Chris Walker - Nature Strategies for Balance

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Emotional Transparency Part 3.

This video presents emotional transparency as nature's universal law explains it. One reason why people can't see through emotion is that a positive emotion in one are of life might just manifest its balance in another area. For example: an upper at work and a downer at home. A victory in sport and a disaster in social life. Emotional attachment to uppers breed downers but sometimes we're not aware that the upper that caused the downer is in a completely unrelated area of our life. This video explains Emotion according to Nature's Universal Laws - Human Nature.

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Dealing with Insults

Dealing with Insults

Dumji Namche Nepal.
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Do you take insults personally? Most people do. Ever asked why?

The reason is, according to Human Nature, that we develop bark around our tree trunk to protect it from the weather, and then start to think that bark is the tree. In other words, we create a persona, an ego, and then become attached to it as some measure of the value of who we are.

Hence an insult is a blessing. Actually, anything we react to is a part of us we don't love. So, given the purpose of a tree is to reach for the Sun, the equivalent purpose of Human Nature is to reach for love, insults and our reaction to them, are signs that we're living in the shadows of our ego.

So, lets pretend you hear the following: "You stupid, dump, irresponsible, disgraceful, untrustworthy, lump of useless frog droppings, you cowardly, lying, cheating bastard/bitch." So, how's it feel?

If you prioritise your Ego and your GOT TO - SHOULD DO, beliefs, you'll probably say something akin to "How dare you." but if you understand your true nature, your real human nature, you'll say, like me, "thanks." And that's the difference. How well do you know and like yourself? I mean really.

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Dumji Namche Nepal.
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Do you take insults personally? Most people do. Ever asked why?

The reason is, according to Human Nature, that we develop bark around our tree trunk to protect it from the weather, and then start to think that bark is the tree. In other words, we create a persona, an ego, and then become attached to it as some measure of the value of who we are.

Hence an insult is a blessing. Actually, anything we react to is a part of us we don't love. So, given the purpose of a tree is to reach for the Sun, the equivalent purpose of Human Nature is to reach for love, insults and our reaction to them, are signs that we're living in the shadows of our ego.

So, lets pretend you hear the following: "You stupid, dump, irresponsible, disgraceful, untrustworthy, lump of useless frog droppings, you cowardly, lying, cheating bastard/bitch." So, how's it feel?

If you prioritise your Ego and your GOT TO - SHOULD DO, beliefs, you'll probably say something akin to "How dare you." but if you understand your true nature, your real human nature, you'll say, like me, "thanks." And that's the difference. How well do you know and like yourself? I mean really.

Intensity

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Backing away from a challenging situation in order to reduce your stress levels and get more happiness is a disaster.

Challenge is an opportunity. If you are in a fading relationship, learn to love the socks off your partner before you leave. If you have a boss you can't communicate with learn to manage upward before you change jobs and if you have a business you don't like, turn it into a profit making enterprise before you sell it.

Too many people run from opportunities to evolve. Challenges are those opportunities. Everything is sacred because everything is a chance to grow you heart, mind and spirit toward the future in a healthy way.

Intensity is the prime key to spirituality. Success, love, romance, happiness and health hinge on it. Just take a look around: the unhealthiest people you'll meet have the least intensity. They're the ones that gave up their day job to "be more relaxed" but they spend most of their spare time in the health food shop looking for herbs to heal the inevitable emotional ailments that come from "idle mind."

If you are stressed, unhappy, overworked, in difficulty at home, turn up the dial. Work harder, love deeper, get more fit and instead of blaming the circumstance ask: "What thoughts are stopping me from adapting to a bigger life?"

Willingness to Wonder

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Have you ever wondered why people give up on the promises and commitments they make? Well, in human nature, it's absolutely understandable.

Anything we say we've "Got to do" or "Got to not do" we can't sustain. A "got to" head space is like wind always blowing from the East. Got to go one way automatically presumes there's no West but there is.

All stress comes from GOT TO thinking, desperation. Not far behind it is SHOULD thinking. When people say "should" and "shouldn't" they're committing an understandable error in motivation.

GOT TO and SHOULD DO are motivations which feel, on the surface like they're going to guarantee the elimination of some issue, overcome some problem or solve a situation. Sadly however, those words in one direction guarantee their opposite.

