your vision. Then, all your energy is creating something rather than being pee’d against the wall being all emotional and infatuated or run by your subconscious (fears and guilts), that’s just exhausting.
To bring your mind to one single topic requires practice. The way we practice is simple:
Sit down with a scent that engages your mind. At the same time sit down with a thought that engages your feelings. At the same time sit down with a sight that engages your mind’s eye. At the same time sit down with a taste that engages your flavors. And now, add a sound that engages your ears. With all five senses focussed your can then focus on one topic and you are concentrating, running in high gear, directing maximum focussed energy and using the least amount of emotional waste (infatuation/resentment).
It takes practice. For the first 20 times just do this for 10 minutes lying on the floor with your head supported. Eventually you can sit up. Eventually you can walk and do it. And, after a while you’ll be able to talk and do it.
With focus and vision, you can direct energy to things you can’t see. These include:
1 Sending energy to a friend who is ill
Sending love to a partner who is at work
Sending kindness to a child who is at school and feeling alone
Sending thankfulness to a parent or sibling
Sending healing to a whole group of people who are in difficult circumstances
Creating and manifesting material wealth
Connecting with clients
There are one thousand more places you can send energy but only if the energy is refined to higher gears of the mind, inspiration and love.
One final note: What comes from the human heart is not love, it is third gear, a middle range gear somewhere between the lowest and highest gear. In plain language the heart is ambivalence. it can never make a decision, because it is always caught somewhere between short term benefit and long term benefit. Those two are usually in conflict and therefore, in our heart, we are in confusion.
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Fools rush in where Angels Fear to Tread
You've got that worried look on your face. People are asking you "is everything ok?" You don't quite know why they think you're not ok. And yet, even though you are at work, there's a niggling problem in the background of your mind... "do I marry him or not?" It's called doubt and doubt is one of the most debilitating emotional experiences one can have. Lets work out what we can do about it.
Today, I would love to talk about dealing with doubt.
Doubt is one of the five most debilitating emotions, the other four are hate, anger, fear and guilt. So it’s a high ranking, lower emotion.
In all life mastery and spiritual philosophies, clearing doubt is the fundamental objective.
Doubt comes from the Latin dubitare, it means to waver, hesitate.
And the word hesitate links to the phrase “he/she who hesitates is lost”
Hesitation comes from second guessing. Have you ever gone into a clothes store and heard the shop assistant say how wonderful those shoes you are trying on look, but you ask again “are you sure?” - that’s doubt and he/she who hesitates to listen to the doubt is lost because they empower the shop assistant to define whether the shoes are right. In this case, he/she who hesitates is lost because hesitate means to waver. Surely the fact that you even need to ask the shop assistant, or a friend, or a family member for advice is a sign that you are, in your deepest being, disempowering yourself, accelerating your doubts, rather than clearing them.
Doubt is an ingredient of the human ego. While we are trapped in the confinement of our mind, beliefs, memories, expectations and projections of the future, we must have doubt. One cannot overcome doubt by thinking. And yet, most try.
Doubt has it’s place. If we have doubt then we must not proceed because something is warning us that we are not fully informed and our ego is in complete control.
We can’t live without our ego, so there is no use bypassing our ego (beliefs, ideas, expectations and memories), if we do bypass our ego, we end up regretting decisions because the ego will, in its many subtle ways, sabotage any choices it has not been consulted on and eventually prove itself right.
Have you ever thrown uncertainty and doubt to the wind and dived into something whole heartedly (heartedly meaning without doubt - hence without ego) and then found out that there were an untold number of warning signs that you were ill-prepared and therefore setting yourself up for failure?
I have done this in several relationships, but thought to myself, “I will not listen to those doubts because at a spiritual heart level I feel unconditional love.” I lived to pay for those choices. Even the most spiritual heart will only surface in a day for an hour or so and the rest of the time, our ego will take control. If it had doubt in the first instance it will multiply that doubt over and over in order to validate itself. Eventually, it (the ego) will sabotage whatever choices we make that exclude it.
Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Fear is an ego state, and therefore, angels are the mirrors of our ego. If angels fear something, our ego can’t be all that stupid for fearing the same thing, can it?
This is a vital element of all great spiritual and personal development work. Rather than to admonish and punish our ego, we need to befriend it. The ego is not our enemy. In fact, all wealth is created through the ego, all romance is developed through the ego, all fertility and child birth and parenting, and leadership and social change and human compassion are the benefits of ego. Kill the ego, kill those benefits too.
One must be careful. If there is someone shooting down the ego as a bad thing, then they might be right, because the ego does cause allot of human suffering and doubt. But the ego also causes happiness and clarity and direction. If we kill the downside of the ego, we kill the upside. We must be careful of new age, half life thinking that defies nature and sells ideas that are great on paper but can’t be lived.
Fools rush in where angels (ego) fear to tread. So, to move forward we must always deal with the ego and fear and doubt. How?
Firstly, understand that the ego works in only two dimensions: fear of the future and giult of the past.
All fear of the future comes from all guilt of the past. If we feel like we have hurt ourselves or hurt others in the past, we will fear hurting ourselves and hurting others in the future. Thus past guilt creates future doubt.
If you have future doubt, and can’t make a decision, always know that the source of the doubt comes from a defiance of nature’s laws in our stories from the past.
Second, changing the past stories so they eliminate the debilitating ego crunching power of guilt and the consequent doubts that it creates.
In nature’s universal laws (the laws that run the universe and every cell of your body) there cannot be a pleasure without a pain, a benefit without a drawback, a hurt without a help. So, the ego, which runs on denial of universal laws, builds half stories that gratify emotions, are interesting to share with friends and great to get advice on, but are lies.
