This the view from our trek in the Himalayas of Nepal looking up the Khumbu Valley toward Mt Everest. Our trail is just visible in the centre valley half way down the left side. Enjoy the other blogs too at:
This the view from our trek in the Himalayas of Nepal looking up the Khumbu Valley toward Mt Everest. Our trail is just visible in the centre valley half way down the left side. Enjoy the other blogs too at:
This video presents emotional transparency as nature's universal law explains it. One reason why people can't see through emotion is that a positive emotion in one are of life might just manifest its balance in another area. For example: an upper at work and a downer at home. A victory in sport and a disaster in social life. Emotional attachment to uppers breed downers but sometimes we're not aware that the upper that caused the downer is in a completely unrelated area of our life. This video explains Emotion according to Nature's Universal Laws - Human Nature.
Dealing with Insults
Do you take insults personally? Most people do. Ever asked why?
The reason is, according to Human Nature, that we develop bark around our tree trunk to protect it from the weather, and then start to think that bark is the tree. In other words, we create a persona, an ego, and then become attached to it as some measure of the value of who we are.Hence an insult is a blessing. Actually, anything we react to is a part of us we don't love. So, given the purpose of a tree is to reach for the Sun, the equivalent purpose of Human Nature is to reach for love, insults and our reaction to them, are signs that we're living in the shadows of our ego.
So, lets pretend you hear the following: "You stupid, dump, irresponsible, disgraceful, untrustworthy, lump of useless frog droppings, you cowardly, lying, cheating bastard/bitch." So, how's it feel?
If you prioritise your Ego and your GOT TO - SHOULD DO, beliefs, you'll probably say something akin to "How dare you." but if you understand your true nature, your real human nature, you'll say, like me, "thanks." And that's the difference. How well do you know and like yourself? I mean really.
Emotional Transparency Part 2.
So, in the first video we learned about "Think Balance" and the difference between emotional thinking and Nature's law. We got to understand how, by finding balance in any situation we could make that circumstance or person or thing become ambivalent to us. In other words not give our power away.
There's one thing following Nature's Universal laws can't do and that's to turn a shitty job in which you are prioritising earning money over living a great life, into something to celebrate.
There's nothing more disconnected from spirit than doing stuff that stresses your brain just to earn the bucks to go home and spend it on the grog that relieves the stress. And there's no relationship gonna mend that either.
Check this video out and ask yourself "how does my life compare?"
This is the first of five videos on this important topic.
We lose everything when we lose contact with nature. Love goes, time evaporates and our work becomes robotic. The death we all fear comes all too soon in the sterile space of a life separated from nature.
Continue reading "I can't let go, I can't let go, No, no, I can't let go..." »
I hear over and over the quote, "better to have tried and lost than not to have tried at all." Or it's corporate equivalent, nothing ventured nothing gained.
But, in Nature's law, risk and lost are two very expensive words.
I prefer, nothing risked, nothing lost.
The whole idea of tried and ventured are, for many, a sense of pride in going where angels fear to tread. But martyrdom is not really the most effective process of exploration, and certainly the most expensive because it is based on experience.
Life is too short to learn from experience, so, why not learn from others' experience?
However, the best way to learn is to know the rules of success in any endeavour.
Continue reading "Kang-Guru - Life's too short to learn from your own experience" »
In my first meditation class, taught in a school hall at night, we were taught to sit and chant the word "OM" repeatedly for an hour. The sound was "ooo -mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm" and with ten people in a hall built for 200 the sound, reverberating off the walls was awesome. I'd drift into Na-na land within minutes.
Half an hour after class, sitting at home, the phone would ring or my wife would speak truthfully and all the outward benefit of that meditation class would be gone. Boom, back to reality and typically in resentment. The world, real life, was getting in the way of my inner peace.
On my 23rd trek in Nepal Khumbu, I caught what is commonly known as the Khumbu cough. I didn't medicate properly and inadvertently turned it into a cold, then into a flu, then Pluracy.
I went to the monastery looking for help, some compassion, but the monks treated me the same as they did the week before when I was bright and cheerful.
The result was that I had to go to the mountain hospital at Khunde, and fix the problem. In this experience, yet another Himalayan lesson that is not in books, I learned the real meaning of compassion.