Here's an article written from a Psychological headspace that gives some intellect to what is nature's universal law. http://www.psychologicalscience.org/onlyhuman/2010/03/willingness-to-wonder.cfm

Emotional Transparency Part 2.

Emotional Transparency Part 2.

So, in the first video we learned about "Think Balance" and the difference between emotional thinking and Nature's law. We got to understand how, by finding balance in any situation we could make that circumstance or person or thing become ambivalent to us. In other words not give our power away.

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So, in the first video we learned about "Think Balance" and the difference between emotional thinking and Nature's law. We got to understand how, by finding balance in any situation we could make that circumstance or person or thing become ambivalent to us. In other words not give our power away.

You don't have to be good to be Spiritual

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Thirty years ago, I did something I wasn't proud of so I went searching for a better me, and ended up in meditation in an Ashram.

Basically I was trying to become good which in my research was also called spiritual. But that's a myth.

Spiritual is simply happy.

And happiness is a choice. We choose a thousand times a day to be stressed, pushed or to make the commitment to remain happy.

The best place to learn all this is out in nature. Here there is no good or bad, it just is.

Inspired - 101

There's one thing following Nature's Universal laws can't do and that's to turn a shitty job in which you are prioritising earning money over living a great life, into something to celebrate.

There's nothing more disconnected from spirit than doing stuff that stresses your brain just to earn the bucks to go home and spend it on the grog that relieves the stress. And there's no relationship gonna mend that either.

Check this video out and ask yourself "how does my life compare?"

Your World is a Beautiful Place

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I think the world is heading in a beautiful direction although it's probably not what I was hoping or thinking would happen on many levels.

I hoped for more peace, more feeding of hungry children and less violence. But, that's me coating my world with leather rather than putting on shoes.

Life is how we see it. An ice cream can be a disgusting agglomeration of fat, cholesterol, mind spinning sugar and hidden pharmaceuticals or it can be the most delicious loving treat in the hands of a child.

I might have my ideas about life but if those ideas are in conflict with Nature's Universal Laws who do you think is going to come out on top?

Nature isn't interested in peace: she wants evolution. Resist all we want, there's just no option.

Nature isn't interested in feeding starving children either: she demands balance between consumption and evolution. Statistics are of no meaning to her.

Nature isn't interested in religions either: she's interested only in love - the balance between support and challenge and not the ego.

I guess it depends on which glasses we look through as to what we see and how we see the world. I think, through the eyes of nature, all is sacred, even if we'd prefer it otherwise.

Homework doesn't stink

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How fit do you need to be to paddle a kayak 60km? The answer is: fit enough to paddle 100km.

How much product knowledge do you need to sell something? Answer is: twice as much as the client needs to know.

How much wisdom do you need to have in order to teach? Answer is at least 20 times more than what you're teaching.

How prepared for a 10 day trek in Nepal do you need to be 1/ To be on the trek as a participant? 2/ To lead it? Answer: 1/ To be on the trek fit enough for 15 days trekking. 2/ To lead it, 3 times that.

How much knowledge of the future do you need to lead a team? Answer: At least double that of any team member.

Doing just enough, just enough to get by, just enough is never good enough when it comes to preparation. For example: in a relationship how much love and affection do you need to demonstrate to your partner? Answer: Twice as much as they expect. That's the homework, and that's the question that needs to be asked, "do I love them enough to do double their expectation?"

Emotional Transparency Part 1.

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This is the first of five videos on this important topic.

Spirit Moments

Spirit Moments
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All the great masters, Lao Tsu, Jesus, Mohamed, Pattanjali, Buddha, and more spoke one truth in common. The love and respect for nature was at the core of the best human condition.

On their passing, many books were written about how to be this "best" human condition, and in the translation the what we should do and be became disconnected from its root. The importance and power of nature in the development of our humanity was disconnected and institutions took their place.

The love and respect for nature cannot be separated from our love and respect for ourselves and the love and respect we hold for ourselves cannot be disconnected from the love and respect we hold for others. Our humanity, our love, our success and our healthy happiness hinges on our capacity to connect to nature. Human nature and nature are one. We are the environment we create.

Results are Reality

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In a busy life, a million million things can pass through your mind in a day, but the real question is "what result came of it?"

A feeling of goodness might make you swoon in warm sunlight, but until this comes to the world in a real way, it is nothing. Millions of thoughts, so what?