Can you hurt someone or hurt yourself in the past without helping someone or helping yourself in the past? If your answer is yes, then you must have guilt and doubt will rob you of the future. If the answer is no, then you will be able to work through any guilt you might have and clear the past, and by doing so, clear doubt about the future.
Third and final, love.
Love cannot co-exist with doubt. If you allow doubt to be your perpetual companion it will sabotage everything you do. That is why it is worth while clearing the past before starting the future. Love, the human state of full engagement in activity cannot exist in a doubtful mind/heart. Let your doubts be cleared.
To clear doubt, there are only one or two process I have experienced, that work. The primary one belongs to Dr John Demartini - The Demartini Method…. If you would love to know more about this process I have been helping clients with this for 17 years and can offer this service or contact Drdemartini.com to find a local certified consultant.
To live one single day without love is the greatest loss… let your doubts be cleared
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By Jonathan AmosScience correspondent, BBC News
Dung beetles manage to maintain straight roll paths even on moonless nights
They may be down in the dirt but it seems dung beetles also have their eyes on the stars.Scientists have shown how the insects will use the Milky Way to orientate themselves as they roll their balls of muck along the ground.Humans, birds and seals are all known to navigate by the stars. But this could be the first example of an insect doing so.The study by Marie Dacke is reported in the journal Current Biology."The dung beetles are not necessarily rolling with the Milky Way or 90 degrees to it; they can go at any angle to this band of light in the sky. They use it as a reference," the Lund University, Sweden, researcher told BBC News.Dung beetles like to run in straight lines. When they find a pile of droppings, they shape a small ball and start pushing it away to a safe distance where they can eat it, usually underground.Getting a good bearing is important because unless the insect rolls a direct course, it risks turning back towards the dung pile where another beetle will almost certainly try to steal its prized ball.Dr Dacke had previously shown that dung beetles were able to keep a straight line by taking cues from the Sun, the Moon, and even the pattern of polarised light formed around these light sources.But it was the animals' capacity to maintain course even on clear Moonless nights that intrigued the researcher.So the native South African took the insects into the Johannesburg planetarium where she could control the type of star fields a beetle might see overhead.Importantly, she put the beetles in a container with blackened walls to be sure the animals were not using information from landmarks on the horizon, which in the wild might be trees, for example.The beetles performed best when confronted with a perfect starry sky projected on to the planetarium dome, but coped just as well when shown only the diffuse bar of light that is the plane of our Milky Way Galaxy.Dr Dacke thinks it is the bar more than the points of light that is important."These beetles have compound eyes," she told the BBC. "It's known that crabs, which also have compound eyes, can see a few of the brightest stars in the sky. Maybe the beetles can do this as well, but we don't know that yet; it's something we're looking at. However, when we show them just the bright stars in the sky, they get lost. So it's not them that the beetles are using to orientate themselves."And indeed, in the field, Dr Dacke has seen beetles run in to trouble when the Milky Way briefly lies flat on the horizon at particular times of the year.The question is how many other animals might use similar night-time navigation.It has been suggested some frogs and even spiders are using stars for orientation. The Lund researcher is sure there will be many more creatures out there doing it; scientists just need to go look."I think night-flying moths and night-flying locusts could benefit from using a star compass similar to the one that the dung beetles are using," she said.But for the time being, Dr Dacke is concentrating on the dung beetle. She is investigating the strange dance the creature does on top of its ball of muck. The hypothesis is that this behaviour marks the moment the beetle takes its bearings.and follow me on Twitter: @BBCAmos
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This review aims to contribute to the ongoing discussion about human health, global change, and biodiversity by concentrating on the relationships between forests and human health. This review gives a short overview of the most important health benefits that forests provide to humans, and the risks that forests may pose to human health. Furthermore, it discusses the future challenges for the research on the links between forests and human health, and for delivering health through forests in practice. Forests provide enormous possibilities to improve human health conditions. The results of a vast amount of research show that forest visits promote both physical and mental health by reducing stress. Forests represent rich natural pharmacies by virtue of being enormous sources of plant and microbial material with known or potential medicinal or nutritional value. Forest food offers a safety net for the most vulnerable population groups in developing countries, and healthy forest ecosystems may also help in regulation of infectious diseases. Utilizing forests effectively in health promotion could reduce public health care budgets and create new sources of income. Main challenges to delivering health through forests are due to ecosystem and biodiversity degradation, deforestation, and climate change. In addition, major implementation of research results into practice is still lacking. Inadequate implementation is partly caused by insufficient evidence base and partly due to the lack of policy-makers' and practitioners' awareness of the potential of forests for improving human health. This calls for strong cooperation among researchers, policy-makers, and practitioners as well as between different sectors, especially between health and environmental professionals.
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In a 2011 study of 128 college runners, researchers found that "surrounding greenness" was an indicator of better athletic performance. Other studies have shown that exercising in nature results in less fatigue, reduced anxiety, less hostility, more positive thoughts, and an overall feeling of invigoration.Natural settings alleviate directed-attention fatigue (DAF), which occurs when the brain's prefrontal cortex must constantly manage competing stimuli. DAF can cause impatience and irritability. Gazing at clouds and trees restores both mood and cognitive function.Running on natural surfaces, specifically grass, is 15 to 35 percent easier on your joints—especially your knees—than running on pavement and also lessens the impact on the plantar fascia, the sensitive tissue that supports your arch. The shock absorption also makes your muscles work harder, so you get a better workout.When you're relaxing in nature, your adrenal cortex produces less of the hormone cortisol, which activates the body's stress response. Prolonged periods of stress can also shrink the hippocampus, which is where we form and store memories. By contrast, less stress enhances neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to form new connections.
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