You see, I went to the monastery feeling sorry for myself, wanting - no expecting sympathy and support - I got none of that and as a result, had to focus on fixing the problem, rather than getting "monk miles" for being miserable.
It made me realise a habit I'd developed over 30 years of life, and that was to milk every circumstance for as much attention as it could generate, to get sympathy, create a pity party, rather than sort it and move on.
There was once a time when feeling was good, feeling was celebrated, feeling was, at the end of the day, a sign of authenticity and humanity.
But the pace of life is accelerating, the gaps between the pavement are getting wider, it's becoming all too distracting to feel.
How many people have goals, agendas, schedules and lists of to do's that fill their life? Most? What loss comes from that definition of healthy work practice and productivity?
But it's not the lack of feelings that causes trouble. It's the idea that, positive feelings get the job done, so they're welcome, and down feelings don't get agenda's, schedules, lists and to-do's completed. So, we've created a model that implies "positive emotions and feelings are good" and "down, negative feelings and emotions are bad."
So, books such as "the Power of Positive Thinking" and "Think and Grow Rich" and "7 Habits" have become unchallenged icons of modern healthy thinking. The implied between the lines text is, "Getting to the summit is best achieved with positive thinking and we can, by inference eliminate the negative.
Continue reading "Authenticity - The Fast Track to Productivity and Harmony" »
Of the thousands of emails I get asking about relationships, Affairs dominate 90% of them. In Europe more than 60% of partners have or are having affairs. In the USA it's higher but because of stigma, religious issues and the availability of an underground market, the reported statistics don't match the reality. WHY? Why do people need to, or at least think they need to have a second partner while still attached to the other? Is it love. I say no way... lets see why
This article appeared on my Love blog which is now an independent Blog from the main.
The only way people can stay positive is by being negative.
The only way people can stay up, is by going down
The only way someone can feel pleasure is to experience pain
the only way we can win is to feel like a loser
The only way we can be happy is to feel sad.
Continue reading "Being Real v's Emotion - Inspiration and How to Sustain it" »
I just thought I'd let you know that I've split my main blog into four so that people can choose the topic of their focus rather than catch all the blog articles in one.
The main blog that you may be subscribed to, included love, nepal, vision, turning up, and inspiration.
Those are now separate blogs.
The idea is to increase the focus for those who want it and for those who can't keep up, make the read load less.
Here's the link if you want to add other blogs to the main, Chris Walker blog (Now excluding Love, vision, turning up, Nepal)
http://www.chriswalker.com.au/myblog.ph
I sat in on a workshop recently by a so called "professional speaker" who claimed she was speaking from the heart, teaching the audience how to love life.
First and foremost, the strain in her voice revealed she was "talking through her hat" - speaking about what she most needed in her own life. That's normal and common for us all, but not always wise as a leader or teacher.
Second, and the topic of this short note, is the idea of "teaching people how to love."
Leadership, love and inspiration are nature given human traits that every person, no matter how Neanderthal, is capable of.
Because wind brings change. Wind stirs the emotions.
In Tibetan medicine, it is recommended that people who want to be in perfect health, stay out of the wind, that’s how much it affects us in our bio-body and mind.
Babies (children up to the age of 3 included) should never be taken into strong wind. In nearly all wise cultures a baby is kept wrapped and warm for at least 6 months because the difference between the warmth of the womb and the chill of wind and air is considered to be a shock to the heart, mind and soul of the baby.Continue reading "How the weather plays on emotion and health" »
If you come home from work with less energy than you left with in the morning, you're not turning up for love.
If you go to work with less energy than you came home with at night, you're not turning up for work.
If you finish the week with less energy than you started you're not turning up for you.
The law of diminishing returns is simple to understand.
Continue reading "Turning Up - Here's some ideas for Balance in work and life" »
If we were to be put in a prison cell, a cell defined by our thinking, we could, if we chose to, spend the rest of our life decorating the cell. We could make it comfortable, nice, safe, pretty, interesting - especially if we could meditate and watch TV.
It would become even more convincing if we could invite others to join us in our cell and have some control over their lives. Enter children and most commonly a relationship. And here we die, nice, comfortable, safe, and miserable.