In your hands you hold a precious gift. Your heart and in holding your heart you hold the hearts of others. Your actions, thoughts and feelings do have a result. They impact those around you.

Thoughts, feelings and ideas travel through walls. So the life you have is rarely anything more than what you wanted. You might cry "I am a victim of life" but in nature, this diminishes the beauty and importance of everything.

Nothing is wasted. Everything has meaning. We are powerful creators, miniature creators. Our thoughts, conscious or subconscious manifest themselves to create the life and feelings we live. The thoughts of a leader impact those they lead.

There are low thoughts that create material wealth with much stress and little happiness. There are high thoughts that create good feelings, great happiness but little material abundance.

Being a whole human, we BE, DO and HAVE. We create, we cause, we manifest and we destroy. Can you appreciate the value of each? Just look to nature for answers. She is the best mirror of your true humanity.

Bring a little Nature into Your life

We lose everything when we lose contact with nature. Love goes, time evaporates and our work becomes robotic. The death we all fear comes all too soon in the sterile space of a life separated from nature.

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I can't let go, I can't let go, No, no, I can't let go...

Sydney Skyline
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All eyes are turned to the future. When we're holding on, it's because whatever it is we're holding onto adds some value to our future that we believe cannot exist in any other way.

A couple merge in love because they have some dreams of the future in common, but when one partner loses that link, and the other partner doesn't, one let's go, the other clings like chewing gum to the bottom of a shoe.

When we can't let go, it's because tomorrow with something or someone looks better than without them or it.

Sometimes we lose our authenticity and so, to cope, we cling. In this scenario we have no view of tomorrow, and instead, live vicariously through the dreams and hopes of others: partner, leader, children.

The Power of Calm

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Yesterday I went out to watch an Ocean Race I was meant to be in. My boat was in repair (good excuse) but there was, as always a blessing in disguise, I could watch others race.

The start gun went off under the Harbour Bridge and by the time the leaders reached me, 2 km away, and with another 9km to go a group of 8 paddlers had already put 500 meters between themselves and the second chasing pack.

What was extraordinary to notice was that the front bunch were paddling faster but they were totally relaxed, smooth, sitting tall, breathing easy, racing each other stroke for stroke, while the second batch came in, slumped over their paddle, breathing hard, teeth gritted and snarling.

What do you make of that? Can you see this in business too? Sometimes the harder we try the worse things get. I think, whether we win or lose, when we take ourselves too seriously we slow down.

How does this affect love and leadership?

Kang-Guru - Life's too short to learn from your own experience

I hear over and over the quote, "better to have tried and lost than not to have tried at all." Or it's corporate equivalent, nothing ventured nothing gained.

But, in Nature's law, risk and lost are two very expensive words.

I prefer, nothing risked, nothing lost.

The whole idea of tried and ventured are, for many, a sense of pride in going where angels fear to tread. But martyrdom is not really the most effective process of exploration, and certainly the most expensive because it is based on experience.

Life is too short to learn from experience, so, why not learn from others' experience?

However, the best way to learn is to know the rules of success in any endeavour.

Meditation for Life

In my first meditation class, taught in a school hall at night, we were taught to sit and chant the word "OM" repeatedly for an hour. The sound was "ooo -mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm" and with ten people in a hall built for 200 the sound, reverberating off the walls was awesome. I'd drift into Na-na land within minutes.

Half an hour after class, sitting at home, the phone would ring or my wife would speak truthfully and all the outward benefit of that meditation class would be gone. Boom, back to reality and typically in resentment. The world, real life, was getting in the way of my inner peace.

Pity Loves a Party

 On my 23rd trek in Nepal Khumbu, I caught what is commonly known as the Khumbu cough. I didn't medicate properly and inadvertently turned it into a  cold, then into a flu, then Pluracy. 

I went to the monastery looking for help, some compassion, but the monks treated me the same as they did the week before when I was bright and cheerful.

The result was that I had to go to the mountain hospital at Khunde, and fix the problem. In this experience, yet another Himalayan lesson that is not in books, I learned the real meaning of compassion.

You see, I went to the monastery feeling sorry for myself, wanting - no expecting sympathy and support - I got none of that and as a result, had to focus on fixing the problem, rather than getting "monk miles" for being miserable.

It made me realise a habit I'd developed over 30 years of life, and that was to milk every circumstance for as much attention as it could generate, to get sympathy, create a pity party, rather than sort it and move on.