When nature has her inevitable way, the children break out and raise their middle finger on the way. They, learn faster than parents and by the ripe age of 13 usually leave the cell, and the rigid fear that holds their parents self-imprisoned. This is normal life.
Continue reading "Born Free - Until we think we're born free" »
Imagine if you were to sit down and score your yesterday in each of the seven areas of life? Spiritual, mental, social, career, health, relationship, financial what would your score be out of 10.
Now, imagine a thousand yesterdays all stacked and the scores that were missing, the balance between your total score for yesterday and 70 (7 areas and 10 score each) all thrown into a bag.
Those incomplete days past, add up, they accumulate and become what is called baggage. 1,000 unfinished yesterdays.
The past is not the past until it is finished, and the past is never finished until it's a 10/10.
The car rolled to a stop. In two seconds, she was dead and hundreds of lives were changed forever.
From all appearances everything returned to normal a year or so after the accident. People went to school got married, made babies. It was all as it should be.
Party tricks are easy. We take the thing that makes us feel the worst, and find ways to survive. We take the core of some deep disgusting foul pain and find ways to cope. And cope we do.
We cope: we create families and cope, we create relationships and cope, we create wealth and jobs and sports and friends and we cope.
When it's time for change, there are three important dimensions: to heal the past, to learn how to celebrate the present and to create and explore the future.
We often carry so much baggage from the past, we actually sabotage the future and the present.
We can also develop bad habits in the present moment and start thinking negatively.
How long does it take to recover your energy after a day at work? Do you go home tired, looking to chill out?
The longer you leave recovery periods, the more ineffective they are. Over tiredness depletes recovery.
If you were an elite athlete you'd be training two or three times a day. The quality of your performance would depend more on the quality of the recovery than the quality of the training.
Everyday stuff happens to us, we divorce, we separate, we get challenged, we get confused. This is life and it's normal. Nobody lives without some growth generating complexity in their life. It's human to be divorced, separated, challenged, confronted, confused, incompetent, frustrated, sick, overweight, broken down, imbalanced.
So, don't beat yourself up just because you are human. Superman and superwoman are cartoons. I even work with monks and spiritual teachers who are human. So, lets start this blog by relaxing into the wonderful realisation that just because you are going through some drama, it doesn't mean you are bad, stupid, stuffed up, wrong, broken or being punished. That's crap.
Continue reading "We're complicated, when our thoughts are backdated" »
Grief is an essential experience for the creation of a future vision.
We have the choice to grieve the past daily, or let it accumulate to years and years of unfinished business.
Grief is the process of letting go the past.
In the healthy individual we grieve every day.
We let go an achievement, a victory, taking credit, our expectations. But some people don't grieve and let go everyday and then, when it comes to visioning the future, they have a huge grief to catch up on.
Continue reading "Future Vision - A Personal Vision Quest" »
There are three simple keys I give every youth I work with whether they are in troubled times or not. Maybe we could all benefit from these three.
The three simple keys I give youth come from nature, and the importance of living in harmony with nature.
Our individuality only flourishes if we live in harmony with nature. Otherwise we spend most of our lives fighting the inevitable, repairing what we didn't need to break, or trying to push rocks up hills instead of down.
When I was a youth, I had talents and skills, but I had no road map to use them. I had role models who were half honest and who presented me with stories of their journey to success that left out half the truth of it. and when I tried to emulate them I failed because what they told me they did, and what they actually did to achieve their success were not the same story. One was a theoretical path, the other was real.
Continue reading "A Presentation to Youth - 3 Things I wish I'd Known at Your Age" »
Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away.
That's why they call it yesterday
So I can have regret
about living here today
Suddenly
Life's not half the fun it used to be
Like there's a shadow hanging over me
Because I believe in yesterday
I said something wrong now I Long for yesterday, eh, eh, eh
yesterday.
- Now call me simple but isn't this song all about living in the past, wishing today would go away? Like somehow we should rue the morning we just woke up in, and wish to wind back the clock?
Continue reading "Yesterday - All my Troubles seemed so far away" »
It's 3.00am on a New York winter's day, 1994. We're off to the Yoga School down on Lower Broadway to teach the 6.00am class. We crawl out of bed, struggle through a coffee and head out to grab the 3.20am subway through central. We exit at Bleeker, and walk the last 200 meters. People are asleep under cardboard, trucks deliver boxes, garbage collectors do their thing. It's night but there's no rest in this city.
A pink haired lady comes past, one breast fully exposed, a bottle of whiskey in her hand, she's singing and it's beautiful as she comes home early from the night club. Friends struggle and stagger behind her, one couple are actually making out on the door step of a magic shop, closed for magic on the inside but obviously a great place for it on the outside.
We arrive. Set up the Yoga mats and away we begin. The heaters kick in, the room warms up, soon people arrive and we roll up our mats to start giving.
WE worked on the basis that we can't give what we haven't got. If we didn't do our practice and fill ourselves with the passion of Yoga, how could we teach it properly? That's a big shift.
It's 4.00am, my head hurts. I stumble out of bed and make my way down the cold hallway to the bathroom. I try not to turn on the lights, it hurts my eyes and hence, stimulates reaction.
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Inside us all is a calling for the future.
Children have this uninhibited excitement about tomorrow, or seeing Santa, or next weeks birthday.
Their time frames are short, but, in all, they exist.
Rarely is a child energised for long while being in the moment. Instead, one could say, that a child becomes "content" in the moment and "excited" about the future.
Adults develop longer time frames for being "excited" about the future. Usually adults can see further into the distance and therefore think further ahead than children.
It has been shown conclusively that there is a great calm in the Now. People who cannot find contentment in the present moment struggle with happiness. Ambitious and always wanting, they usually burn out or become addicted to stimulants. An unsustainable life model.
It has also been shown that people who can find contentment in the present moment, lose energy rapidly and find it hard to "play" in the real world.
For most of my adult life I had a recurring nightmare.
I'd be in a ravine, running, playing when suddenly I'd look up and see an avalanche of rocks coming at me.
I'd try to run, but I was frozen, I just didn't have the strength to move and as I'd watch these boulders tumble down on me, I'd scream with horror.
That scream usually woke my Dad when I was a child and, as an adult frightened the daylights out of my partner in bed next to me.
After 33 years of the same nightmare, sometimes, as a child twice a night for weeks on end, I unravelled the source.
When my mother died, I blamed myself. I was three and goodness knows why I'd hold myself responsible for her death and all the suffering that went on around us. But I did.
I remember her funeral, and the coffin being lowered into the ground, I was three years old.
Continue reading "Going Deep - Deep Personal Awareness - Dreams" »
Extended periods of relaxation are unhealthy.
This comes as a great surprise to many people who have drawn the conclusion that healing, recovery, balance and rejuvenation take days, weeks or months.
Relaxing time, like talking to friends, watching tv, sun-baking, meditation, partying, chilling out or getting a massage is not effective recovery time. It's like riding a bike from Melbourne to Sydney, you'll get there eventually but why not take a plane?
Relaxing takes a long time because it's not very efficient.
Over a lifetime, relaxation time might add up to nearly 50% of our life. Combine this with ineffective sleep and work practices and things we do that can't be sustained and the 50% might add up to 80% of our lives spent doing things that are, in the end, of no real inherent value to ourselves or others.
Nobody treats us better than we treat ourselves. If we think time is valueless, we are also implying that our live, our contribution and our value is valueless.
I remember sitting under a tree balling my eyes out, deeply saddened by the circumstances I found myself facing. I cried and cried hoping something would change.
I stood and went to therapy all those years ago, hoping something would change.
I went to yoga soon after, all those years ago, hoping something would change.
I then went to Zen and sat very still, hoping something would change
And then after all that, and 10,000 books, I sat under a tree, balling my eyes out, deeply saddened by circumstances I found myself in, hoping something would change.
Then somebody said to me "shit or get off the pot"
How many times have you heard the expression, "keep your chin up." I love http://www.posturepals.com/
It's a fabulous quote because literally it's right, a straight spine changes the way we think.
From time immemorial, Yogi's have twisted and turned their body into all shapes and sizes, and it's now become a health addiction. But originally, the "asana" or body posture shift was only done to allow the meditator to stay perfectly still and upright with good posture for long hours of meditation.