Authenticity - The Fast Track to Productivity and Harmony

 There was once a time when feeling was good, feeling was celebrated, feeling was, at the end of the day, a sign of authenticity and humanity.

But the pace of life is accelerating, the gaps between the pavement are getting wider, it's becoming all too distracting to feel.

How many people have goals, agendas, schedules and lists of to do's that fill their life? Most? What loss comes from that definition of healthy work practice and productivity?

But it's not the lack of feelings that causes trouble. It's the idea that, positive feelings get the job done, so they're welcome, and down feelings don't get agenda's, schedules, lists and to-do's completed. So, we've created a model that implies "positive emotions and feelings are good" and "down, negative feelings and emotions are bad."

So, books such as "the Power of Positive Thinking" and "Think and Grow Rich" and "7 Habits" have become unchallenged icons of modern healthy thinking. The implied between the lines text is, "Getting to the summit is best achieved with positive thinking and we can, by inference eliminate the negative.

Broken Hearts - Why people have affairs an insight into Human Nature...

Of the thousands of emails I get asking about relationships, Affairs dominate 90% of them. In Europe more than 60% of partners have or are having affairs. In the USA it's higher but because of stigma, religious issues and the availability of an underground market, the reported statistics don't match the reality. WHY? Why do people need to, or at least think they need to have a second partner while still attached to the other? Is it love. I say no way... lets see why

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Being Real v's Emotion - Inspiration and How to Sustain it

The only way people can stay positive is by being negative.

The only way people can stay up, is by going down

The only way someone can feel pleasure is to experience pain

the only way we can win is to feel like a loser

The only way we can be happy is to feel sad.

Four New Blogs Out Now

Hi

I just thought I'd let you know that I've split my main blog into four so that people can choose the topic of their focus rather than catch all the blog articles in one.

The main blog that you may be subscribed to, included love, nepal, vision, turning up, and inspiration.

Those are now separate blogs.

The idea is to increase the focus for those who want it and for those who can't keep up, make the read load less.

Here's the link if you want to add other blogs to the main, Chris Walker blog (Now excluding Love, vision, turning up, Nepal)

http://www.chriswalker.com.au/myblog.ph

Live love Life

 I sat in on  a workshop recently by a so called "professional speaker" who claimed she was speaking from the heart, teaching the audience how to love life.

First and foremost, the strain in her voice revealed she was "talking through her hat" - speaking about what she most needed in her own life. That's normal and common for us all, but not always wise as a leader or teacher.

Second, and the topic of this short note, is the idea of "teaching people how to love."

Leadership, love and inspiration are nature given human traits that every person, no matter how Neanderthal, is capable of. 

How the weather plays on emotion and health

Today in Sydney, it’s really windy and that spells trouble for school teachers, pubs, offices, relationships and hospitals. Why?

Because wind brings change. Wind stirs the emotions.

In Tibetan medicine, it is recommended that people who want to be in perfect health, stay out of the wind, that’s how much it affects us in our bio-body and mind.

Babies (children up to the age of 3 included) should never be taken into strong wind. In nearly all wise cultures a baby is kept wrapped and warm for at least 6 months because the difference between the warmth of the womb and the chill of wind and air is considered to be a shock to the heart, mind and soul of the baby.

Turning Up - Here's some ideas for Balance in work and life

If you come home from work with less energy than you left with in the morning, you're not turning up for love.

If you go to work with less energy than you came home with at night, you're not turning up for work.

If you finish the week with less energy than you started you're not turning up for you.

The law of diminishing returns is simple to understand.

Born Free - Until we think we're born free

 If we were to be put in a prison cell, a cell defined by our thinking, we could, if we chose to, spend the rest of our life decorating the cell. We could make it comfortable, nice, safe, pretty, interesting - especially if we could meditate and watch TV.

It would become even more convincing if we could invite others to join us in our cell and have some control over their lives. Enter children and most commonly a relationship. And here we die, nice, comfortable, safe, and miserable.

When nature has her inevitable way, the children break out and raise their middle finger on the way. They, learn faster than parents and by the ripe age of 13 usually leave the cell, and the rigid fear that holds their parents self-imprisoned. This is normal life.

A thousand unfinished yesterdays

 Imagine if you were to sit down and score your yesterday in each of the seven areas of life? Spiritual, mental, social, career, health, relationship, financial what would your score be out of 10.

Now, imagine a thousand yesterdays all stacked and the scores that were missing, the balance between your total score for yesterday and 70 (7 areas and 10 score each) all thrown into a bag.

Those incomplete days past, add up, they accumulate and become what is called baggage. 1,000 unfinished yesterdays.

The past is not the past until it is finished, and the past is never finished until it's a 10/10.

Abandonment

 The car rolled to a stop. In two seconds, she was dead and hundreds of lives were changed forever. 

From all appearances everything returned to normal a year or so after the accident. People went to school got married, made babies. It was all as it should be.

Party tricks are easy. We take the thing that makes us feel the worst, and find ways to survive. We take the core of some deep disgusting foul pain and find ways to cope. And cope we do.

We cope: we create families and cope, we create relationships and cope, we create wealth and jobs and sports and friends and we cope. 

30 Day Personal Challenge

 When it's time for change, there are three important dimensions: to heal the past, to learn how to celebrate the present and to create and explore the future.

The key here is that they go hand in hand. 

We often carry so much baggage from the past, we actually sabotage the future and the present.

We can also develop bad habits in the present moment and start thinking negatively.

Circuit Breakers - Getting inspired - When a Relationship becomes more than a relationship

How long does it take to recover your energy after a day at work? Do you go home tired, looking to chill out?

The longer you leave recovery periods, the more ineffective they are. Over tiredness depletes recovery.

If you were an elite athlete you'd be training two or three times a day. The quality of your performance would depend more on the quality of the recovery than the quality of the training.

We're complicated, when our thoughts are backdated

Everyday stuff happens to us, we divorce, we separate, we get challenged, we get confused. This is life and it's normal. Nobody lives without some growth generating complexity in their life. It's human to be divorced, separated, challenged, confronted, confused, incompetent, frustrated, sick, overweight, broken down, imbalanced.

So, don't beat yourself up just because you are human. Superman and superwoman are cartoons. I even work with monks and spiritual teachers who are human. So, lets start this blog by relaxing into the wonderful realisation that just because you are going through some drama, it doesn't mean you are bad, stupid, stuffed up, wrong, broken or being punished. That's crap.

Future Vision - A Personal Vision Quest

Grief is an essential experience for the creation of a future vision.

We have the choice to grieve the past daily, or let it accumulate to years and years of unfinished business.

Grief is the process of letting go the past.

In the healthy individual we grieve every day.

We let go an achievement, a victory, taking credit, our expectations. But some people don't grieve and let go everyday and then, when it comes to visioning the future, they have a huge grief to catch up on.

A Presentation to Youth - 3 Things I wish I'd Known at Your Age

There are three simple keys I give every youth I work with whether they are in troubled times or not. Maybe we could all benefit from these three.

The three simple keys I give youth come from nature, and the importance of living in harmony with nature.

Our individuality only flourishes if we live in harmony with nature. Otherwise we spend most of our lives fighting the inevitable, repairing what we didn't need to break, or trying to push rocks up hills instead of down.

When I was a youth, I had talents and skills, but I had no road map to use them. I had role models who were half honest and who presented me with stories of their journey to success that left out half the truth of it. and when I tried to emulate them I failed because what they told me they did, and what they actually did to achieve their success were not the same story. One was a theoretical path, the other was real.

Yesterday - All my Troubles seemed so far away

 Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away.

That's why they call it yesterday

So I can have regret

about living here today

Suddenly

Life's not half the fun it used to be

Like there's a shadow hanging over me

Because I believe in yesterday

I said something wrong now I Long for yesterday, eh, eh, eh

yesterday.

- Now call me simple but isn't this song all about living in the past, wishing today would go away? Like somehow we should rue the morning we just woke up in, and wish to wind back the clock?

Practice Between Performances

It's 3.00am on a New York winter's day, 1994. We're off to the Yoga School down on Lower Broadway to teach the 6.00am class. We crawl out of bed, struggle through a coffee and head out to grab the 3.20am subway through central. We exit at Bleeker, and walk the last 200 meters. People are asleep under cardboard, trucks deliver boxes, garbage collectors do their thing. It's night but there's no rest in this city.