Balance is a much misunderstood concept. The EI, and EQ people will tell you all sorts of crazy stuff about good and bad emotion, but little do they realise their work is still stuck in the moral paradigm of make more good - cause less bad. It's a myth that's pervaded corporate training for 20 years and stems from religious undertones woven into the disguise of "good behaviour."
But what if the push for "be good" at work, causes stuff to go down at home that's destructive to love, relationships and heart driven child care? What if, diversity is just another word for cloning and send the "unwelcome bits" elsewhere.
In my corporate work with the Federal Government of Canada, and with indigenous communities, I've found that the more "values based" the organisation strives for, the more sick the home life of that team or community becomes. Why?
Simply put, in nature, there's two sides to everything, so, good emotions are just the balance of bad ones. Emotional control leads to emotional expression, Emotional Intelligence leads to emotional un-intelligence. The only thing such paradigms achieve is to shut people down on certain expressions of emotions and take them home to the kids. That's like corporate corruption. Suck the good, send home the bad. Is this good leadership? Here's an article from the "journal of psychology" that might help explain matters more clearly.
Continue reading "Pumping Emotional Iron - Why People Need Workers Compensation" »
One of the most common traits I had when I was totally messed up was my inability to sit still. In fact, at the edge of going nuts, sitting still is absolutely impossible.
Why?
In the natural order of things, Spirit controls mind (sense of purpose of vision in life) - Mind controls body (sense of capacity to affect thoughts) and body, controls bowel movements, appetite for orgasm and rather repetitive rudimentary functions, like breathing and heart beat.
Continue reading "Sitting Still - The Perfect Balance Pill" »
There are three things that can kill the best of relationships.
Many people lower their standards in relationship, they live in the notion that, "this is the best I can do" and poor relationship is good enough. But that's a sad place to end up in life.
Compromise:
When two people fall in love there are some powerful chemicals released. These are health giving chemicals and they affect our work, our health, our financial management and children. So, falling in love chemicals are part of our daily health routine.
We take vitamin pills, herbs, medicines and go to massage for health, but the most health giving medicine on earth is falling in love. We are meant to fall in love a lot. It was never intended (please note the chemistry of the body is nature's guidance) for a once of experience or a law of diminishing returns for the first twelve months. Falling in love is meant to be a lifestyle practice - the more often it happens, the more healthy, happy and inspired we are.
For many people, falling in love is an accident. But that's ridiculous. We know how to fall in love anytime, anywhere.
To do what you love and love what you do is a great gift - but more important, it's natural.
The very separation of work and play is a clumsy and irrational way to approach the paradigm of "healthy lifestyle."
When we split life up into work and play, we start the process of "workers compensation" the whole idea of going to the pub after work or going home to a peaceful household stems from this clumsiness. Compensating for ugly work, and ugly work practices outside of work is just a myth that causes much human disaster.
If a person doesn't like work, in other words they'd prefer to be at home playing with the kids, then there's no real training program on earth that's going to motivate them to "love their job" - really. All that'll happen is there will be the occasional moment of "gee I feel nice" but really, underneath it's going to be an uphill battle.
Three balance Killers are:
1/ Leaving for work in the morning looking forward to getting home at night.
2/ Sleep deprivation (comes from incomplete contribution during the day)
3/ Wanting to suck the life-force out of a family in order to compensate for crappy work practices.
This video is intended to provoke some thought
A video you may find interesting.
Here's a nice 5 minute video that'll make sense
When I was 20 I trained about an hour a day, and felt fantastic. By the time I was 30 I needed to train 2 hours a day to still be as fit and healthy as I was when I was 20. When I turned 40, it was up to three hours a day to stay 20 years old in my health. At 50, it takes four hours a day to stay as healthy as I was when I was 20. When I turn 60 I'll spend up to six hours a day exercising.
One might think, "when does he work? But that's just it. When I was 20 it took me 8 hours to do 8 hours work. When I turned 30 it took me 6 hours to do 8 hours work. When I turned 40 it took me 5 hours to do 8 hours work. Now I'm 50, I promise that I do 8 hours work every hour.
Uniquely Australian, highly intuitive and inspired, Chris Walker is on the forefront of radical personal development and change that inspires people to find purpose and to live in harmony with the Laws of Nature.
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