A pink haired lady comes past, one breast fully exposed, a bottle of whiskey in her hand, she's singing and it's beautiful as she comes home early from the night club. Friends struggle and stagger behind her, one couple are actually making out on the door step of a magic shop, closed for magic on the inside but obviously a great place for it on the outside.

We arrive. Set up the Yoga mats and away we begin. The heaters kick in, the room warms up, soon people arrive and we roll up our mats to start giving.

WE worked on the basis that we can't give what we haven't got. If we didn't do our practice and fill ourselves with the passion of Yoga, how could we teach it properly? That's a big shift.

Silence is Golden

It's 4.00am, my head hurts. I stumble out of bed and make my way down the cold hallway to the bathroom. I try not to turn on the lights, it hurts my eyes and hence, stimulates reaction.

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Destiny - What happens Next?

Inside us all is a calling for the future.

Children have this uninhibited excitement about tomorrow, or seeing Santa, or next weeks birthday.

Their time frames are short, but, in all, they exist.

Rarely is a child energised for long while being in the moment. Instead, one could say, that a child becomes "content" in the moment and "excited" about the future.

Adults develop longer time frames for being "excited" about the future. Usually adults can see further into the distance and therefore think further ahead than children.

It has been shown conclusively that there is a great calm in the Now. People who cannot find contentment in the present moment struggle with happiness. Ambitious and always wanting, they usually burn out or become addicted to stimulants. An unsustainable life model.

It has also been shown that people who can find contentment in the present moment, lose energy rapidly and find it hard to "play" in the real world.

Going Deep - Deep Personal Awareness - Dreams

For most of my adult life I had a recurring nightmare.

I'd be in a ravine, running, playing when suddenly I'd look up and see an avalanche of rocks coming at me.

I'd try to run, but I was frozen, I just didn't have the strength to move and as I'd watch these boulders tumble down on me, I'd scream with horror.

That scream usually woke my Dad when I was a child and, as an adult frightened the daylights out of my partner in bed next to me.

After 33 years of the same nightmare, sometimes, as a child twice a night for weeks on end, I unravelled the source.

When my mother died, I blamed myself. I was three and goodness knows why I'd hold myself responsible for her death and all the suffering that went on around us. But I did.

I remember her funeral, and the coffin being lowered into the ground, I was three years old.

Soul Time

Extended periods of relaxation are unhealthy.

This comes as a great surprise to many people who have drawn the conclusion that healing, recovery, balance and rejuvenation take days, weeks or months.

Relaxing time, like talking to friends, watching tv, sun-baking, meditation, partying, chilling out or getting a massage is not effective recovery time. It's like riding a bike from Melbourne to Sydney, you'll get there eventually but why not take a plane?

Relaxing takes a long time because it's not very efficient.

Over a lifetime, relaxation time might add up to nearly 50% of our life. Combine this with ineffective sleep and work practices and things we do that can't be sustained and the 50% might add up to 80% of our lives spent doing things that are, in the end, of no real inherent value to ourselves or others.

Nobody treats us better than we treat ourselves. If we think time is valueless, we are also implying that our live, our contribution and our value is valueless.

The Human Spirit

I remember sitting under a tree balling my eyes out, deeply saddened by the circumstances I found myself facing. I cried and cried hoping something would change.

I stood and went to therapy all those years ago, hoping something would change.

I went to yoga soon after, all those years ago, hoping something would change.

I then went to Zen and sat very still, hoping something would change

And then after all that, and 10,000 books, I sat under a tree, balling my eyes out, deeply saddened by circumstances I found myself in, hoping something would change.

Then somebody said to me "shit or get off the pot"

Keep Your Chin Up

How many times have you heard the expression, "keep your chin up." I love http://www.posturepals.com/

It's a fabulous quote because literally it's right, a straight spine changes the way we think.

From time immemorial, Yogi's have twisted and turned their body into all shapes and sizes, and it's now become a health addiction. But originally, the "asana" or body posture shift was only done to allow the meditator to stay perfectly still and upright with good posture for long hours of meditation.

A Beautiful Story in a Busy Day

This story is from Jerome Weidman, with no known copyright info.

When I was a very young man, just beginning to make my way, I was invited to dine at the home of a distinguished New York philanthropist. After dinner our hostess led us to an enormous drawing room. Other guests were pouring in, and my eyes beheld two unnerving sights: servants were arranging small gilt chairs in long, neat rows; and up front, leaning against the wall, were musical instruments. Apparently I was in for an evening of Chamber music.

Pumping Emotional Iron - Why People Need Workers Compensation

Balance is a much misunderstood concept. The EI, and EQ people will tell you all sorts of crazy stuff about good and bad emotion, but little do they realise their work is still stuck in the moral paradigm of make more good - cause less bad. It's a myth that's pervaded corporate training for 20 years and stems from religious undertones woven into the disguise of "good behaviour."

But what if the push for "be good" at work, causes stuff to go down at home that's destructive to love, relationships and heart driven child care? What if, diversity is just another word for cloning and send the "unwelcome bits" elsewhere.

In my corporate work with the Federal Government of Canada, and with indigenous communities, I've found that the more "values based" the organisation strives for, the more sick the home life of that team or community becomes. Why?

Simply put, in nature, there's two sides to everything, so, good emotions are just the balance of bad ones. Emotional control leads to emotional expression, Emotional Intelligence leads to emotional un-intelligence. The only thing such paradigms achieve is to shut people down on certain expressions of emotions and take them home to the kids. That's like corporate corruption. Suck the good, send home the bad. Is this good leadership? Here's an article from the "journal of psychology" that might help explain matters more clearly.

Sitting Still - The Perfect Balance Pill

One of the most common traits I had when I was totally messed up was my inability to sit still. In fact, at the edge of going nuts, sitting still is absolutely impossible.

Why?

In the natural order of things, Spirit controls mind (sense of purpose of vision in life) - Mind controls body (sense of capacity to affect thoughts) and body, controls bowel movements, appetite for orgasm and rather repetitive rudimentary functions, like breathing and heart beat.

Three Relationship Killers

There are three things that can kill the best of relationships.

Many people lower their standards in relationship, they live in the notion that, "this is the best I can do" and poor relationship is good enough. But that's a sad place to end up in life.

Compromise:

When two people fall in love there are some powerful chemicals released. These are health giving chemicals and they affect our work, our health, our financial management and children. So, falling in love chemicals are part of our daily health routine.

We take vitamin pills, herbs, medicines and go to massage for health, but the most health giving medicine on earth is falling in love. We are meant to fall in love a lot. It was never intended (please note the chemistry of the body is nature's guidance) for a once of experience or a law of diminishing returns for the first twelve months. Falling in love is meant to be a lifestyle practice - the more often it happens, the more healthy, happy and inspired we are.

For many people, falling in love is an accident. But that's ridiculous. We know how to fall in love anytime, anywhere.

Three Balance Killers

  To do what you love and love what you do is a great gift - but more important, it's natural.

The very separation of work and play is a clumsy and irrational way to approach the paradigm of "healthy lifestyle."

When we split life up into work and play, we start the process of "workers compensation" the whole idea of going to the pub after work or going home to a peaceful household stems from this clumsiness. Compensating for ugly work, and ugly work practices outside of work is just a myth that causes much human disaster.

If a person doesn't like work, in other words they'd prefer to be at home playing with the kids, then there's no real training program on earth that's going to motivate them to "love their job" - really. All that'll happen is there will be the occasional moment of "gee I feel nice" but really, underneath it's going to be an uphill battle.

Three balance Killers are:

1/ Leaving for work in the morning looking forward to getting home at night.

2/ Sleep deprivation (comes from incomplete contribution during the day)

3/ Wanting to suck the life-force out of a family in order to compensate for crappy work practices.

Video - Balanced Success

This video is intended to provoke some thought

Vision Quest - Video

A video you may find interesting.

Turning up To Turn them On - The Honeymoon that Lasts Forever

Here's a nice 5 minute video that'll make sense

Life - Time - Work - Balance

When I was 20 I trained about an hour a day, and felt fantastic. By the time I was 30 I needed to train 2 hours a day to still be as fit and healthy as I was when I was 20. When I turned 40, it was up to three hours a day to stay 20 years old in my health. At 50, it takes four hours a day to stay as healthy as I was when I was 20. When I turn 60 I'll spend up to six hours a day exercising.

One might think, "when does he work? But that's just it. When I was 20 it took me 8 hours to do 8 hours work. When I turned 30 it took me 6 hours to do 8 hours work. When I turned 40 it took me 5 hours to do 8 hours work. Now I'm 50, I promise that I do 8 hours work every hour.